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SpencerForbes:
That mindset is gonna wreck your relationship , LOL. 😂
If you’re thinking about tying the knot, you seriously need to dial back those expectations of people. Everyone changes! When you first start dating, you’re all pumped up, and that adrenaline totally blinds you—you miss all the flaws. Then, once you get comfy, you realize she’s not the person you started with. She's different, and then you get bored.
Hmm
Most times I keep it low…

But this ladies will take it has I don’t show them enough love. Maybe it’s a manipulative way of love bombing

But really I am mentally tired of the stress of thinking of some else.

Seeem I am built to be a loner.


Actually my parents have been putting this kind of pressure on me…. And I blatantly told them that they should not expect anyone

So, here’s the move: keep your dating expectations low and don't get too familiar too fast. Chill out for a few days, don't text, and focus on your own stuff. When she’s around, cool, she’s yours. But the second she’s busy? Go live your life. After about three years, you two will probably figure each other out and settle into a routine.

Helpout12345:
You are learning. We were all in that stage with women before we fully understood them and their nature.

Women cannot love any man apart from their biological son, brother and father. They love their biological son 100pct, their brother 60 to 70pct, their father 50pct. Any other man in this world, they cannot love him. They only follow you for what they can benefit.

Helpout12345:
Have you heard this before?

Women are always in business, while men are in love.

sabbiboi:
Hmmmm…
She was never into you as a prospective lover. Anybody can possibly be financially broke at anytime. It shows she didn’t see any quality more to you, than a meagre request of data at the start of a relationship. Then she concluded you can’t afford it, and ended the relationship.

There are more qualities to a man than what he can provide financially at the moment. She never saw any quality.

adelafe2019:
In Nigeria of TODAY, if you are broke to the extent of being unable to afford about 1k-2k or borrow it to subscribe data for a new girlfriend that make such demand for the first time, then you are not yet ready to have a girlfriend .
FIRST IMPRESSION LAST LONGER.

harqinhola:
My guy , fixing your finances is a powerful step but love isn’t tied to your wallet.

Let’s be real: if she were truly better off financially, she wouldn’t be asking you for something as small as a data subscription. Don’t hustle just to impress! make moves for you, not to win approval. You deserve someone who wants you, not just what you provide.

The fact that you can’t offer a data plan shouldn’t ever make her question your love. If that’s a deal-breaker, maybe she’s in it for the gains, not the genuine connection.

Love yourself first ! Hustle for yourself !