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NoPhone, No Marriage
Compared to the previous generation, ours is more knowledgeable.The advancement across the different frontiers of our existence is one the previous generation would admire.The area of marriage may be an exception in this regard for humanity has never recorded the current statistics on divorce. So what is the point of disconnect?How do we reconcile the increase in knowledge, marriage experts and marriage seminars with the increasing divorce rate?

The point of disconnect simply lies in our values.They are fast changing under the aegis of freedom and rights.Some very important natural laws that urshered the orderliness for peaceful coexistence between husband and wife are being misconstrued as unfair to one gender.Unrealistic demands are consequently being brought to the nuptial table.Most often,these demands sound nice but of what use is it when their results are far from being nice?

In recent times,it has become nice for people to respect each other's privacy while courting,Our phones have become sacred altars fit for the exclusive worship of our eyes and fingers only.Like our genitals,it has become private and personal.To maintain understanding between an intending couple,they think they must respect each other and keep their phones at bay.This practice is simply a disaster loading.......

While it may be appropriate to respect each other's phone when the relationship begins,at a certain level of commitment (at courtship) where the intention to get married is established,If you don't have an unhindered access to each others phone,don't get married.

Does it not sound ridiculous to you that one who would feast on your privates while you lay naked is being prohibited from assessing your phone? Truth is,the reason you keep your phones away from each other is because there's something therein that'll stop you from getting married.So, why would you want to get married at all cost only to contribute to the growing statistics of divorce?.As trival as this may seem,you have to tell yourself the truth and move on if need be for if you lie to yourself in courtship, truth will confront you in marriage!.
#Letusbreakbread
Akoji Austine Obaje is the BreadBreaker!.

Ejemehn:
Hi solomoncater, I need urgent information on travel requirements to new Zealand. I have admission for PhD study at UC. Been looking for the New Zealand embassy in Lagos. Was told they do not have an embassy in Lagos.

However, what are the things to know regarding getting a visa to new Zealand?

brother,how far? .Have you resumed?,please I'd need info as I am considering a PhD in the same school.What do I need to know?

nwaozzugwor:
That car is my personal car... Soooo neat ..250k is poor.... Add more

pls can we see the interior?Its obvious the car was sprayed innit?. I am interested sir.I am the one that'll eventually buy it

jamieautorsport:
Still on for Sale.

pls is the car still available?where is your location?

This is a sequel to my previous post titled "My Husband,My Compromise"Read and be blessed.


My Wife, My Glory.

Dear son, those changes in your body ushers your transition into manhood.Don't assume it is what makes you a man for the process is an inevitable and effortless one.To become a 'man' takes effort.

With these bodily changes comes the desire to be with a woman at least to satisfy your raging sexual urge.Some will be controlled by that urge while others will control the urge.The latter are the real men.Decide to be one.

When you eventually settle with a woman for a wife,consider your position a rare privilege.This is because by accepting your proposal,she declared you winner of so many battles she fought on your behalf.She met other men who were far more handsome,richer and intelligent than you are yet decided to settle for you.It is an indication that she sees and believes something about you that you probably don't know .If you treat her right,the best part of your life just began.

To treat her right,you must understand her.She communicates a lot by not communicating at all.When she ignores you,she needs you to ask her what is wrong.If you ask her and she says 'NOTHING' with an attitude,she wants you to probe further.If you don't, irrespective of how much money you spend on her,she'll consider you as uncaring.

She probably will say a lot she does not mean.Learn to separate her speech and statements from her convictions.If she thought you were that bad,she wouldn't have married you in the first place.

Never compare her with any woman,she likes to think that you see her as the best in the world.If that other woman is that good, its her husband doing a good job.You just admitted that you aren't and that the other man is a better husband than you are.

When she begins to live with you, you'll see her beyond the appealing gait and posh that attracted you. You'll see her 'finish'.She may not be as impeccable as she first presented herself....no one is. Don't use her flaws against her,rather help her improve.Remember she's also dealing with alot of your flaws,it is out of respect shes not saying anything about most of them.She knows you more than you think and there's a lot she's not saying for 'peace-sake'

She has the capacity to magnify and multiply things.She's a processor,an archive and a factory .She would process your sperm into babies.As an archive,she may store up you faults and unleash them if you offend her....don't take it to heart.As a factory,she'll give you finished products from your raw materials.....If you are abusive ,she may be more abusive.If you love her relentlessly,she'll choke you with love.She's simply the program while you are the programmer.

When she's pregnant,her body would change,she may still make up and look good to outsiders but you alone are exposed to the 'terrible' habits that comes with pregnancy.Remember she's making you a father-a feat you cannot accomplish alone.As for her postpartum body, before you go about raising your shoulder like a proud dad,remember your kids are responsible for it.

Make sure you are her best friend and the one she talks to. Don't give her room to have someone she's more comfortable with to share her pains. A 'new' shoulder may take advantage of her.Women get emotional towards anyone who care and help ease their pain.Don't give another man that priviledge.

However you choose to treat her would show who you truly are.If you treat her like a queen, it shows you are a king.If you treat her like trash, it shows you are a trashcan for 'Nemo dat quod non habet'.

Ever wondered why everytime a man walks into a place with a woman all eyes are fixed on the woman? It is because the woman is the GLORY of the man.Everyone tries to appraise her man using her as his performance indicator .If she looks good and happy,the man is respected for conquering and maintaining such a queen.If she's doesn't, she just exposed his inefficiency and frailties in the league of men.Son, your GLORY is in your hands............decide your future. #letusbreakbread #thebreadbreaker #mywifemyglory

Akoji Austine Obaje is the BreadBreaker.

Khonifer:
Its not about the pepper. Its about the suffering. Things have been put in place to make work easier, but he insisted on the suffering.

He didn't let her use any appliance, washing machines, blenders et all...

Note, this lady is from a rich background, so she didn't understand how someone could be so backward in their thinking. Her words.

Khonifer, its not just about the lady's background.She must have seen the tendencies in him before they got married .He may just be putting her through this to be sure that she can do them before he'll acquire those appliances.Dont assume am in support of his actions.We dont know his orientation and how he grew up.Remember a lot of people have fallen from their high horse financially as time progressed .Every lady should know that when you say yes to a man,you say yes to his mentality.

Pidgin2:
Very nice write-up. Lalasticlala this should be on FP please o

lalasticlala,kindly take heed to pidgin2 's counsel.She's the wise one

Hello everyone,I am convinced you'll learn a thing or two from this.


My Husband, My Compromise.

Dear daughter,in my final submission, a wife means a 'COMPROMISE'.Irrespective of emerging ideologies with the claim to better humanity,nature defined some rhythms that gives us the right perspective.Raise an eagle like a chicken and one day it will take sudden flight when it discovers itself.

A man is wired to be domineering,desiring to be served,his household is his kingdom,his first conquest is his wife,his trophies are his kids.He is a hero within himself.He will protect his kingdom with his life.If outsiders deflates his ego,his last hope is his household.Being manly also rests in the impression that he has authority over his family. In all these,he has a truckload of weaknesses. In this respect,all men are the same.

All men are thesame,yet different.Men are raised under different circumstances which defines their attitudes and perception about things. This account for how they are all different from each other.One of them would become your husband.Husbands are going to come with both rational and irrational demands depending on how he had been raised or taught. Women don't have a problem with the rational parts. The problem is the irrational.Some may require that you serve them food on your knees,wash their clothes when you can afford a drycleaner,pay your salaries into his account every month or even give up your dreams of becoming whatever....the list is endless.Doing what he demands when you don't like it,makes you a compromise.You would have to do some of them in tears.Remember that your sacrifice is to help preserve your family. I know a lot of 'enlightened' women often tell you that if he loves you he must support your dreams.Dont allow those living their compromise advise you not to live yours.Don't be a general at war who takes advice from a book author of war stories. He has a vision for his family. His decisions are in line with his vision. If he insist you to change your dream,go to sleep again.

So,before you go taking those pre-wedding photos,before you customize your jersey with his name on it ,before you 'pepper dem' with titles such as 'his queen', 'his treasure' etc.Take time to find out his perspective towards life and the demands of his 'kingdom'.If he's not worth the potential compromise,don't marry him.So,before you decide to marry any man,don't just get carried away by the symphony of skipped heartbeats resulting from sweet feelings of love.....choose your own COMPROMISE wisely for therein lies a major recipe for the success of your marriage. Your marriage will work........this is my prayer for you.#Letusbreakbread #Myhusbandmycompromise
Akoji Austine Obaje is the BreadBreaker.

If you've heard him preach, you'd know he should dress better than this. The man is excellent inside-out.

I was a regular visitors of NL as a guest for years.I last year and this would be my first post.I hope it makes FP.It has the potential to.Following the obvious lack of decorum on social media,I thought to craft this.I hope you find it humorous yet educating.


I am old school and unapologetic about it. Everyone become old school with time.I appreciate and admire the potentials of the new school and I try so hard to adapt.However, I appeal to be left out on some of their activities and expressions.My school is so old,it is refusing to sink.
1.My birthday is around the corner,please don't wish me happy 'WOMB ESCAPE'.I consider mums' womb a fortress and not a prison.
2.If you love me,kindly say so.I find the expression 'I HEART you' too ridiculous. The heart is a part of the body while love is an emotion. My biology teacher is dead but his impact lives on.
3.Pls don't tag me with those pictures where u turn your back to the camera with emphasis on your bum.Aside being married, I look forward more to having lunch with Chimamanda Adichie than with Kim Kardashian .
4.Unless you danced to Michael Jacksons' THRILLER ,Madonnas' LA ISLA BONITA, and Billy Oceans' CARIEBBEAN QUEEN still gives you the chill,please don't call me your nigger or your hommie. I am not that ' exposed'.Calling me your 'daddy' may be more appropriate.lol
5..Please don't tag me to pictures where you attack your 'haters'.In my generation ,we call people to discuss and resolve issues or better still force them to return by our success and accomplishments.
6.I find 'pepper dem gang' a very witty and funny expression and I like it.Dont use my picture and yours to 'pepper them'.I may need 'them' tomorrow. I won't want 'them' to pour me pepper soup when i need 'them' rather than serve me that with a chilled bottle of malt.
7.Every picture you tag me must have your body especially breast covered.The size, colour,looks etc is not my business if am not your child or your husband.The human eyes seem to have signed a pact with an exposed breast.-They always go there !.
8.Don't bore me with how much church was fun today and how the power of God came down .Tag me with what you did for your neighbour as a result of the impartation you received.
9.Don't sap my reading energy with your announcements of Islam being the religion of peace.I go through your timeline and comments to see how peaceful you 'yourself' are because you are a part of it.
10.Don't find this post offensive or oppressive, if you flout any of these,I won't block or unfriend you. I consider you as one from whom I would learn alot.I appreciate you and hope for a mutually beneficial social media friendhip.
#Letusbreakbread #Everyonebecomeoldschoolwithtime
My 10 Commandments of Love.
~Akoji Austine Obaje;The BreadBreaker!~