There is a new trend brewing with women doing "fine barra" on social media with their chest and asking their followers to buy them birthday gifts from their wishlist and even tagging their shopper.

Tiwa Savage did it today (as reported on Nairaland), asking for 22 Hilux and a few expensive things. It was inspired by Davido's.

LOL...here's another lady that did it and her husband called her out as a disgrace of a wife: https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2022/2/what-a-disgrace-of-a-wife-lagos-socialite-cy4luv-called-out-by-husband-yomi-for-going-online-to-beg-for-birthday-gifts-2.html

How can you be married to someone who bought you maserati, Rolex, Iphone watch and still be doing begi begi online? (rhetorical question).

heniford2:
she wiped all her old post and made that post currently know mason has been Released

It could be an hack (or at least, she may claim it was hacked).

So sad for the guy. One other guy i'm worried for his Marcus Rashford.

cococandy:


Yes he doesn’t owe her commitment.

But if her conditions are that he should commit before the mating, and he’s hell bent on being with her, then he had to meet her conditions.
It’s that simple

OP knows best not to be with this kind of ladies. Infact - guys should NEVER be with these kind of ladies (except they are virgins!)

cococandy:



Just because a woman had sex with another man before you doesn’t mean she owes you sex.
You guys over value yourselves and what you’re entitled to. If she doesn’t want to have sex with you or she wants to wait, that’s perfectly within her prerogative. Nobody owes you her body.

@cococandy - You are right that the lady does not owe the guy her body. But please note Likewise - the guy does not owe the lady any commitment either.

OP, if you are wise, feel free to find another lady who is willing to give you sex while you give commitment.

And stop trying to be committed to a lady who will not give you her body willingly (which is what you want) because that is a bad deal. i.e. She is getting something from the contract you are about to sign and you are getting nothing! She does not deserve your commitment either.

It's been a whole year that I have now discovered the red pill by chance. And I thought to share my progress since to encourage others:

1. SOCIAL MEDIA: I stopped spending time watching status updates of ladies on my whatsapp. I deleted those who post rubbish updates and those that don't benefit my life. I stopped viewing thirst trap/candy pictures of ladies. My usage of IG has reduced from everyday to now once per week (less than 15 mins). I don't even go on FB anymore to check them out.

2. SAYING NO: I started saying a FIRM NO to female acquaintances who ask me for money. I borrowed sense (before I got the red pill) - the day one of them asked me for help in ordering some products for her child from the abroad. I shipped this product myself to Nigeria. Never asked for a dime back and never even got a thank you. I called her out for this and she apologised - but I still blocked her. SInce finding the red pill...I say that NO without any guilt. One was unfortunate to ask me for 10k for her hair two weeks back. I simply replied with "To get 10k please sign up for a loan at <link of one of those naija loan apps that call all your friend list if you don't pay back..lol>". Please note - I was never romantically linked with these ladies - but I use to give out of kindness of my heart (because of societal brainwashing).

3. FOCUS: My laser focus helped me get a gig that pays an equivalent of 350k per day (i live in the abroad). In 2021 alone, I know how much I made (after tax - which was a lot ). It's a significantly higher income than I had made in two years prior. I could write a lot about this but don't want to give myself out too much as few nairaland addict are known family members.

4. GROOMING: I became intentional about taking care of myself more. I started putting myself first.

(a) Before now, I could count how many clothing that I had, even though I had money to buy, but never did because I didnt think it was that important. I started watching Mens Fashioner page on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MensFashioner and bought clothing (within my means) to improve on my dressing based on their recommendation.

(b) I invested in a tongue brush to clean my tongue, floss and whitened my teeth at the dentist (this cost me $800). You can get this for 50k - 300k or even 1 million depending on which dentist you go to in Nigeria.

(c) I invested in some sweet smelling mens perfume. I actually bought 3 (Mugler, Dior & another one) and use sparingly depending on my mood when going out.

5. INVEST IN MYSELF: I bought books on Amazon. I think it's about 20 books. Some of them include Atomic Habits, How to set Goals (by Brian Tracy), Rich Dad, Poor Dad etc. I started reading them in my spare time (when kids are asleep or when I use the rest room at home).

6. GIVING: Before red pill, one thing i've always done is take VERY good care of my parent. However, since this year..I increased the amount I send to my dad over my mum. Now that I am a father myself - I understand the sacrifice a father does and appreciates him more through our heart to heart talk and funding his lifestyle in his old age.

7. MARRIAGE: All the past mistakes I have made in my relationship with my wife are now playing right in my head. I now know when sex is being weaponised. I now call out any bull shit testing. I call out any act of irresponsibility - unlike before where I'd prefer to let things go "to avoid arguments".

RESULT - I am a lot more confident (than before red pill), My knowledge level has gone up insanely. My madam now brags a bit more (i know it's because of what I now bring to the table - and not because of one useless love). I get admirations from wives of family friends - One hugged me the other day at a get together and said "you look good and smelt nice" with a cheeky smile on her face. Our eyes met multiple times during the get together (but I ignored). I am now seeing possibility of becoming a six figure regular income earner and investing and building a legacy.

I am still learning the red pill. I know I am still scratching the surface. I know that I still make a lot of mistakes and beat myself up in retrospective at some of my actions (after all, old habits die hard). But I am not where I use to be. But the good thing is that - my red pill radar is very alert and I know the more i stay focused, the better I become.

Some of my zeal for success comes before I learnt about the red pill - but the red pill helped me to reduce my dependence on the manipulation of women and focus my dependence on myself.

Thank you to this community.

Final edit: Ignore the typo/grammer errors in this. English is not my first Language. I be original naija boy!