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Coolgent:
Perhaps he is trying to imitate you since he speak normally with friends.
Children tend to imitate their parents, so try as much as you can not to stammer in his present or tell him you are sick that's why you are stammering and he shouldn't imitate you.
Secondly mingle with him so that he will free with you.

Thanks

JASONjnr:
Hold his hands and ask him to hold his breath while talking.

The best way to stoo stammering is to hold down your breath while speaking.....practicing that for a while will eventually stop it.

Thanks.

nigmarelli:
Greetings Boss. Just help him overcome it. There are proven ways of doing this if he isn't doing it out of fear as you mentioned.
Here's how and this is for you too; learn to hold your breath when you speak. One sentence at a time over time and gradually it would stop or go away on it's own.
Number 2 you guys should take to singing. By singing I mean songs that stretch your vocals not all this crappy Nigerian songs o(well there're Nigerians songs that fall into the stretching of the vocals category) so use those two. Doing this two things cures your stuttering or stammering. Finally pray. Ciao. Tell me how it panned out eventually.

Thanks dear

Goldbw122:
First off, it’s not unusual for kids around 3 to 5 years old to go through phases of stammering, especially when they're excited, nervous, or trying to express more than they can clearly say. The fact that he doesn’t stammer with other kids might suggest it’s more about pressure or emotions than a permanent speech issue.

It’s possible that he feels more nervous or eager to impress when speaking with you or his mom, especially if he senses high expectations.
Try to keep conversations with him calm and slow paced give him time to finish his thoughts without jumping in or correcting him mid-sentence. Also, avoid showing any visible worry when he stammers, because kids can pick up on that energy fast.

As for heredity, stammering can run in families, but environment and emotional dynamics also play a huge role.

The good news is that early intervention works. I’d recommend seeing a speech therapist many specialize in childhood speech patterns and can help guide both your son and the family in the right direction.

With patience, support, and maybe a little professional help, your son can grow out of it and gain strong communication skills.
You're doing the right thing by acting early. 💯

Awesome. Thanks dear. I'll give it a try.

Bahamas95:
Even you it's not too late for you to overcome stuttering, your son could even be the solution to your challenge.

Learn how to talk slowly and calmly most especially when he's around you, children are very fast to copy and paste. The surprising thing about them is that they learn bad habits faster.

Make him feel relaxed when speaking, he's traumatized.

I've learnt something today. Thanks.

aribisala0:
You are right like HIV and COVID

Lol.

Olushylay1:
Don't disturb yourself.
My two daughters did the same thing.With time,it will be resolved on it own.
A four year old child is still learning how to talk.
Tell him to talk gently and not rush himself while talking.
By age 6 to 7,my daughters,stopped the stammering.

Wow, what an eye opener. Thanks dear.

RillJ:
He speaks good with his friends but stutters before the parents especially you the father.
He is traumatized and scared of you especially. The child may only speak with you when he cannot avoid it.

You need to build bond with him and make him feel free around you.
Work on developing friendship and trust with him.
Avoid hash words with him and around him.
Engage him from time to time on informal things- plays, cartoons e.t.c.

Generally, some students may stammer at first but it tends to reduce with which comes with better self-control etc

I appreciate. Thanks.

asfrank:
That it. Culture may differ, I am from Benue so it might be different where you come from.

I'll find out how my culture do it. I'm Igbo. God bless you for your timely advice.

RadianceRR:
Talk to him often, even if he doesn’t reply, use short, simple sentences.

Give him choices (e.g., “Juice or water?”) to encourage speaking.

Don’t pressure him, rather create a calm, loving space.

Sing songs, read picture books daily, and use gestures.

Repeat his words correctly without correcting harshly.

Reduce screen time, face-to-face talk helps more.

Celebrate small wins and be very patient.

If possible, work with a speech therapist early.

Thanks for the encouragement.

papyjaypaul:
I think others have said it here, you are the best teacher. It's a privilege to have a dad and you sir should just give him all the confidence he needs in this world. Someone posted a Steve Harvey video there and if you watched it, you would've seen the stammerer only needed someone to trust in them for them not to stammer. Good luck in your parenting 🙏

Good observation. I'll do my best to encourage him. Thanks dear.

chiboycue:
I don't think it a problem as long as he is able to communicate orally effectively. Just keep encouraging him to excell academically and the sky is his spring board

That's encouraging. Thanks.

ghettochild:
Adaptive observation...
Ur son knows how you to talk n he's trying to sound like you....
You shd tell him to speak well and he shouldn't be afraid of talking to u..
Let him know stammering isn't good...
U should even tell him how it hindered, maybe he will adjust

Alright thanks dear

brightk:
@ConcernedDad i have this childhood friend who once suffered from this same issue.. please get coconut.. remove the water and the fruit... do it in such a way that the shell resembles a cup.. let it be his official cup @ home.. he should be using it to drink anything liquid. by Gods grace he will be fine...

Thanks dear.

yesloaded:
.he's afraid of you

The fact that he communicate fluently with his peer shows theres nothing wrong with the young lad

Show him more care and attention and make him free with you, play with him like a little child

Thanks.

jambclick:
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Thanks

Mariangeles:
Sending him to a relative for what exactly?
To get abused into talking straight?

I won't even try it. He is my first son and I want to train him by myself.

papyjaypaul:
That's because he may be afraid of you. It's the fear that makes him look for the right words to say that will not make you angry.

How patient are you when you are inquiring something important from him.

I'm usually calm. Except when he does something bad.

Rubyjade:
Model slow, calm speech: Speak slowly and clearly around him. Let him see that it's okay to take time to express thoughts.

Give him time: Don't finish his sentences or correct him. Let him finish what he’s saying, even if it takes longer.

Maintain eye contact and smile: Show him you're patient and listening, not rushed.

Normalize mistakes: Say things like, "It's okay to repeat sometimes. Everyone does."

Build confidence in private: Use positive affirmations, like:
"You're a great speaker. I love hearing your stories."

Talk one-on-one in low-pressure settings: Maybe during a walk, or while drawing or playing with him.


🚫 AVOID:

- Correcting or pointing out stammering directly.
- Telling him to "slow down" or "take a breath" repeatedly — this can make it worse.
- Showing frustration or anxiety when he stammers.
- Comparing him to others (even siblings)Your concern as a father is a powerful first step in helping your son. Since you know what it’s like to grow up with stammering, you are uniquely positioned to:

Break the cycle, not just by correcting speech, but by creating a safe and confident environment.
Use your personal experience to support him emotionally and prevent the shame or self-doubt that often comes with it.
And again — the fact that he doesn’t stammer with other children is a very strong sign this is something you can successfully address now.

Aw thanks a million times. You don't know how useful this is to me. God continue to bless you.

likita27:
I used to have a daughter that stammers, and I happen to have a stutter as well
She no longer stammers what did I do?
Stammering runs in family.
Ensure no one makes fun of her when she talks. Making fun of them makes conscious of the stutter.
2) allow them to speak, even if they are going to stutter, listen to him,

Thanks.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Is he left handed and you forced him to be right handed.

No. He is right handed.

RadianceRR:
Thanks for sharing. I understand how tough this is. Early help from a good speech therapist and patience at home can really help. Creating a calm space where your son feels safe to speak without pressure is key. You are already doing great by caring so much. If you want, I can share some tips that helped me. Stay strong!

please share it with me. Anything is welcome.

CJStarz:
It's hereditary but guide him by encouraging him to take a deep breath and speak gently.

Thanks.

asfrank:
I also had the same problem while I was a kid, I guess almost the same age. It was serious, I had to stamp my foot on the ground before I could pronounce Mama.
But it is gone now. When I grew up I asked my mom what they did, and I was told I drank water in that small calabash only. I didn't use cup. I asked if anything was added, she told me nothing was added.

It can stop.

Bro please which calabash and how could I get it.

illicit:
Maybe your parents

Just for a few days or weeks

It will make a lot of difference

I'm an orphan.

delishpot:
I know the impulse to bully/ coerce/force him to talk normally would be strong but please don't. If you must correct him, just gently do so cos if you put pressure on him, he will only get worse. Secondly, if he is multi lingual ( being introduced to new language recently) it might trigger stuttering and with time he will settle in. Just encourage him to think about what he wants to say and not rush his words.

Thanks for your advice.

Firebox123:
any time from now you'll see the post on frontpage

Thanks. Nlfpmod, Dominique.

Jamahyel:
Teach him to talk slowly.

He speaks fluently when conversing with his fellow kids, but if he wants to speak to me, especially when I'm inquiring something important from him.

Kingking001:
He should start eating LIZARD.

What does it mean? Does it stop someone from stammering?

JAOS:
Lol 🤣 don't mind me
The kid is just trying to adjust to your family communication style(how you speak to him and your wife)
Try reading long passage from newspapers or textbook passage to him and he should also read after you for at least 3 month this should help correct both of you guys speech and make most of your communications with him not be interrogative all the time

Thanks for your help.

JAOS:
Four years hmmm 🤔
Try and make him a little tipsy then observe if he will continue stammering when speaking with any of you a little alcohol should do

Alcohol to a kid? You are not serious.

illicit:
Stammering is a communicable thing, not exactly hereditary....

He just emulates you, maybe you should let him stay with another family where nobody stutters

I've been considering sending him to a relative but he is still young to stay with another person that is not his parents. Not that I Stammers all the time.