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Oga rapmoney you be OG for nairaland oo

PDPdestroyer:
Only Ibos should vote in this online poll
Which would you choose, given these two options, on the condition that the occurrence of one makes the other an impossibility

....................... 99% of Ndigbo believe in Biafra. We are Igbos not ibos

That's his lifestyle. If I become as rich as he is now ,I Won't have only one pair of shoe, I will build a castle for myself and would like to have many children even if it's via surrogacy. I really don't understand why good people or people with special gifts don't like having many children, having many children is the best way of multiplying your kind.

They are there for their money, I don't think up to 10% of them will vote for APc when the voting time come

oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

just know that she's not compatible with you. Her type can only be handled by woman beater. And she will become a very responsible wife but not with good guy like you

I hope water is coming out of both?
Where is borehole bY Tinubu?

#1650 Ebonyi state since last year

Fubara should defect to NDC asap

princepee:
if you know ego na ejeije na awka etiti,
You will know he was more than a billionaire

ndi Anambra and nick name

Maybe one day URS will be Ozopuru ini ego na awka etiti

Am not sure it's true, this people too dey tell lie

One thing I keep thinking is if am going to survive anyway where without Swallow ( Garri or akpu)

Atiku started it all I wish amechi win the primary.

TRUMP making money for himself.



Na so wickedness go dey for this world until the day God decid to stop Satan From him work.


There is no guaranteed reward for being a good guy.. even those you consider as very bad people may repent one day and become God's favourite. Too much confusion in the world.

If you think the best candidate to vote for THIS coming presidential election is Tinubu,it's okay. All of us go collect woto woto . Na make Ur own cry no loud pass people wey no vote for am. Don't say you didn't know

Pastor David Ogbueli teaching on how to live victorious life as a man born again and ve received holy ghost Baptism. This message will help you a lot if you have had holy ghost Baptism. Listen to the end please



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cf3a6zdyIio?si=_z5sj3zcduTfC7SL

Where is the odour coming from

Pretending to care , he's not relying on Ur vote

Odikwa very risky o make one person no kpai

I wonder how people feel having Multiple partners who probably have Multiple partners

CHIEFCHICKEN:
Are you sure that's where you are supposed to be?

yes I stand with P . O

As a good citizen of this country, you are supposed to belong to a political party. Let your voice be heard. Today I successfully registered as member of Nigeria Democratic Congress NDC





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Odikwa disgusting to me

With $5m I I'm willing to relocate to Iran

Michaelkelvin1:
I just have to say something about this .. that speaking in tongues is not of God ... The apostles were baptized with the holy gosht and they spoke of different language of the world that is what is written in the bible and not to speak of things you do not know

I can tell that you claim to know God but you knw him not.

Obi should build be able to build 1 party he has a lot of followers

ReacherSaidNoth:
Religious psychosis, get well soon

For this your saying The same holy spirit will take over your life on day. Then you will know the truth

Nteogwuija:
Hypnosis is real. Beware!

how does it work,? I only know about the holy spirit

dinomcjohn:
This is an amazing experience. God is real. God wants us to invite Him into our hearts. God is truly and forever awesome. Congrats bro

what surprised me most is I have been to crusade like 2 time and different men of God( one is APOSTLE MICHAEL OROKPO) wILL be saying God is about to anoint so so number of people,all of sudden I will be pushed by divine force ( holy spirit) to move to the front. I can't really explain theses

This experience alone made me know Of a truth, there is God. Till today, anytime I Go to holy spirit filled church,I wouldn't know when I get loss in the spirit .

In dominion city they usually have praise And worship session.


As that was going on I saw heaven open ,I was given new understanding how God feel during praise and worship, this thing dey move God I!!, I was falling off my seat and the ushers came and took me back to the small office and began asking me some questions, What's happening, what are you seeing, whenever I try to respond my tongue will be twisting whatever I say. They asked me if I have spoken in tongues before I said no. That was when the pastors advice me to say whatever is coming out of my mouth. As they began praying for me, I opened my mouth and spoke and that was how I began speaking in tongues.

Over the years as a Christian I have been to many churches. I grew up In catholic church but after so many years defending their doctrine I began doubting what I had been defending. I couldn't understand why we should be Praying to/for the dead, as the bible made it clear "And just as it is appointed for man to die once, and after that comes judgment, Hebrew 9:27; teachings about pulgatory and praying the rosary I couldn't understand any longer as the bible say" For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus".

I started attending different churches just to know the one that align most with the bible teachings. One day I decided to become member of dominion city. I had been attending their Sunday service in different locations in the same city (Abakaliki) then one Sunday i decided be at the headquarters for the Sunday service. After normal service, one of the pastors announce " if today is your first time of worshiping with US here please raise up your hands ,as we were raising our hands up,we were asked to follow the ushers to a small office at back of the main church building.

We were asked to sit down for a brief introduction. The pastor in charge introduced himself and after all that they began telling us about Dominion city and the Dominion mandate, the church's doctrine, vision and mission.

After all that, they asked us if we're born again,and have ever received the holy ghost Baptism. Some of us said yes while some can't tell if they are born again or not.

The man of God asked us to stand up lets pray, he assured us that those of us that have never received the holy spirit will be baptized today,we started with song of praise after few minutes prayer he began speaking in tongues. I was thinking within my self, I had desired this for long and it never happened even when I pray all night with people that are already batptised. The man of God insist that ONLY if we open our hearts we are going to receive the baptism of the holy spirit. He began saying that the spirit is coming that we should be ready to receive him. Like play like joke ,I began loosing control of myself.

It's was like wind blowing I couldn't explain what was really going on, I found myself rolling on the ground. after much prayers I open my eyes i found out I was only new comer still in the office the rest are prayers warriors and pastor, they helped me to stand up. Then came the main problem. I couldn't speak again or walk the normal way. If I try standing up I feel powerful force pushing me down.

They suggested that if am still unable to go , that I should sit in the main church building for second service. They led to a seat and I sat down.