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But real estate agent don cast her na.

So many EreluRoz out there smh

Best relationship so far between a present governor and his predecessor.

DEXTROVERT:
After
Bed
Next
Is Table

Then

Against the wall


Then

Sonofgod1990:
She's in sifia pain right now. No agbadu and cassava for her to chop

She think she can disguise with a new monika. She's iyaebe and iconicR

Sonofgod1990:
Dis Man rest

That is Iyaebe disguising with this monika after supporting Tinubu with her previous monikas.

Goddyrichie:
see ur English sef why u Dey hate ur fellow man did fireboy abuse anyone with his words enemy of progress

Na iyaebe be dat ooo Tinubu nairaland women leader. She came back disguising with this monika

santaclaws:
In Oba Solomon's voice: "iku pa e!".
You are gone bro... 😁

😂 you are wicked bro

a4turitoroman:
Handi

That's good

a4turitoroman:
She's planning on flirting with Kelly to see kassia reaction. Lol

Who?

chiagozien:
I don't think it was his intention of marrying her, but because he got her pregnant which what is forcing him to marry her.

Only get to know this yesterday when we talked.


Do you expected me to tell him,hey bro that your pregnant girlfriend you want to marry,I had sex with her?

I telling him I dated the girl for three months, and the reason I ended things with her should give him enough pictures.

Yes, you are right since you told him you dated her that's enough since pregnancy is already in the picture. You have sincerely done your part and it's obvious he's ok with it. If he ever asked any further questions be truthful to him and if he doesn't then you maintain your lane but it's not wise to be close to them. Keep some distance

chiagozien:
You did see screenshot where he said he didn't know I was dating her.



What do you think made him say that?



I don't care people see through me I only did the right thing.

I just saw it now. If you've TRULY told him without cutting corners kos I see where you wrote you can't tell him you had sex with her which means you were shady in your revelation and cleared the air and he sees nothing wrong in it that's cool. But you should keep some distance from them so as to avoid suspicion and other things

chiagozien:
I already did


https://www.nairaland.com/8210210/told-cousin-hes-marrying-ex

Bro you didn't tell him anything. You said nothing and you are saying he should decode. I'm beginning to see through you.
Some of una get heart sha. I'm the last to betray a fellow niga kos of some wayword bitches mehn. This one is even family sef. I cut cap for some of you.

johnog4sure:
For the first time in my life I regreted not advising somebody when I should, yesterday when I saw your post I should have adviced you but I always assumed people know what is right. It is the girl you have to talk to and not guy, if she asks you to keep it a secret fine, she will most likely choose this option, if she would like you to tell him then so be it.

So make she collabo with the lady to lead his cousin on? It's good you didn't give this annoying advice. It's obviously paternity fraud go remain with us kos some men are even enablers
Peace

chiagozien:
After reading people's opinions on my first thread,I decided to do what I think is necessary.

The first thread👇👇
https://www.nairaland.com/8208805/cousin-marry-ex-should-tell/4#131946429

I called my cousin yesterday night,To find a way to drop the bombshell.

I tried to indirectly tell him about my past with the girl so that he won't see it as if I am not happy for him or am trying to paint it on his face.
And for him to be the one to decode that I had an affair with her the past.


I started by tell him that I think he's too fast about the marriage thing, that how can he rush in marriage with a girl he just meet about three months ago,that the girl is living here in the city and you are in our home town.

He now told me he knows the girl for long, through all this youth activities in church before the girl moved to City.
(They were not dating )

I told him even at that you still need to get to know her(still trying to find a way to Drop my bombshell)
Before he now drop a bombshell for me rather.

He told me the girl is pregnant for him, that's why he try to pay her bride price before people start noticing her pregnancy.

That he had in mind to tell me that this night.
This i believe he haven't told anyone, even his parents.
From my observation no one in the family seems to know about that part.

Hearing that I was speechless but I have to find a way to accomplish my objective for the night.


I have to tell him,"well the girl is not a bad girl with the little know her when we were together"
(I can't come and tell him I had sex with her,is left for him to figure it out)

That the only issue I had with her is she too dey love and over possessive.
That any time we are going together,she will be asking me why I look the other girl and those stuffs.

Which was the reason I stopped talking/Ghost her in December.

We talk about other stuffs and I hung up With the hope he gets the message I dey try pass.



Which he got and we later chat.

He even invited me for the introduction and paying of bride price.



I appreciate those that threw their advice yesterday.

Those that advice contrary to my decision,I see your reasons too.


God bless una.

I suspected you will come with the pregnancy ish which made me now believe it's fiction 😂. I also know you don't intend telling him from your yesterday's response. Do whatever pleases you if your conscience is at rest and accept whatever it brings to you in future kos it'll surely boomerang. Enjoy

chiagozien:
I just got out from call with my cousin.


There's a new development

I will create another thread for it

Have you told him?

One surprising thing about this thread is that it's even the men encouraging women like the ops ex girlfriend to keep playing this type of game and misadvising op and it's clear women are still top of their games despite the redpill awareness.

Another surprising thing is it's even the women that are very brutal with the truth and condemning such act from their fellow.
Paternity fraud isn't ending anytime soon and it's obvious some weak men are enablers. One was even saying carry the secret to your grave, like seriously? It is finished

Fuckyoumod:
whether she is your ex or not is not the primary concern here.

Somebody slept with her before you met her, but within the period you were with her, was she a girl of good character? Does she have certain qualities that shows she is good enough for your brother or will make a good wife?

If yes, keep quiet and take whatever you did with her to your grave and stay away from her romantically. No more nacking!

If no, Omo go to your bro and let him know she is not the right person for him with all your reasons and sexual escapade. Because, that's why you are his bro. You watch out for each other against whores and damaged women.

Na so una dy fall for women games, what is good about a girl that bold date two cousins or you didn't read where he said this same girl is still professing love to him on how he loves him and not his brother?
Why do you even think he should keep quiet even if she's a good girl and which good girl keeps fucking around a particular family? No real man keeps secret with a woman bro, they are not married and he should tell his cousin everything make the babe go look for another man entirely. Very bad to carry secrets into marriage.
Na this type of thing Dy still make women succeed for paternity fraud. You dy advise guy make he keep quiet and carry secrets to grave over a shameless lady. Men redpill is a necessity I swear.

All stories like this I knew didn't end well and I sighted some above.

manmade:
just exactly my thoughts, even there is a portion of the marriage oaths that required you to either talk when it's still permissible or keep quiet forever.

He can still talk, it's not yet a marriage, not even engaged but still boyfriend and girlfriend. That babe is using two men's head to achieve her aim. Did you read she's still telling op she loves him more and wants him but his cousin was the available one for marriage and she ruthlessly grab him without even thinking it through if it's right to date two cousins

lebron7:
Lol
Now she has the advantage, because one day she will surely tell him and there will be bad blood between you and your cousin.

She never get the advantage for now till she succeeded in deceiving both of them and getting married and by then she now has upper hand over op. If op reveal the truth to his cousin now it'll save him a lot from this trap. Sometimes I'm amazed how some guys can't easily spot out the games women play, imagine this woman boldly playing two cousins and she already has op by his balls except he do the needful fast. Women are brutal ooo

chiagozien:
I got your point.


I will reach out to my cousin this evening when I am back from work.

That's good and the right thing to do. In the long run you'll be glad you did and your cousin will forever trust and love you more. Also the lady will realize later in life that it was wrong to have dated your cousin after dating you and she'll appreciate you for doing the right thing and even respect you more.

chiagozien:
Having sex with her will never happen.
I can't touch someone's wife talk more of my cousin's wife.


Why I am considering to keep this between us is because I and my cousin are not from the same kindred,My mother and his mother is siblings of the same parents.

My mom happened to marry from her town but cousin's mom married an Enugu man who have lived most of his life in our state/town, Which is where he birthed and raised all his children, And still currently living.


So I dey believe (for my mind) that some days me and my cousin will be brothers from afar.


I will try to call the girl this night to know if she told him.

Try to call the girl this night or your cousin? You don't even have business with her for now, it's your cousin you should be calling and not her or are you expecting her to tell you to go ahead and tell your cousin? You are displaying weakness bro.
It's your cousin you should reach out to and let the girl be the one to call you after she's aware of the revelation and you should be bold to tell her that you had to do the needful, pray a short prayer for her and cut the call. In the long run everyone will be alright and you'll even earn their respect especially your cousin.
The person you should be looking out for is your cousin and not her but you are still displaying weakness by saying you'll call her this night, is it to seek her consent to letting out the truth at the detriment of your cousin or you want to have an agreement with her into deceiving your cousin. Abeg grab your balls already

chiagozien:
Alright thanks

But I am really confuse here.
I don't want to make enemy from any of them.

I have decided to reach out to the girl this night to know the level of our friendship she told him.

Bro you no get business with the girl for now, the person you should reach out to is your cousin and not the girl. Also forget about the level they've gone as long as they are not yet married your cousin must know the truth. You should stop communicating with the girl, tell your cousin everything and let him be the one to confront the girl and if she reaches out then boldly tell her that you have no option than to do the right thing and don't allow long conversation over this. Do the needful to avoid a bigger damage tomorrow
Chiagozien when dealing with women learn to do the right thing boldly without seeking their consent else you'll be lead into a trap that may consume you. Real men don't keep secrets with women.
What should be your concern now is letting your cousin know now and not who will make enemy out of the truth. The truth is your cousin will like you more after this and will trust you most with anything but the lady will initially see you as bad but as time goes on after she find another man she'll even start seeing wrong in what she did and appreciate you for boldly doing the right thing.

Chiagozien, there's another case similar to this that happened in my family as well. My cousin in the US army was dating this girl in Nigeria, he came down home for engagement, then there's this other cousin of ours that came too and during conversation, he showed us the picture of this lady and my other cousin asked if this is the girl he came down to engage and he said yes. He outrightly told him it's not possible kos he has dated the girl before and bleeped her severally, my cousin now confronted his fiance and she couldn't deny it and that was how everything ended. She's married to another person now with kids, my cousin is also married to another lady with kids as well, no secrets, no guilty conscience anywhere. Everyone moved on with an entirely different person. So please let your cousin know now to avoid future problems

There's one thing about keeping secrets like this, it always rare it's ugly head when you least expect. So speak now and let everyone look for another person to marry.

chiagozien:
Noted


As for the okafor's law,it will never going to happen.
I am done is I am done.

You really don't know how this thing works, those people that fell into the okafors law once sweared with their life that it can't happen but it happened before their very eyes. Now it's not even about the okafors law but the betrayal you are doing to your cousin. Tell him now and it's not late kos they are not married. Believe me you will always feel guilty whenever you see them after marriage. Don't listen to anyone telling you to keep quiet. Things like this has a way of leaking out. Tell your cousin now and let the lady look for another man, her destiny is not tied around your family.
There are some lifetime trouble you can prevent now by telling your cousin the truth but keeping quiet and leading him on in betrayal will eventually bring that lifetime trouble

Chiagozien, the reason I have been strongly insisting you tell your cousin and let the lady go look for a different man is there's a case that broke a marriage like this after two kids.
What happened is this, this man was secretly dating his wife's cousin but it wasn't sexual relationship, so this man's friend was looking for a wife and the man arranged this his wife's cousin that was his secret girlfriend for his friend, they got married and have two kids, one day the husband found an old implicating love message between both( I love you and I love you more exchange) then everything was let loose, confrontations were made and the wife confessed everything that happened and she insisted it was a no sexual relationship but the husband felt betrayed and divorced her. He cut off from this his best friend and they became a lifetime enemy. You can imagine the damage this has caused for a relationship that wasn't even sexual not to talk of the one you knacked and got tired of. No man will knowingly marry a woman his cousin has fvcked and it's a very big betrayal if you keep it a secret and allow them get married. You owe your cousin the truth now and let him take the decision. Let me ask you this, can you marry a girl your cousin has fvcked? Your answer and how you feel about it should let you do the needful. Don't listen to anyone saying you should keep quiet, that's a very big betrayal.
Let the lady go and marry an entirely different man, her destiny is not tied around your family

Emmy000seun:
You are saying this out of jealousy that the relationship is leading to marriage... when you needed to talk in the first place you get mute..and now that things is going smoothly between them you think you don't want to betray your brother...oga just lock up and play neutral and be happy for them

Lock up ke, what sort of advise is this? Are they married yet? Ss long as they are not yet married he should talk ooooooooo kos the girl even told him she prefers him over his cousin and that means she can still decide to continue knacking him after marrying his cousin, there are secrets you don't take into marriage. No man will knowingly marry a woman his cousin has bleeped tired and if he keeps shut that's the highest form of betrayal which can cause a bigger damage later in life. He should tell his cousin and let the lady look for another man, her destiny is not tied around their family. Chiagozien go and tell your cousin everything now ooo before they get married

MrBrownJay1:
the above is the definition of.....why fear enemies when you have family members like the OP?

when you needed to talk, you kept quiet, and now that you need to keep quiet, you wanna talk... KAI!!!

It's still not late for him to talk bro, they are not married yet and her destiny is not tied around that family. Remember she boldly told him she still prefers him over his cousin that she intends marrying which is a big redflag kos knacking may continue after she married his cousin because she preferred op. Women are very dangerous and ruthless

galantjoe:
Mind your business
Since the guy in question has no known bad character
Just mind your business

Since you didn't talk when your opinion was sought. Your cousin has made decision base on your feedback and you want to scatter his plan which of course he has invested so much on it, so don't say anything. Bury in it with yourself.

Very bad advise. His cousin needs to know and he can take the decision for himself after knowing the truth. You sef won't like to marry someone your cousin Have bleeped several times and ontop that she boldly told him he prefers him over his cousin that she wants to marry and that's a big red flag that they can continue secretly fucking after the marriage. Chiagozien don't take this advise please. This is how some of you create lifetime enmity with silly mistakes of keeping quiet and minding business when you should have talked.
Chiagozien it's not late to tell your cousin everything kos her destiny is not tied around your family

TheBillyonaire:
Your cousin is your blood and the wife will soon be your in law, so it is best to have an understanding. You do not want to create two enemies out of friendships you currently have.

So invite the lady and have a talk with her. And assure her that your past relationship will stay a secret as long as she does not inform her husband. That remains part of your secret life with her.

I am not saying tomorrow you can not use that against her to navigate the borehole in Okafor's law. I am just saying that silence is to your advantage but then there is a knife dangling around your neck.

I do not see your cousin proceeding with the marriage knowing you already enjoyed the prime pussy.

This is where most of you get it wrong, you don't take secrets into marriage especially secrets like this and believe me it'll surely leak one day. Op inform your cousin about your past sexual relationship with her and let him be the one to decide whether to continue or end it kos if he eventually find out he'll hate you for life kos you are a betrayal. Let her go and find a new man, her life is not tied around your family

greggng:
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No one is perfect ...only God can judge . A certain friend of mine was in his house when an Europlane crashed on top of there house and he died ....Death can meet us anywhere ....Let's not blame the dead. Continue to rest our dear Gazzuz
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