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I will stop here, so I don’t derail this thread. You have made some important points. 


“Keep quiet there.” - Insult. Typical of vulgar people who can’t hold a simple conversation

“Who know if he's abusive or has other issues no one knows about?” - Assumption 


“his own sick fantasy” - assumption


“mother will be somewhere living the single life and might re-marry another man who has no kids for her to look after,” - assumption



“this 17-yo girl will be stuck being a stepmom to her three kids” - Assumption.


“With all these discrepancies, you're telling me this would be an okay situation for this girl to go into? “ - I already answered this - Yes, the situation is not what the girl wants, i hope she can get out of it, - if you read my original message.


“you're probably a pervert “ - Insult. Typical of level 2 vulgar people.


This is not about the man, even OP did not cast aspersions on man’s character.

We do not have any information to castigate the man, just because he is 43.

Ask your dad, he also wants a younger wife.



If e pain you, help the girl out, that’s out focus.



The end.

TheGoodAmerican:
Keep quiet there.

She is 17-years old and is just about to get her life started. He's 43.

He has 3-kids. She has none and is most likely still a virgin.

His wife abandoned him with those 3-kids. Who know if he's abusive or has other issues no one knows about? Worse, this girl should go ahead and marry him, abandon her own dreams in order to fulfill his own sick fantasy, and be a stepmother to another woman's kids? Let's not forget that the mother will be somewhere living the single life and might re-marry another man who has no kids for her to look after, meanwhile this 17-yo girl will be stuck being a stepmom to her three kids.

With all these discrepancies, you're telling me this would be an okay situation for this girl to go into? If you see nothing wrong with that or all of the above, then you're probably a pervert yourself and ought to be locked up. Rubbish.

TheGoodAmerican:
He should be ashamed of himself. Someone 26-years his junior. She's probably close to his children's age, if she's just 17 right now, meaning she's young enough to be his child. Shame, shame on him. Chase him away the next time he comes there, or better yet, call the police on him. I hope you can update us/me on how she's doing and whatever you've decided as per her education.

I hope you feel this same way when you are rejected from a job you can do because of age. There no shame in marrying someone younger. It’s not an indication of bad character.

Yes, the situation is not what the girl wants, i hope she can get out of it, but e no mean say the man na wicked man. So far, we no nothing of the man except his age.

OP, i advise you create a whatsapp group to add all people that have indicated interest.

Then you can move things on from there and coordinate. Then give periodic updates to the nairaland thread. Nairaland can get rowdy at times.

Also it’s going to help you know who is serious and who is just posting message out of passion of moment. ( i know everyone has good intentions).

Also help to avoid- so Mr Lagbaja gave you 100k and you did not tell me 😂

Happy to help out also. OP feel free yo DM. Happy to collaborate with these folks to get her through school 🦾

geegee08:
God bless you and everyone here who has offered to support.

If you will coordinate, I will be happy to support once the story is confirmed to be true, to assist this young lady get a chance at a good life. I am willing to support her through University if she is willing to take and pass her UTME, by the mercies of God, seeing as she is quite intelligent and industrious - with what the OP said about her WAEC grades.

OP should tell the Mum that there are some faceless individuals offering to support them; and that the Mum should not jeopardise the child's future by marrying her off to a certainly dark future.

Please dm me once the story is confirmed to be true so we can arrange to videochat with the OP and his sister and take it from there.

I will try to check this space at least twice weekly for updates.

PS: I just saw that some people e.g. @gaby had already proposed educational support - God bless you too. I will be happy to partner with you all. I'm quite busy and no time to read through all the comments so far.

Kobojunkie:
Again, Look at this one continuing to assert that the delusions that taint his perception of reality applies as far as everyone else.

Just dey play ooh…

Corolla03dud:
Well, the title may be overambitious, but I just got this 03 Corolla LE with over 233,000 km for uber and I'll like to make it the best it can be, man needs to eat. Been fixing minor stuff, but the major now is the engine. Owner is forming 'busy' to tell me the exact oil weight he used but I want to return it to manufacturer spec 5w30. But I suspect sludge build up already (oil cap has sludge under and engine cover has some seepage around it). Engine drives better after I put plugs closer to manufacturer spec but I feel vibration at 3rd gear now and more vibration at reverse). Also, I could see some oil signs around the plug when I took them aout after about 3weeks of usage for some reason, is that a seriously bad thing? Also, I had blue smoke after second oil change to 20w50 (ddnt know about oils then). But there was no smoking when I bought the car this Jan. Oil shorts now too. So my plan is to first change to full synthetic 5w30 mobile, see if smoking stops. If not, then look at gasket and oil seals (pls who has an idea of the price?). For the sludge I am hoping synthetic oil will help a lot, but I'm reading stuff about scraping oil pan and valve. Please any advice /assistance is appreciated, please I can't afford to loose an engine in this hard time, wey schl fees don reach sef. Thanks.

Cc GAZZUZZ Sir, what re your thoughts?

[quote author=dru23 post=66433649][/quote]Lol..no not on my car, just generally.

dru23:
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But I get people say the engine is going already and I should not bother switching to full synthetic, something about the oil flowing through spaces etc. So confused sef.

[quote author=dru23 post=66429981][/quote]But I get people say the engine is going already and I should not bother switching to full synthetic, something about the oil flowing through spaces etc. So confused sef.

mayor2013:
You want to kill an already dying engine. Safe your self the cash of doing synthetic since engine is already smoking. Check for external oil leaks. As for plugs get wet by oil. Replace valve cover seal. Does the blue smoke continuously comes out even on motion. You need to do a smoke test 101 to confirm this. Good luck

I get that comment of killing a dying engine a lot but don't understand it. I smoke stops when engine is warm and in motion, does that mean it's just seals? Any idea of the cost of valve seals?

dru23:
I had similar experience... I had sludge build up in my elantra.. My mechanic had to take the engine out, clean out sludge and sleeves, use kersone to clean up the engine sludge.. And add new oil wash it up and put another set of new oil total oil..
The car had to sit for a week with little driving, so that the oil will circulate very well... after that the car is running fine so far o. So to avoid sludge build up again use synethic oil either mobil 1 or castrol full synethic oil.. Just make sure u use full synethic of any quality brand... I will start importing my own oil from the states soon.
And also it is highly advisable to use full synethic oil on other cars coz of the high millage ... but people don't listern at all, it cost me 24k to clean the sludge out of my car .. Four cars had sludge in it. People will also tell you that mineral oil is ok too , just that you have to change the oil frequently.... But car manufacturers will advise you to prolong your engine stick to full synethic oil at all times... but we Nigerians always know better than car manufacturers... don't be penny wise and pound foolish once you get the car fix fully.. Use full synethic oil or better yet follow car manufacturers recommendation.

Thank you very much, full synthetic all the way! Thanks

Well, the title may be overambitious, but I just got this 03 Corolla LE with over 233,000 km for uber and I'll like to make it the best it can be, man needs to eat. Been fixing minor stuff, but the major now is the engine. Owner is forming 'busy' to tell me the exact oil weight he used but I want to return it to manufacturer spec 5w30. But I suspect sludge build up already (oil cap has sludge under and engine cover has some seepage around it). Engine drives better after I put plugs closer to manufacturer spec but I feel vibration at 3rd gear now and more vibration at reverse). Also, I could see some oil signs around the plug when I took them aout after about 3weeks of usage for some reason, is that a seriously bad thing? Also, I had blue smoke after second oil change to 20w50 (ddnt know about oils then). But there was no smoking when I bought the car this Jan. Oil shorts now too. So my plan is to first change to full synthetic 5w30 mobile, see if smoking stops. If not, then look at gasket and oil seals (pls who has an idea of the price?). For the sludge I am hoping synthetic oil will help a lot, but I'm reading stuff about scraping oil pan and valve. Please any advice /assistance is appreciated, please I can't afford to loose an engine in this hard time, wey schl fees don reach sef. Thanks.

Well, the title may be overambitious, but I just got this 03 Corolla LE with over 233,000 km for uber and I'll like to make it the best it can be, man needs to eat. Been fixing minor stuff, but the major now is the engine. Owner is forming 'busy' to tell me the exact oil weight he used but I want to return it to manufacturer spec 5w30. But I suspect sludge build up already (oil cap has sludge under and engine cover has some seepage around it). Engine drives better after I put plugs closer to manufacturer spec but I feel vibration at 3rd gear now and more vibration at reverse). Also, I could see some oil signs around the plug when I took them aout after about 3weeks of usage for some reason, is that a seriously bad thing? Also, I had blue smoke after second oil change to 20w50 (ddnt know about oils then). But there was no smoking when I bought the car this Jan. Oil shorts now too. So my plan is to first change to full synthetic 5w30 mobile, see if smoking stops. If not, then look at gasket and oil seals (pls who has an idea of the price?). For the sludge I am hoping synthetic oil will help a lot, but I'm reading stuff about scraping oil pan and valve. Please any advice /assistance is appreciated, please I can't afford to loose an engine in this hard time, wey schl fees don reach sef. Thanks.