Mychive:
Quite lengthy because I want to be as detailed as enough for better understanding..
We were great as friends that anyone could think we were dating even though by then, we were not dating at all, although we once had deep romance but no se.x because she wasn't ready and I wouldn't force or rape.
We kicked of relationship late last year and after a month, an issue came up where I had to travel for an exam and she had to go for her I.T. We couldn't hold our long phone calls like before , even though we still talk everyday but not as deep as we used to due to the new schedule.
After I was done with the exams , I called her a day after and told her I would speak with her later. Before the evening came, she dropped a breakup message for me on WhatsApp and I asked why, she told me she doesn't understand what's going on anymore because she noticed we didn't talk like before.
Made her realised that she ought to know that our schedule in the previous weeks wouldn't allow but now that exams are out of the way for me, we can talk often cos I wasn't really available during the exam time.
She complained that she would message me and I wouldn't reply quick on WhatsApp ...this was true sha cos those times, I might just be online and drop my phone somewhere or would be reading some stuff online here on WhatsApp so she felt I was ignoring or intentionally delaying the responses.
I Sha explained to her and everything got settled....
4 days later, she broke up again saying she still doesn't feel the vibe anymore that we were greater when we were friends than when Relationship entered.
I didn't press more on the dating again but she was still constantly giving the attention and acting like nothing happened. I wasn't sure if she had reconsidered or not. So I told a friend of mine who was her friend (male) to help me tease her a bit to even know her stand... She didn't know about this sha. She didn't know the guy was trying to find things out for me.
So he told the guy that she started dating me a month ago and then after a month, an issue came up. She explained what happened and how pained she was to feel avoided or taken for granted because I wasn't really responding to chats quickly like before...She told my friend that "now she doesn't even know if we're back or not"
Then she said after the first issue, she started thinking of some things... That now me the guy is done with school even though she knows I'm still doing Masters program of 2 years, not like she's planning on marriage but she doesn't know what might come up, secondly, age difference, I'm like 5 years older...then her sister doesn't know about the Relationship which she doesn't like...due to how close they're and the fact that when her previous relationship ended and she told her sister, her sister fought her for not letting her know about the Relationship till it ended.
Then she told my guy that I feel the issue of we dating or not has been settled but within her , she knows it's not settled and whether then or later, the breakup will still happen and everybody would be fine. She told my friend all these. Now, my friend told me everything she said but he refused to tell me this last part because she told him not to tell me.... It was when I checked their chat on my friends phone that I discovered myself. ...safe to say my friend knew it and didn't tell me.
I travelled down home last December and I didn't have it in mind to see her at all but she made suggestions twice that we should see...
First time, she suggested we see... She said she wanted a private place ..a roomm.. I told her no problem. Come to my place or we go to hotel... As those are the two options available, she rejected. But she wouldn't tell me where she wanted. On Jan. 1st, she told me that we should meet as well that her sister would cover up for her when she's leaving home... She wants a private place, rejected hotel or coming to my place.. . similar to first time. We couldn't get to see.
On the 3rd of January, she broke up saying we were having too many issues, her sister doesn't know about this and she doesn't like the fact that her sister doesn't know plus some other people she tells that she's single which wasn't a fair thing...and she's confused and not sure whether she wants the Relationship or not, that we were better as friends till Relationship came.
Till now, I didn't get what really happened...but she knows it that I really like her.
Though throughout last week, I was in her school city and I told her about it. She made plans to come see me but said she wouldn't sleep over...
I Sha didn't later let that plan work. I didn't bother letting her know when to come around to meet me at the hotel. ...till I left..
We are more of WhatsApp status viewers now sha. It's been over a month and I still can't stop thinking about her, couldn't get her off my head. I'm not chatting or talking to her so I don't appear desperate or simping.
I need advises / suggestions on this because I'd be travelling to her school city again next week and I'm lost between seeing her or not. disract your mind by doing something interesting. meet your friend circle enjoy with them. Focus on your career. bsy yourself, its called self respect also. |
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