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What are the chances of being in a healthy relationship? it feels like 1 in 100 to me, that is for every hundred relationships, only one is healthy, that is assuming that all the qualities discussed here and even more can be seen in a relationship.

This is my observation, what's yours? Share your thoughts and relationship experiences, we'd like to know!

Thank you all for your views, we have almost reached 10... I agree with all your points, I hope mine makes sense?

Trust:
Do you both trust each other? Or you lose it when you see your partner with someone else? Yes, a little jealousy is part of love but over-the-top kind of jealousy points at something deeper and dangerous. So watch it.

Mutual Support:
One of the very nice things about relationships is having someone to rely on. Someone to hold your hands through tough times and someone to share your joys with. While it is natural for your partner to be there for you in good times, beware also of partners who are always more comfortable only when things are not going fine. There is a red flag there. So also should you be careful of fair-weather partners who are only happy to be with you when the going is good. The key word here is balance.

In continuation of the previous tips:

Respect:
Every relationship should have a solid foundation of respect. Respect for each other. Your partner should respect you for who you are, not for who they want you to be or who they wished you were. They must also respect your word and boundaries too. If you say ‘No’, then they must immediately back off! Your partner should not ridicule or make jest of what you choose to do or what you choose not to do.

Again, please add your opinions... Let's gather up to at least 10 things we know for real a healthy relationship should have!

I've been thinking for a while whether to post this or not but I think there is need for me to post it now.... Please don't mind my English o!

Relationships and what makes for a healthy one may vary among couples but some basic qualities of a healthy relationship are listed below:

Be True To Yourself:
Yes, a relationship takes two people and both have to make compromises for the relationship to work - but you must not lose yourself in the process. You probably have friends, families, hobbies and other interests - make sure that you keep all of these and have time for them even when you are in a relationship. If you have to break off from your family, friends and interests, then your relationship is no longer healthy. Or if you can not express yourself because your Boyfriend (BF) or Girlfriend (GF) may not like it, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

Openness and Honesty:
Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you find yourself in a situation where you have to lie to your partner, then things are not going well. If your partner also tells serious lies, then you should be careful because you cannot trust a person who lies.

Please add your own, what do you think makes for a healthy relationship?