The last time I had sex with him was March I found out that I had the STD's when I was pregnant. He gave me 2 STD's at the same time. Trust me I didn't go back for more. I know that I was wrong for sleeping with a married man and I do believe that I have paid and is still paying for my sins. I lost a lot having that relationship. I have asked God forgiveness for the thing I did. I'm now taking my second HIV test before I start having unprotected sex. It was recommended that I take one every 6 months 3 times. The sex was the best that I ever had and the biggest!I also founded out that there's someone is always smarter, always prettier, always something etc etc. If you understand what I'm saying? I was so stupid. Why I keep taking money from him is I'm still recovering from being unemployed for 6 months. It's his fault that I lost a good job. However I met him this morning to get money so I could paid my car insurance and I told him this will be the last time. There is part of me that want to get him back for what he did. I want to hurt both of them. But since he is such a lair and a cheat he will surely give her the blues also. But I do have someone new I'm so thankful for him. And I believe that I have to forgive to be forgiven. As far as changing my number I changed it the last time one of his women were harassing me. I'm not going to change It's too much with my new job.

I founded out he married months into our relationship. I was in love so I was going to settle for being his concubine. I was a fool. I don't want to hurt his wife but she should know what type of man she is married to. He go home every 2 years. I was the one who did all his shopping when he went home . I bought everything for his wife and kids (with his money) Me and his wife have a lot of the same clothes. He he sleeping with more than his new girlfriend. She said that he would never taste another Akata after he tasted her. She being fooled too. This man loves P@$$y And yes that what he's f@$kin now 2Akatas She don't know him just like I didn't. But she thinks its OK because she friends with his wife. That is sick!

I need some advise. My ex boyfriend new girlfriend is harassing me. I'm African American, he's Nigerian (Ibo)she's African but she not from Nigeria. My ex is married with 3 kids who is waiting for him bring them to the states. He confessed to me that he can't be with just one women. We were together for almost 2 years. I found out later that he was married and cheated on me the whole time. He was sleeping with an older AA women who he perfer to as a "bed mat" I knew we had a lot of sex. Good sex this man could make  me have multiple orgasm's.Me and this man went pound for pound always different postions we did everything yet still he wasn't happy he like different women One time in one session I came 7 times and that's no lie. I guess that's why that man have women losing their minds. He was at a hotel with this women she got my phone numbers out of his phone. She stared calling my job. Because of the type of work I do the calls made a hostile and unsafe work place. I lost my job. He paid my monthly car loan and other monthly bills. He has always took care of me since day one. He went home last Dec, while he was at home his mother die. He came back to the states in Feb. He was very sad. He said he was a changed man. He didn't want to cheat anymore. I got pregnant in March. I stop staying at his house then. I had a miscarriage in May. Not only did this man plant his seed inside of me he gave me two STDs. I was so angry and so ashame. From Oct. 2005 - Feb 2007 I had 3 HIV test done so it would be safe  to have unprotected sex. I was so wrong. We still talk he says that we are going to get back together in Dec. I will never sleep with man again. Now he got this African lady, She call my cell phone from his house phone. She email from his email address. She want me to believe that she is in a committed relationship with him. He is sleeping with another AA that he work with. She don't have a Clue who this man is. She said that she was going to stay with him until the real owner come which is his wife and even then he will come to her whenever they need each. She can have his nasty ass. I only talk to him because he still give me money. What I'm so pissed about is this female has threatened to kill me and who ever is at my house. The state I live in it's a crime to threaten some one telephonically. She was calling so much that I started recording the calls. I have her on tape saying she's going to kill me. She bragged about being an American citzen and saying that the man is not. She said that I will be dead over this man. Well I'm a natural citizen and she don't know she could lose everything she worked for, her good job and her citizenship over this man who don't belong to Her or me. I really don't see him belonging his wife. He put his penis wherever there's a hole. I want to make both of them paid. I got emails from his computer that his girlfriend send talking about how he Bleep her I got email he send me saying how he love me, I got naked pictures of him. I want to sent all of these things to his wife. I want to hurt him the way he hurt me. I never would have thought that I would feel that way about him. And his new girlfriend I want to go to the police. What she did is taken very seriously. It will cost her a lot of money to get out of trouble. Plus the place she work will terminate her employment. I pressed charges against the other women what make her any different? She was wrong for seeking me out. She got jealous because she knew he would still call me and she would read the emails we send one another. I would spend time with him but we do not have sex. I will never have sex with him again. What do I do! People in glass houses should throw stones! She f@$Ked with the wrong women at the wrong time! He F@$Ked over my heart one too many times! He know what she did and he says nothing. I have a wonderful man in my life. He's Yoruba! We are getting married next year so I'm happy and I'm with some one I trust. Therefore I should be able to get over this situation and be happy with the man I have. I know this is long but I want to explain the whole story. Please give me some advise.

I was dating a Nigerian man for 6 months before I found out he had a wife and three kids waiting for him in Nigeria. He lie until he couldn't lie anymore. then he told me that he could have two wifes. He lead to to believe this was OK. I had keys to his house, I basically lived with him. I would be right next to him when his wife called. he would pray for me to get pregnant. We did everything together. When it was time for him to go home to visit after 3 years I helped him prepare. Everything he bought his wife he bought me. He is a very good provider for the both of us. I did everything for this man. He would say that we both were part of him he would beg me not to leave him. While he was in Nigeria he called me 2 times a week. Now he's back in the US we have broke up. He refuse to give me my things from his house. he still give me money. He say that he will always help me if I need something. What caused the break up is his prayers was answered and I got pregnant. I had a miscarriage. And everything changed plus with him being at home for two months. He realize the importance of family. he is married to a strong Nigerian women and he forgot all if those things. It's best for you to go your own way. You will be hurt! Nigerian men do not leave their families. No matter what! save your self some tears. I do believe that you won't be blessed with your own husband if you're sleeping with someone Else's husband. I speaking from nothing but experience. I wish you the best!

Thanks for the opinions and advice. Me and this man spend hours on the telephone for the last five months. He is a civic worker in Nigeria. OF course he want to come to America to continue his education. I have made up my mind that I will visit for 3 weeks in August. Maybe there were a few things that I left out. But I'm far from being ignorant. I'm a RN so most of the people I deal with and work with is educated. I know the situation about the green card. As we all know there's lots of people that want to come chase the American dream. Our marriage will be beneficial for the both of us. It very important to me that he come to America. By the way I always avoid the projects haven't you heard they can be very dangerous

I need advice. I'm a 37 year old African-American female. I met a Nigerian man thought a friend. In Dec I'm to fly to Nigeria and married this man. This is something I want to do, however I'm scare. My family and friends are giving me negative advice. They have a fear that I will not make it back home. I will travel there with my friend that interduce me to my future husband. For the most part my mind is made up. My future husband and friend has been reassuring me that I will be safe. I love dating Nigerian men. But most Nigerian men that in the USA are married and have families waiting to join them. I want my own family. most of all I want my own Nigerian Husband. Can someone offer any advice? I just afraid of going so far away. The marriage doesn't scare me.