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Kingsasian:
I think New Zealand because I teach kids from that country online. Last week, one of the kids was the first person to wish me a Merry Christmas when it was 24th December here, when i checked the time i observed they are exactly 12 hours ahead of us.

Boss how can I get this online teaching job

Prisoners and illegal immigrants………

Register in a gym and burn your self out plus you’d meet new people there since you’re on your leave period

Neptunium:
Get a job, frustrated brokeass. With your bad attitude, it's no wonder them no give you shishii. Go work and stop disturbing people with your entitlement attitude, idiot

You sound pained lol, I work and I earn enough to care for my family, my thread is not of entitlement but a survey to see how polygamous play out in other family you dumb fool who couldn’t even sit to think of writing a sentence comprehensively

cococandy:
Your mom should have made better choices.

And why are you not your father’s responsibility? Why are you looking at your step siblings for help?

I’m glad they’re doing well after everything your father put them through

Our father never shy from his responsibilities and those looking up to their siblings does do because they see themselves as one and I see it same way that’s way I help with whatever I can when they come to me or don’t you ask your well do elder siblings for things?

LilMissFavvy:
Your father is reaping what he sowed, he hasn't seen anything yet

He will not see anything, he made a mistake like any other human and I’m pretty sure he will bounce back financially like he has always does in time pass…..if they see it that way I pray they heal and if they don’t , they will only hurt themselves more. Those other kids won’t forever need their help but their hatred can consume them till their dying days.

Neptunium:
Oga, all the time you spend masturbating everyday can be better spent working a job to look after your wife and kid.

My work keeps me occupied and I wouldn’t mind to fap on your mother bare slippers bo*bs in my leisure time

Onegai:
It wasn't just their Mother who suffered, they suffered too.

Have you seen a man in infatuation and lust? He destroys everything to get the Other Woman. His wife will be in misery, his kids hurt and confused as he directs his entire attention to the Other Woman.

Imagine having a father who is angry at you that you want his attention to pay schoolfees, when he wants to be spending that money on a woman whose smiles mean everything to him now.

Imagine having a crying mother losing weight and sleep, as she watches her husband leave her. She's going to every church, mosque, looking for solutions. Her pain is great, she's lonely and heart-broken.

Meanwhile, your father is in a fog, happily kissing and dreaming of another woman. He's dressing for her, whenever you remind him of his existence, his face changes in annoyance (you are reality and he's in fantasy land).

When he gets the other woman pregnant, he's delighted and acts like this is his first child ever, his older kids are staring at him with the hurt, confused and pained eyes of emotionally abandoned kids. Their mother's sullen acceptance is their morning and night view.

And in all this, your father and that woman DON'T CARE about the pain they're inflicting, infact it makes their love sweeter.

That's exactly what happens in Affairs. And Affairs are what leads to Polygamy.

Yet, here you are, being callous and selfish, demanding affection from people. When your very existence reminds them of the horror they went through because your mother and father were wicked, selfish people. Your words certainly show you're your parents' child.

I grew up in a Polygamous home. At least my stepmother had the decency to apologise to my mum, decades after inflicting evil on her.

You don't owe them an apology. They don't owe you affection or even acknowledgement.

But put yourself in their shoes and always approach them with humility and empathy, rather than entitlement.

That was what worked for my stepsibling and my mother blessed him (he's still reaping that blessing till now). The rest collected the prayers of a broken-hearted woman and well...Karma doesn't ever forget an address.

I see where you’re coming from…..I guess being insensitive to your step siblings is how y'all cope with the hurt the father inflicted on you. That’s why I put it in my write up that it is their coping mechanisms

Neptunium:
We no practice polygamy in my family, mor0n. Go get a job! Nobody owes you anything.

you could have shut your trap since you had no knowledge of it dimwit

Onegai:
Your step siblings owe you nothing.

It would have been nice if they like you guys, but your existence came at a high price to their mother.

All blame lies on your father, a married man who was entitled and cheated, and your mother, who decided to join a married man to cheat.

Face these 2 squarely. Leave traumatised children who grew up into traumatised adults alone, in peace.

And for the rest of y'all: Polygamy never pays.
Even the so-called Happy ones, it took decades of fighting and forgiveness to calm everywhere.

No one is saying they owe anyone shit but we’ve seen homes where they all look out for each other and about the trauma, it’s their mother to bear and if they want to share in her pains so be it…..same reason I said it could be their coping mechanism. I never needed their help nor would cause for it

Neptunium:
Stop feeling entitled. The first wife's children are not obligated to help you and the other kids. You're also not a kid. You're a married man with a family of your own. Go work and leave your stepsiblings be.

For their father to marry two more wives after their mom means he probably neglected them and they had to find their own way but you now want to reap where you didn't sow.

I’m not feeling entitled as I do not need their dime, I have never asked any of them for help but I know this from how they are always indifference to the predicament of the less successful ones among us….my father didn’t neglect anyone as he was transparent in his dealings with every member of his household, none of us can ever say he never got the support of a father in his life. If this is how you do it in your household too, try change and stop covering those ills with your entitlement talks

LandMann:
Na entitlement mentality dey worry you.

You need to use bleach to wash entitlement off your brain and mindset in this life else you'll never make it.

Once you realise nobody owes you anything, you will double your efforts and look for every possible means to make it on your own.

I don't know how old you are but I pray you're still below 25 and you have acquired tertiary education. Otherwise you setting yourself up for major failure in life by constantly thinking your older step siblings ought to help you in one way or another to succeed.

Why don't you be the successful one who others look onto for help? Are you disabled?

Go and hustle bro... acquire better skills and make your own money... Put in the hardwork and build your wealth gradually.

There's no shortcut to success... Putting your eyes in your step siblings wealth is greediness and wanting to take shortcut to success. The end result is never good.

Again, get rid of the entitlement mentality that is beclouding your judgement

Feel entitled lol….no I don’t because I have my life going for me, a good family of my own and my work is going on great. I only brought this because of how they are to others and I help the others as I could but i can’t do it all and my father has a lot of children. We all could see how families we grew up with has helped themselves to financial stability why is ours different and why would you prefer to put outsiders on opportunities that could benefit your own kin. Call it what you may but it’s a subtle hatred which might later consume them as no one knows what tomorrow brings

PerfectStranger:
It happens mostly when the polygamous man is broke. Polygamy isn't for a broke man.

He was wealthy when he dabbed into it, he recently went broke so I just feel his financial situation is a smoke screen and his children from his first marriage now see this as an opportunity to make him suffer and humiliate him. They will rather respect the men from their mother family than respect and support their father. That’s how bad he is having it from them

marlow1962:
Why are you saying his talks are lies, are you part of his family?

I have learnt not to glorify his types with a response

Karleb:
People glorify polygamy because it suits men but do you know why a lot of men in this new age wouldn't touch it?

It's not worth the stress. Even many Muslims are monogamous to the core.

It’s never worth the stress…. Sometimes just wish my mom had chosen a different path than marry into the family because it’s one hell of a family where your elder siblings would see you as a threat rather than family.

teamv:
Why would a man father children he can't take of polygamy is not the issue the man is

Our father took care of us all equally and made sure everyone has a fair share of education and we never lack for food nor clothes while growing up……we eat together as a family, no mother cooks separately and my father tries his best to be fair in whatever he does both in meting out punishments or in sharing gifts. I dunno why the innate hatred, the first wife never show hatred even though it’s in her heart and her children always act like we all cool at family social gatherings and functions but deep down they don’t like those who are not their mother’s children and would gladly render assistance to outsiders than help give their father’s children a push in their endeavors

My father has 3 wives though one already left him but there is this silent hatred from the first wife children towards us the other wives children, they are older and more successful than the rest(we are just finding our feet). This hatred is also greatly directed at our father who they belittle and humiliate every chance they get. They also prefer to help extended family and friends than to help us even when it’s glaring we need help, they would never put you on opportunities that might help change life or bring food to our table but they are always quick to extend their helping hand to outsiders…….So I just feel maybe that’s their coping mechanism for their father having an extra woman with their mother as same thing is playing out in my friend family whose father has 2 wives. Does anyone in a polygamous home relate to this?

rickleye:
Classic case of marrying who you don’t love and loving whom you can’t marry.
She’s in love with you but you aren’t the safer choice. Sex with you might be amazing but you aren’t ready to settle down. The other dude might be older and finished sowing his wild oats while you still have some wild fantasies.

This happens to a lot of people irrespective of colour. It’s human nature.

she is always the type that wants a man with a girl regardless if he has money or not…. Always did my best to care for her while she was with me but she loves the spotlight that comes with sitting in front of a car which I couldn’t provide then. She loves sex with me quite alright but I wasn’t her safe haven financially

Kobicove:
Lies everywhere!

I have nothing to gain lying about this lol
She has always has that side of her and that was what usually causes misunderstanding btw as she’s always protective of her phones and try manipulating me by always saying I’m controlling. That u haven’t met such girls doesn’t mean they don’t exist

The topic about groom ditching her bride to be brought back some memories of what happened last year when my Ex texted to check on me and I decided to try my luck by inviting her to my hotel room in another state from hers and she willing came over.

We had fun for as long as we could and during those intervals, I discovered she was ignoring her calls and it was not until the following morning she decided to pick up her call after she dressed up because we had fun early that morning again since I know she’d be leaving for her place, she urged me not to talk and told the man she just woke up using the hotel curtail as background.

It was later I discovered she was getting married the following week, though she came with some contra pills in her back which she used immediately after fun. I didn’t miss her and saw all the bullets I dodged, even had to think in my head like is this how she’d be going to her male friends to have some last funs.

illicit:
DNA can never disappoint you sha...

No be u go tell me wetin I go do……..the answer is irrelevant to the question asked. Does dna explain how ultrasound got it wrong after coming out positive?

Sniper is no more a suicide object due to the high cost…..how’d she get one

illicit:
Do DNA first o....

🙏

It’s 8months now and boy is a spitting image of me. Not here to dispute paternity, just surprised I got a boy after scan told me I’m expecting a girl.

I went for a discreet Sperm Analysis 6months after my wedding to my 3yrs gf and discovered I had a low sperm count(LSC) but the doctor assured me it’s something that could be fixed in 3months if I have the money to spend, I paid and used his meds for a month and stopped the medication because it was many and I don’t really like taking meds……I was going through Trying to Conceive(TTC) thread one day when I saw this simple homemade recipe a guy drop and also advised to retain sperm for a month or more before sex when trying to conceive and this is where it gets funny because I am the type that masturbates Every day the most I went without masturbation is 7days and I tried this recipe and mated with my wife even before the one month countdown. We went about our usual stuffs and when her period was late we thought it was the usual lateness that we would see the period after 5 or 7 days but it didn’t come and it was until the second month we discovered she was 5weeks gone.
Now there is a twist, we did scan and firstly the doc said she could identify her sex but that she’s positioned like a girl and the subsequent scan reported a girl but on her delivery day, we had to opt for a Caesarean section (CS)because she doesn’t have the strength to birth the baby herself and she was the only one delivering that morning, infact we were the only pregnant patients being attended to because it was early as 7 and immediately the operation was done (which didn’t last 25mins) the doctor called me in and show me the baby before having a nurse clean him and to my astonishment it was a baby boy……it can only be God because I checked online and I read that it’s a very rare case for ultra scan to be wrong. A very replica of me, He’s 6months now and he’s just as I’m in everything.

Factcheck0001:
oga u no see better food chop ni forget

No matter how slim u are if better food ( I mean good 3 square meal combo n subtle refreshment touch u) guy u go fat

Let me just give u examples, we used to mock 2 guys in school then that they top "suffer league"...( Na dem suffer pass). We make jokes about them that if u hug them their rib bone go show for your body

Many years after we left school n did reunion, u have to see these guys when money touch dem

Oga if better food touch u, u go fat big time

Aswear I can relate lol, used to say I inherited bony body and can’t be fat no matter what I eat until when I chop IDme lol…I come dey eat more than 4times daily with confectioneries, drink beers, booze and wine. Indoor with video games and only exercises I did was banging girls steadily. I was almost obsessed and people had to start warning me to lose wait cos if I walk you to my gate, I will be breathing and panting like I just ran a mile. Even if it is hereditary, pray make you see better money and peace of mind, make I come see if you no go Fat. Imagine a tiny dude not only fat but nearly obsessed with big head, arms and stomach that I had to give all my round necks and jeans away. Bobo na money never reach wey man dey talk say e no fit fat

SAMFREELANCER:
thanks for this response!i will try it!

i wanna clarify something the fruit mix, is it only ginger and garlic only? or can you specify them clearly

include ginger and garlic when blending fruits like banana, wm, apple etc together

iabdulrazaq:
Congratulations
What homemade recipe did you use

Thanks sir
Honey, eggs and milk mixed together but I was also on fruits mix(ginger and garlic inclusive) blended smoothly. Kept that in my fridge as morning drink

I went for a discreet Sperm Analysis 6months after my wedding to my 3yrs gf and discovered I had a low sperm count(LSC) but the doctor assured me it’s something that could be fixed in 3months if I have the money to spend, I paid and used his meds for a month and stopped the medication because it was many and I don’t really like taking meds……I was going through Trying to Conceive(TTC) thread one day when I saw this simple homemade recipe a guy drop and also advised to retain sperm for a month or more before sex when trying to conceive and this is where it gets funny because I am the type that masturbates Every day the most I went without masturbation is 7days and I tried this recipe and mated with my wife even before the one month countdown. We went about our usual stuffs and when her period was late we thought it was the usual lateness that we would see the period after 5 or 7 days but it didn’t come and it was until the second month we discovered she was 5weeks gone.
Now there is a twist, we did scan and firstly the doc said she could identify her sex but that she’s positioned like a girl and the subsequent scan reported a girl but on her delivery day, we had to opt for a Caesarean section (CS)because she doesn’t have the strength to birth the baby herself and she was the only one delivering that morning, infact we were the only pregnant patients being attended to because it was early as 7 and immediately the operation was done (which didn’t last 25mins) the doctor called me in and show me the baby before having a nurse clean him and to my astonishment it was a baby boy……it can only be God because I checked online and I read that it’s a very rare case for ultra scan to be wrong. A very replica of me, He’s 6months now and he’s just as I’m in everything.

I don’t even know where to start but I’m full of praise to the almighty and to those who always drop reasonable home made solutions, God continue to prosper your handworks……..went for a discreet S/A 6months after my wedding to my 3yrs gf and discovered I had a LSC but the doctor assured me it’s something that could be fixed in 3months if I have the money to spend, I paid and used his meds for a month and stopped the medication because it was many and I don’t really like taking meds……I was going through this thread one day when I saw this simple homemade recipe a guy drop and also advised to retain sperm for a month or more before sex when trying to conceive and this is where it gets funny because I am the type that masturbates Every day the most I went without masturbation is 7days and I tried this recipe and mated with my wife even before the one month countdown. We went about our usual stuffs and when her period was late we thought it was the usual lateness that we would see the period after 5 or 7 days but it didn’t come and it was until the second month we discovered she was 5weeks gone.
Now there is a twist, we did scan and firstly the doc said she could identify her sex but that she’s positioned like a girl and the subsequent scan reported a girl but on her delivery day, we had to do a cs for her because she doesn’t have the strength to birth the baby herself and she was the only one delivering that morning, infact we were the only pregnant patient being attended to because it was early as 7 and immediately the operation was done the doctor called me in and show me the baby before having a nurse clean him and to my astonishment it was a baby boy……it can only be God because I checked online and I read that it’s a very rare case for ultra scan to be wrong. A very replica of me, He’s 6months now and he’s just as I’m in everything.