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We would like to thank everyone for their responses during this trying time. We have a lot to discuss and we definitely value the opinions of those in this forum, again thank you.

We recently actually just discussed the Dowry for us to be able to wed not with her family it was a conversation between us because I originally didn't know that a dowry was needed for marriage. My girlfriend knew about my kids before we became a couple her parents found out a child at a time. They found out about my oldest last year and my youngest this year. I have 2 children by 2 different women but it was throughout time it wasn't like a one night stand and a child was the result.

My girlfriend has no children and we are barely a year apart in age. We have discussed children of our own and we even planned a future together moving out of state. We had hopes of expanding our business that we created together which her parents don't know about. Her parents have disclosed to her that they no longer want to speak with me at all regarding anything. Somehow I disrespected her parents I still don't even know how!!!

Hello,

While looking for guidance in my current situation I stumbled across this forum. If you’ll have me I would like to ask a question among other Nigerians who may have dealt with an issue such as this. Thank you…

I am an African American man who is in love with an American born Nigerian (Yoruba) woman. We have been together for over a year and a half and everything has been great. We have talked about marriage but we wanted things to progress further in our lives. I have studied about the culture and have met her parents even spent weekends with her parents everything seemed great.

The drawback to all of this is that I have children from previous relationships. When it was discovered that I had one child nothing was said when my other children were brought up nothing came about either. After our year and a half anniversary her parents told her we do not want you with him any longer. They say that it’s because I have children yet a lot of time went by as in almost 6 months since they found out about my children.

Right now we have been going through issues with this because her parents have threatened to disown her if she stays in a relationship with me and I am horribly distraught. My entire family loves her and no one ever expected anything like this to come about. Before we even began our relationship she knew of my children. Throughout our relationship she has formed a very close bond with my children and we have had no issues of our own.

Her parents hate the fact of her being with me and we don’t know what to do about it. I originally told her to side with her family because who am I to stand in-between her and her family but at the same time she has become “MY” family. She is so afraid of being disowned by her family that she has no words of this situation. Please someone any opinion would help I have not a clue how to look at this situation.

Thank You