cathodekazim:


Those igbo girls I dated have bn faithful

None of dem dumped me

They are straightforward and honest.
Well cynthia told me pointblank tht if I see someone to marry, I shd go for her, cos of tribal diff, she didn't cheated on me, she lemme knw her stance
Bt yoruba girls will never
Thr way of telln a man to go is by sayin yes to another man, havn secret sex with him and waiting for you to find out

Na dem double date pass, 1 bfrnd in thr school, 1bfrnd in thr house, 1bfrnd in thr street, 1bfrnd in thr place of work, 1 or 3bfrnds on fb, bbm and twitter

Funny you say this but we are in an inter tribal relationship. I don't think tribes have anything to do with our relationship

petiteee:
what was the incident dat u can't tell us U found out he smokes weed or wot and so u stayed coz of wot u wante from him? Really? U are a FRAUDster I wonder y he wants u back sef

He had a kid.

sonofananimal:
don't know if I will ever be in a relationship with a NAIJA WOMAN

You are the most greedy and useless set of WOMAN I have ever seen on this forum

That's why karma will be punishing you people.


ANIMAL

He is aware that I am staying for the project. He doesn't care. He just wants to be here.
I am asking for help to break up with him but no useful advice on this forum.
I will be seeing a therapist

ebode:
Here is my point about your personality. You are wicked and very selfish. Why date him in the first place if you are only satisfying you self. you have messed up the relationship. The only thing for you to do is to end the relationship for your own good. This second time will make thing worse for both of you. You don't fall in love with someone because you fell pity for the person. You love unconditionally.

I was satisfying both of us. We both had sex and liked it. We both talked and shared with each other. But deep down, I knew we could not work out. His kid helped me confirmed that

NemzySeries:

aw sure are we dat hiz not fixxing u as well?

If you are asking if we had sex. Yes!

EgunMogaji:


Is it dripping with gold and crusted with diamonds?

No where in my comment did I mention money. I am an independent woman

mcsnup:
stupidity everywhere you go, how can you start a relationship because you need help wit a project. what happen to asking for help politely, how can you breakup just because you made one silly mistake. the idiot came begging and the fool began fooling. matters of the heart has become an empty platitude, I pity una future whether together or separately.

I didn't start because I needed help.

chigoizie7:






You have to narrate to him the say way u told us all that has happened, how u planned to use him to achieve ur aims which u actually did. After that, he can decide to move ahead.















Btw, I am not wishing u bad, but don't cry fowl when a guy will treat u exactly how u treated dis guy.

I narrated to him EXACTLY what I wanted. Told him I wws using him but he only cried and begged more. The reason its hard for me its because I do have some feelings for him.

mykel231:
On your part,you're a certified gold digger;while Yakub is a very big fool.The next story we'll hear is:"Yakub kills his girl friend out of anger because he couldn't bear the agony of her philandrous life style"!

Yakub has no gold.

hyb33:
Before i blame d o.p....my question is ; why did u think u both cant be together...i guess his konji is nt dat satisfying!!!ma totzzz!!!

He has a kid. I don't want kids

marlockj:



Good for the guy.

Guys Dnt wnt to receive sense,your spent money on a girl you r not married to.

I hv not seen anywhr Whr dating bcums a job,infact you are not evn suppose to pay kobo to any girl.what you should pay is ha rite.

If you wnt to pay money u go pick strt girls, you work on ha,you go ur way she goes.

This is Not about money abeg. Read my updates

Shrekjhon:
Let me just explain this thing as it is for U now and get it straight up!

If your in a relationship because of assistance whichever way it might be Financially or the other way round! That's just so unfair
If you knew you wouldn't have any future together why bother get into it in the first place! Kinda sucks when people are not being straightforward
That Dude Loves you which I guess you do not which is understandable and that summaries Life
If you were being cheated/deceived in a relationship how would you feel?

Now lets get to the complicated part
When you go into a relationship with someone you don't expect everyday to be all lovey dovey!As there are times when things would go sour and you might want to try something new which ofcourse makes us Human! But then you must use your discretion in knowing that Lustful actions are just a waste of time as the time used in your lustful ways could be used in Saving your relationship

How do you think people that get married stay for 80years or 70 or 60! U think say na Beans?

But then again you have never seen a future with that person but still your in the relationship!

NB: Just tell him to his face that ''Look I have only been in this relationship because of your assistance'' since your cold blooded!
Hate reading things like this Annoys the Hell outta me

Make your intentions clear

Kai

He knows I only stayed for his assistance but he said he loves assisting me anyway

NemzySeries:
u tuk advantage of his assistance to ur project which might b financial or ordawise & nw u wanna leave him 4 a new guy abi...y didn't u totally switch to d new guy & make him continue frm were ur Ex stopped in terms of assistance?......u guys risk ur entire life jst bkos of sum worthless finz....do u av idea ow wat nxt he has in mind?...wat if d dude goes fetish on u?.......dis life is more dan jst taking advantage of pple Õoº°˚ ˚°ºoo

Because yakub is a mechanic. He's fixing my car.

Resilience:
Why do good guys always fall for bad girls and vice versa?? Op his purpose in your life has been fulfilled so leave his life peacefully and stop tormenting him, he will get over you. Pray u don't get poured acid though

That's what I asked, how do I leave him?

alaskido:
This girl na Witch craft o. How can you loose interest? Na sports? You just dey play with this guy heart because he is in love with you. You see what happened to one girl who cheated on her man. She was stabbed on the neck and she died instantly. Make you dey play with Celebobo heart.

I lost interest because I found out he had a kid. I don't want to be a mum

tiwiex:


I pictured a broke Yakubu too. Lol. If you knew it won't work, why use him to finish your project? That's heartless of you. Making him invest more while you were out. And you met a replacement 3 months before he called it quits. Wicked babe. Fear woman oh. He didn't beg due to lack of self esteem. He begged because he didn't have a chance to breakup and grieve while she had done that since. The begging was him grieving. He will bounce back strong.

Yakubu is not broke but he's not rich either. I help him out with loans for his business at times. He's a business man so its up and down for him while I earn a monthly salary. I'm not looking for money here

tiwiex:


Yes she is a parasite. I found that excuse meaaan men. She could have have finished d project with her new bobo. Biatch.

Parasite? someone has decided to help me, I won't go into why I won't marry him because its too specific but being with him is slightly dangerous for me as a person. I can't even visit him.

Lekozy:
I Dont Normaly Comment On Things Like This But I Will Commment ....Why Are U Girls Like This U See A Caring Guy All U Know Is To Use Him. Just Because He Will Help U Look At What U Said About Helping U With Project Now Ur Type Will Be The Same Person That Will Come To Nairaland That Ur Guy Is Cheating On U, Well My Sister Its Will Be Law Of Karma Then. Now My Advice Is Believe In Urself U And Only U Know Whats Best For U ..

Please read my last post. He knows I'm using him.

schumastic:
is guys like this that make me wish i can beat sense into his head....how can ur girl cheat on u and u are still begging her to come back when she is not beyonce,,ah ah u as well op may ur new bf cheat on u as well so u will know how it feels like ode oshe olofo...the guy has a very self low esteem for him to b begging u...rubbish

I am a very pretty girl so maybe that's why

He is aware that I am staying because of the project we are both working on. He read it in my texts. Believe it or not, I am a working woman and have my own money.
I usually do lend him money sef.
The project is a car. We arr rebuilding one of my car engine for fun , he's a mechanic.

He knows I'm staying for just that but he says he just wants to help me. We can have an open relationship if I want. He just wants to stay with me. I have told him point blank. No marriage.


I'm only asking for the way to break up with him.
Thanks

Hello,

I have been dating my boyfriend (call him Yakub) for around 10 months now. When we met, I knew we could never have a future together but I decided to go for it anyway. I am young and i was having fun.

6 Months into the relationship, a very bad incident occurred ( It's related to the reason why we cannot have a future). I couldn't take it. I tried to break up with him but he begged and asked for another chance.I had lost interest in the relationship. I stayed because i was working on a project and he was assisting. I decided that after the project was completed i would break up finally. The project is completed next week.

I met a nice guy 3 months ago and we began casually seeing each other, this weekend. Nothing serious. This weekend Yakub found the texts and was outraged. He broke up with me on the spot. I apologized and told him I understand.

Only for him to call me and beg this evening, saying that he does not mind me seeing other people, he said his life is incomplete without me. He just wants me for me.

I told him NO, but he won't stop. I feel guilty about everything but I also know it wont work out.

Nairaladers, how do I end this>