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The booty call should be made on the same day you plan on getting with her. The first option is to call right before you want to meet her. The second option is to call ahead of time to schedule the meeting for a later time.
To use the second option you need to have a good idea of what her usual schedule is like and the best time and way of reaching her, whether through cell or home line, so you don’t get the answer machine. However, it’s always best to use the first option, calling right before meeting.
Most of the calls should be at night, but if you’re calling her for the first time, the call should definitely be at night.
The majority of the booty calls need to be at her place. A good rule of thumb is 3 to 1, average three meetings at her place for every one meeting at your place. One reason for having them mainly at her place is to make it the customary location.
Make sure you sleep over the first time you two have sex, whether it was a booty call or not, and then apply the 2 to 1 sleepover rule when developing a booty call relationship. You should average one sleepover for every two times you don’t sleepover.
Since emotional bonds are strengthened faster than they are weakened, the 2 to 1 rule acts as the emotional bond stabilizer for the both of you. If the bond gets too strong or too weak, it will jeopardize the booty call relationship and it may be too late to remedy the situation.
When you call, depending on when you call and when you want to meet her, ask if she is doing anything right now, tonight, or later on. If it’s the first call, talk for about 5 minutes before asking. If it’s not the first call, keep the talk under 3 minutes.
It doesn’t matter whether she says yes, no, or anything else, the purpose of the question is to prime her for the next question.
The next thing you should ask her is if you can come over to her place. For example, "Let me come over <right now/tonight/later on>"
If she doesn’t answer immediately, say "Ok" or "Alright" in order to elicit a similar response from her. She will either say ok or give you an excuse. If the excuse is one that you think she would be able to get around, then continue with your persuasion. But if the excuse is a serious one, then it’s best to say goodnight and call a few days later.
She also might ask why you want to come over, in this case say something along the lines of, "I just want to see you for a little while". If she’s more of the flirty type, you can say, "Why do you think?"
Common excuses you might encounter:
* She is tired -- this excuse borders between one she can get around and one she can’t. You’ll have to play this one by ear and listen to her tone of voice. If she doesn’t sound tired, it’s a safe bet to pressure her a bit more with the, "I just want to see you for a little bit" line.
* She is going out that night -- tell her you’ll come by after she gets back, even if she won’t be back until late at night. After all, that’s how the booty call got its reputation.
* She has to do some work (whether for school or her job) -- say something similar to what you would if she says she’s going out, say you’ll come by right after she’s finished.
* She simply says she’s busy or has to do something -- ask her what she has to do, if it’s an excuse she can get around, just say you’ll come by after she’s finished with whatever she’s doing or has to do.
If she keeps giving excuses for why she doesn’t want to meet, then she probably isn’t interested in you and/or she doesn’t feel like having sex at the moment.
Keep in mind that some women are reluctant to saying yes right away, especially if it’s the first booty call, but if you work for it just a little, they usually cave in to their desires.
Once a woman has experienced the relaxation that comes from no strings attached sex after building up the tension throughout the day, she’ll be constantly craving sex without emotional baggage or pre-sex courting and her booty will definitely be giving you calls when it’s ’in need’.
#http://lovestroke..com

1. In a rush for a present?
Head over to the nearest pharmacy, grab a gift bag and fill it with "women's products" — shampoo, conditioner, body lotion, scented oils, scented soaps, etc. Give it to her and you could be using those products on her soon.

2. Want to take the relationship to the next level but not ready to ask her to go steady yet?
Give her two flowers. One yellow and one red. With each give her a note. For the yellow flower the card should say "For my best friend" and the card for the red flower should say "To the one I love." Instant girl puddy in your hands!

3. Whenever she's close and her hair is hanging by her face...
Use your index and middle finger from either hand to smoothly brush her tresses behind her ear. As you do this run both or one of the fingers all the way behind her ear right down to her ear lobes.
This sensitive area not only relaxes girls, but it has a subconscious maternal effect that suggests comfort (just like how their mom used to do it to them) and closeness. #http://lovestroke..com/

Flirting is an Art
Do you want to flirt? You like Flirting? You think about it but dont know where to start Do you hesitate to flirt?? Are you confused about how to flirty successfully.??

IF so then read these 10 Flirting tips of all times.

1) Tell Her A Good Story .. Read it Funny Story:
Okay so the first and basic thing that you can do to "break the ice" is tell her an interesting story that has a funny end. This will surely make her laugh and make her feel comfortable. Now how to tell her a good story or what type of story to tell her ??

Tell her something funny that happend to you in school or when you went for your first interview for a job. Tell her about an interesting incident that happend to you when you visited some place . You know you can get the conversation going after that .!!

2) Giver Her A Complement:

Tell her how beautiful she looks today or how good those new sunglasses look on her.

Just complement her and move on never over emphasize your compliment or she may take it in another way.


3) Avoid Nervousness: Be Confident:

Lets Get it Straight . You cannot flirt if you don't have confidence. You need to have confidence in yourself to Flirt, if you feel nervous and shaky infron of girls then you cannot flirt effectively and will make a joke out of of yourself. Try to boost your Confidence with some Confidence building exercises and then try flirting. It may take some time but it would bring good and bonus rewards in the future.!!

4) Use Your Secret Weapon : A Pleasant Smile

Smile is a powerful tool when it comes to flirting. Your Smile Speaks a lot about you.

Your facial expressions say a lot about you. So have a pleasant smile when she looks and not just stand there with a blank face.!

5) Projecting Confidence : Know Your Body Language

Just like your facial expressions your body language says a lot more about yourself. If your confident from inside then your body language should also be positive . You should Project your likeness and confidence through your Body Language.!

6) Don't Go Over Board
One Thing you don't want to do is going over board or using the direct approach. You cannot just directly tell her that you want to have her . Just be yourself and try to make things comfortable for her. This will work more for you.

7) Know The Inner "Her"

Women Usually tend to talk indirectly which is what most men don't pick. You have to learn how to analyze the signals that she give. If you can get it rite then you are half done.

Read Her Expressions

When meeting her or talking to her try to analyze her gestures. See her facial expressions and act accordingly. You can know in an instant if your conversation is boring or interesting by looking at her facial gestures. You don't have to be a genious or a "Player" to know this. Its Common Sense.

9) The Eye Contact:

An occassional eye contact with your girl when doing work or just giving her that killer look when passing her by may give u a sudden boost. Works best if you want to get attention of a particular girl whom you dont know well.
P.S : Don't start staring at her &amp; Do not Drool!!!!

10) Create Curiosity

There is a great chance that by increasing her curiosity she will surely want more of you. So ask her a curiosity driven question like: " I find something very attractive in you but can't figure out what it is"!!..

It all starts from here.. If you can flirt successfully then you can have all the after flirt pleasures that you look out for. Flirting is a basic tool for a guy and unless you have a good hold on this tool you won't be able to score on her.!! #http://lovestroke..com

So you're not really comfortable going up to women and talking to them?
How about having them talk to you first?
I used to go to parties all the time and I usually know about half the people there. I'd wait for one of my friends to start talking to a couple girls and then I would jump in. Not a very good technique because you're out of the loop pretty much.
So I started thinking how could I get girls to talk to me...
I decided to go shopping and saw a shirt with a funny saying on it so I picked it up (only $14.99). I went to a party a couple days later and I was not there for more then 2 minutes before some girl said "I like your shirt."
Now I was in a much more comfortable position. I talked to her for a couple minutes and then went on doing my own thing.
The benefits of this simple idea:
If you have a shirt with words on people are going to read it. They're not going to ignore it — it's impossible. This gives you more attention then somebody wearing a regular shirt.
When someone starts talking to you it's much more comfortable then going up to someone and trying to start a conversation.
It's cheap. You don't have to go out and buy $50 shirts that won't even get you any attention.
I'm not saying this is going to get you a girl because that part is all up to the rest of your game. But this way you will probably talk to more girls which increases your chances. #http://lovestroke..com/

First and foremost, understand that I am by no means any sort of dating guru. I just recently began dating, and although I'm doing alright, it's a brand new experience for me. I'm not ready to believe that my current success is in any way permanent.
So while what I say here has worked for me, it may or may not work for you. I'm just offering it for your consideration.
One of the things I have noticed about these dating websites is that there seems to be a lot of problems with "the first kiss". This can be a difficult moment... where you discover if she has any real romantic interest, or if she has already decided that you're a chode, and it's NO SEX FOR YOU.
As men, we would like for the possibility of sex to remain open, and although kissing isn't a guarantee of sex, if she won't kiss you, it's not gonna happen.
So, my strategy for the first kiss has evolved from doing things that will make that kiss as likely as possible. A change of location helps a lot... to another part of the club, if you're in a bar, or better still, a very scenic spot somewhere nearby.
Here's the key part: once you are observing the scenery -- my favorite time was at a pier on the water, with the night skyline of New York City in the distance -- you get behind her and stand there talking to her about the beautiful view.
Put your hands on her hips, in a non-threatening way as you talk. Gently lean in to smell her perfume near her neck and whisper to her how beautiful it is to be here with her, and how wonderful she smells.
Then... before you go for her lips... gently kiss her neck.
Gentlemen, this is powerful stuff.
She might get all squishy and squeamish, but that's only good for a laugh. Wait a few seconds and kiss her neck again. If she offers resistance, it's not the right time. But it's been my experience that she will be helpless to the overwhelming sensuality of the moment, and soon she will be loving what you are doing.
Once she's comfortable with that, kiss up to her earlobe, and suck it gently. Whisper to her again, this time how hot she is.
Then kiss across her cheek. If she doesn't turn her head towards you, take ONE FINGER, put it on her chin, and gently turn her face in your direction.
By this time, the first kiss will be a done deal, guaranteed. Gently touch her lips with yours, and again, this time a little longer. Make that first kiss a good one, and the rest of the night will be LOTS of FUN. #http://lovestroke..com

The other day I heard a radio ad for an online dating service; I found it to be quite absurd. The announcer said, "Ladies, are you tired of being hit on by all the Rico Suave men who hang out at the nightclubs? Avoid these men by trying online dating!"
Why was that ad absurd? Because women - even attractive women - are almost never hit on by men.
Here's what usually happens at a nightclub: you hang around with your girlfriends, some guy in the bar is clearly checking you out, you wait for him to approach you ... and wait ... and wait ... and it just never happens. Oh, sure, he'll walk past you about a hundred times, looking you up and down ... but as for actually approaching you and speaking to you ... it very rarely happens.
If you have the balls to approach a woman and make it clear that you're interested in her, I can tell you right now that she will be flattered and she'll give you a fair shot. She's not going to think you're a jerk for being so forward. Quite the opposite; your confidence and candor will be greatly appreciated and, as long as you have a sense of humor and a smile on your face, she is sure to find you at least a little charming, no matter how ugly you are. #http://lovestroke..com
Here are a few, quick tips:
a) Let her know right away that you're actually interested in her. Speaking at length with her about the kind of music the band is playing doesn't tell her that you're interested in her - it tells her that you're interested in the band. But saying "Do you have a boyfriend?" will grab her attention instantly. Trust me.
b) Just flatter the heck out of her. Go ahead and lie; it doesn't matter. Every woman on Earth likes to be flattered.
c) If she genuinely seems disinterested, back off. Don't waste your time with a cold fish.
d) Try not to be too self conscious. You're a man. There are things you want and things you need. Don't be embarrassed about it. There's nothing wrong with needing a little action now and then.
e) Let the woman save a bit of face. If you mack her up in front of 20 strangers, she might feel a little awkward about handing over her phone number. She'll worry about looking cheap. Don't get me wrong: go ahead and lavish the woman with attention - just be somewhat discreet about it. It'll greatly improve your chances.

So you're not really comfortable going up to women and talking to them?
How about having them talk to you first?
I used to go to parties all the time and I usually know about half the people there. I'd wait for one of my friends to start talking to a couple girls and then I would jump in. Not a very good technique because you're out of the loop pretty much.
So I started thinking how could I get girls to talk to me...
I decided to go shopping and saw a shirt with a funny saying on it so I picked it up (only $14.99). I went to a party a couple days later and I was not there for more then 2 minutes before some girl said "I like your shirt."
Now I was in a much more comfortable position. I talked to her for a couple minutes and then went on doing my own thing.
The benefits of this simple idea:
If you have a shirt with words on people are going to read it. They're not going to ignore it — it's impossible. This gives you more attention then somebody wearing a regular shirt.
When someone starts talking to you it's much more comfortable then going up to someone and trying to start a conversation.
It's cheap. You don't have to go out and buy $50 shirts that won't even get you any attention.
I'm not saying this is going to get you a girl because that part is all up to the rest of your game. But this way you will probably talk to more girls which increases your chances. #http://lovestroke..com/

You've probably seen the movie Office Space. If you haven't, you should.
Did you see the scene where the guy asked the waitress (played by Jennifer Aniston) out to lunch? This is an EXCELLENT example to learn from. Go watch that scene and see why it is a good example. If you can't tell why, watch it until you can.
Basically, the guy asks the waitress what she's doing for lunch. She mistakenly thinks he's asking about lunch specials, points to a sign and walks away. Does this stop the guy? No. He calmly walks over to her and lets her know that he was asking what SHE was doing for lunch.
Then comes the really good part. After she says she doesn't think she's supposed to just walk out and go to lunch with some guy, our hero is still unflustered. He says he's going next door and he's going to get a table. If she shows up, fine. If not...that's fine too.
What did this communicate? He communicated that:
He was confident and relaxed. He didn't get rattled at all during the entire exchange.
Lunch wasn't a big deal. Whether she showed up or not he was going to go have lunch and enjoy himself.
Did he want her to show up? Sure. But her presence wasn't going to make or break him. It wasn't that big of a deal to him. His having a good time was NOT dependent on whether the woman was there or not. He avoided appearing needy or desperate.
Too often guys make a big deal out of things and appear needy. When you ask a woman out, do it in such a way that suggests you were going to go regardless of whether she came along, but she's welcome to if she so chooses.
Things like "I'm going to my favorite restaurant Friday and if you want to come along you're welcome to" says something a lot different (and a lot less desperate) than "Can I take you to dinner Friday night?"
Think about that and look for other GOOD examples of encounters between men and women on screen. They're not everywhere, but they ARE there.
I'm having a friend of mine watch that scene from Office Space to see if he can identify why it's a good encounter and my guess is I'll have to explain it to him even though it's right in front of his face. He simply hasn't learned WHAT to look for yet.
Learn WHAT you need to look for and then look for it. Once you have an understanding of what a good encounter is you'll be able to see more examples of them all around you.
I'd say good luck here, but a Don Juan doesn't depend on luck. #http://lovestroke..com/

Let's clear up the confusion surrounding compliments.
A lot of guys think that the way into a girl's pants is to suck up to her and kiss her butt through excessive compliments and gift-buying.
Of course, giving too many compliments to a woman, especially about her looks, only makes you look NEEDY and desperate. At best she'll think "Oh another desperate guy," and at worst it gives her the green light to walk all over you.
On the other hand, some guys have the philosophy that you should NEVER compliment a girl to avoid looking needy. But this isn't right either.
Giving a compliment can be VERY powerful with a woman when you say it directly, smoothly, and with no apologies. The key difference is this - if you give her a compliment from a position of power then she will see you as a powerful person and she will continue to work for your approval. On the other hand, if you give her a compliment out of sexual neediness then she will see you as a weak beggar.
MAKE COMPLIMENTS WORK FOR YOU #http://lovestroke..com/

Compliments are useful in that they can put her in a good frame of mind about you. A compliment can work for you by noticing something she put a lot of effort into, something that most guys don't take the time to notice - therefore setting yourself apart from the pack.
For instance, if she's wearing something unusual, compliment on that. Or is she has put highlights in hair, mention that. If she's gone out of her way to stick out her breasts, you can even compliment her on that.
If you can't think of anything, tell her how she has such a nice energy. In ALL cases it's important that your attitude is calm and playful - NOT needy and desperate.
And whatever you say, say it like that you mean it. If your voice isn't congruent with the power of your compliment, it will ring false.
Now, should you compliment a woman on her looks?
For especially beautiful women in particular, avoid complimenting their beauty. They may well appreciate it, but that's what EVERY guy tells them, and they probably have the compliment associated with a lot of losers. So you're not setting yourself apart from the losers and you risk getting associated with a bunch of needy desperate guys.
GIVE IT, THEN FRACTIONATE AWAY

Compliments are made more powerful by using them SPARINGLY and FRACTIONATING.
For example, you may give her a compliment ONCE on her great smile, and then start being more cocky and funny, or simply change the direction of the conversation away from her. Don't continue to dwell on her great smile.
Or, compliment and then instantly do a "take back" which can be even more powerful. For example, say to her, "You know, it looks like you put a lot of time into your hair... I mean it's really beautiful... but... I just noticed... that... you have some hair that's out of place and is going a little crazy right here."
In this example, you give the compliment about her hair, and then you "take back" when you tell her it's out of place. Just make sure the "take back" is something comparatively minor to the compliment and can be corrected, otherwise it comes off as an insult. For example, if you said, "Your hair is beautiful, but that style went out in the 60's," she'd probably take that as an insult.
If anything, just keep in the mind the fundamental rules; give compliments sparingly, if at all. And if you feel you're about to give one out of neediness or for lack of anything else better to say, keep it to yourself.

Cuing refers to the fact that many of our biological drives require an environmental cue or signal to make us aware of them. For instance, if you are busy or distracted you may not notice you're hungry until you smell some pizza.
Sexual arousal works in a similar way for women. Sex cues make them aware of their sexual needs.
I was talking to a woman friend of mine over lunch. She told me that she had met a "nice guy" at this party one night but she wasn't very impressed by him or his looks. He invited her to have a drink in his apartment and since the party was boring anyway she agreed to go.
To her surprise, his apartment was a charming place. The lights were low and not bright like in most apartments. Classical music was playing. And there was a large fireplace casting all kinds of soft, interesting shadows on the walls. She told me that suddenly she began to find this otherwise unattractive man more and more enticing.
I laughed at her story because I knew she was primarily responding to the sex cues in the apartment.
Yet most guys don't take advantage of purposely setting up sex cues. Their apartments are boring, stark, drab, or messy -- hardly what would set a woman in the right mood for some hot sex.
SEX CUE: COLORED LIGHTING

Good lighting can be just as effective as any mood-altering drug. With the right light, even the dumpiest room can be a place that encourages lovemaking.
Women don't like bright lights. Instead, you want to have low, indirect, and diffuse illumination that creates a provocative effect. Pink light bulbs are easy on the eyes and flattering on the skin. Red, orange, and yellow lights all resemble firelight. Using an "up" light from the floor with colored bulbs can create a dramatic effect.
Women get turned on in the presence of flickering firelight as well. Everyone looks more sexy and heroic in the glow of firelight. This doesn't mean you need to install a fireplace in your room. Just have some candles ready to be lit.
SEX CUE: MUSIC

The right music can subliminally put a woman in the mood for sex. It's been shown that slow, "heartbeat" music makes our heart rate slow, muscles relax, posture become looser, and skin to conduct more heat. Music also helps us experience trance-like states of altered consciousness and let go of the normal, everyday distracting thoughts in her head.
Even if her response is not obviously apparent, she'll respond to music in subtle ways without conscious thought. Scientific studies show that people return to the same store more often when music that they like is playing in the background, even if they're not fully conscious of it. Scientific studies also suggest that music listening seems to encourage the release of endorphins that help to block out feelings of pain and stress.
So get yourself a stereo that can play CDs and place it in your bedroom. You'll want to get a multi-disk player that can handle three discs or more. And if you can create your own custom, MP3 file CDs on your computer, you'll want a stereo system that also plays MP3 CDs.
A budget stereo system for under $200 should get you a three-disc CD changer, a cassette player, and halfway decent speakers. This is fine for a small bedroom and you can find one at stores like Target, K-Mart, Circuit City, and Wal-Mart. Unfortunately, most manufacturers have made most of the inexpensive systems very bright and flashy, so if you want a more elegant, sophisticated look, you may end up paying more for a higher end model.
For an enhanced playing experience, and if you have the money to spare, you might want to get a package that includes a subwoofer and four speakers for true 5.1 Dolby Digital surround sound playback. True surround sound creates an enveloping sound field that comes from all directions for an almost surreal, immersing experience. Expect to pay $400 or more for such a system. Best Buy and Sound Advice carry systems in this range.
SEX CUE: RUNNING WATER

The combination of flickering candlelight with rippling water can create a uniquely spiritual, relaxing mood for lovemaking. Putting a candle next to rippling water also creates all sorts of interesting light reflections. You can usually find elegant but inexpensive fountains for as little as $20.00 in most malls.

These are just some of the more obvious sex cues you can set up in your apartment. Of course, all of the sex cues in the world won't get you laid if you lack any seductive skills, but they can give you the extra edge you need. #http://lovestroke..com/

Hey Man,
I'm about to reveal my VERY BEST technique for starting a conversation with a woman. Not only does it guarantee you won't get rejected, but it's actually the way women PREFER to be approached by a man!
But before I do, let me ask you this:
If you think about it, what is it that REALLY stops you from striking up a conversation with a woman for the first time?
What's your biggest fear?
Maybe you're scared of being rejected.
Or maybe you're afraid of looking "foolish" and having everyone around watch you.
If so, let me ask you this:
Have you ever found yourself thinking: "I just don't know what to say to start a conversation with a woman I want to meet."
In fact, "What do I say?" is a question I get a lot.
And you know what I hear?
"I'm scared of being rejected, so I want to know the perfect thing to say."
Well, guess what?
There is NO perfect thing to say to a woman that's going guarantee she'll want to have a conversation.
Here's why:
It's not what you say that's important. What's really important is your "approach" — or your attitude when you start a conversation with a woman.
So here's the first thing you need to know about...
WHY DIRECTLY APPROACHING WOMEN IS NOT THE BEST ROUTE TO START A CONVERSATION AND WHAT IS!

Sure, directly walking up to women and starting a conversation is a great way to overcome your fears. But if you actually want to have a woman be open to meeting up with you again, there's a much better "approach" to take.
To understand the reason this "approach" works, it helps to know the "psychology" of how women respond to being approached...
So imagine what it's like to be a woman for a moment:
If you noticed a guy walking up to you in your peripheral vision, you'd know he obviously WANTS something from you, wouldn't you? So would it just be a matter of finding out what THAT something is.
And guess what?
Attractive women know immediately when a guy's approaching them because he finds them attractive and is interested.
It registers on their "radar" very, very quickly.
In fact, most of the time, a woman will know what a guy wants before he even opens his mouth. So he's actually telegraphed his intentions just by the way he walked up to her.
Is there something wrong with this?
Not necessarily... but here's the real secret:
Women don't like being "hit on" (or having a guy express "sexual interest" until AFTER they're attracted to him. So if you walk directly up to a woman out of the blue, generally you're expressing your sexual interest by doing that.
Of course, you can use techniques to break that expectation and show her you're not sexually interested — even if you really are... which I personally consider "manipulative".
But why bother with that when there's an easier, natural, and more authentic way...
HERE'S MY VERY BEST TECHNIQUE FOR STARTING CONVERSATIONS WITH WOMEN...

I call it: "Crossing Paths".
In fact, this is the way women love THE MOST when meeting men.
If you ask a woman about how she loves to be approached by a guy, she'll probably say something like this:
"I like it when it just happens... accidentally."
And though sometimes women don't consciously know what they want, this IS the truth.
Women want to meet men by "accident" — which basically means that it's NOT planned out ahead of time. Instead, the meeting and interaction just "happens" in the moment.
Being able to do this or allow it to happen "sweeps women off their feet" because it's real, authentic, and non-calculative.
So how do you do it?
First, you DON'T go out of your way to talk to a woman.
Ever.
I know "Pick-Up Artists" look at it differently. But would you go to a different country just to start a conversation with a woman?
Yeah... if you were desperate.
Well, walking up to a woman is basically the SAME thing on a smaller scale.
So unless she gave you the "eye contact signals", don't do it.
Second, if a woman is in earshot and you have time, just take the opportunity.
Instead of directly approaching a woman, you only start conversations with women who are already in close contact with you.
You ONLY talk to women who "cross your path".
Here's the three basic steps on how to do this:
STEP #1: MIND YOUR SURROUNDINGS

One of the key things I teach is not only to be aware of what people who come into close contact with you are doing but how they're responding to you.
To do this, you use just your peripheral awareness.
You know how you can notice things in the "corner of your eye" without having to directly look at them?
That's what I mean.
You need to work on developing this ability so you can go about your business while noticing what's happening around you at the same time — and all without reacting to it.
Because when you get really good at this, you'll start noticing how women respond to you when they come into close contact with you.
The signs start becoming obvious.
STEP #2: THINK OUT LOUD

Now, have you ever noticed that when someone says something and you're the only one around, you almost feel "obligated" to reply?
It's almost like you'd feel rude if you didn't say anything, don't you? It's like you'd be "snubbing" a complete stranger, and who wants to be rude?
In fact, it often seems to be the case that most people are even "nicer" to strangers than people they actually know.
So when a woman comes into close contact with you and you're somewhat stationary, like in a grocery store line-up, make a short impersonal statement that relates to the situation as if you're thinking out loud or talking to yourself.
This may sound strange at first. I mean, won't she think you're a crazy guy who talks to himself?
Not if you're genuine and you say it with conviction, she won't.
Here's the reality:
Doing this is like giving her an invitation. And not only that, it's a non-threatening invitation because you're not even facing her... or even talking directly to her.
In fact, it's like you're indirectly welcoming her into your experience, which communicates all the "right" things.
For example, you may pick-up an interesting gadget from the check-out rack and say, "Damn! That's cool." And then just start looking it over.
STEP #3: READ THE VIBE

Next, what you want to do is notice how she's reacting to what you said using just your peripheral awareness. So you don't even look directly at her.
If she's not interested, she'll just continue on with what she was doing. So there's no big rejection. I mean, it's not like you were talking directly to her or anything, so how can she "reject" you?
No, she just didn't take the "invitation".
Big deal!
But most times, she'll give you her attention in one of two ways:
Either she'll respond by saying something, which lets you know that it's now OK to look at her and get into a conversation.
Or she'll look at you because she's curious, but won't say anything. She may just be shy, so that's you're cue to actively invite her into the conversation.
For example, perhaps you'd say: "Look at this thing," as you look at her. "Any ideas on how someone would've come up with the idea for this thing?"
I've found this to be the very best way to casually meet women without coming off "too forward" or "weird". It's safe and non-threatening for both: you and her.
In fact, you'll be seen as a "regular" guy, not some creepy "Pick-Up Artist" who's only interested in getting in her pants.
Now, what do you do after you've started a conversation?
Just flip to Chapter 10 in Cool Guy with Women and use the techniques on how to continue and lead the conversation from there.
By using these simple conversational techniques, you'll never have to worry about what to say again. You'll always know what to say next by following the step-by-step concepts. #http://lovestroke..com/

If you're anything like me, you've had your fair share of strike-outs with women.

I mean, let's face it -- you can't win them all!

But when you do get rejected, a lot of guys will often think...

"She must not have been attracted to me. I must be UGLY!"

Don't fret, that's a common insecurity that everyone (women and men) share. We're always on edge, wondering if we're good looking enough to get the women that we like.

Well, don't worry, because I've got a secret I'm going to share with you.

Ready?

Here it comes...

Looks Aren't That Important!!!

Notice I didn't say looks AREN'T important. I said looks aren't THAT important.

There's a difference.

Looks are important to an extent, but not as important as you may think. Most women have a lot of leeway in what they find attractive in a man, and this can be used to your advantage.

Many guys think girls look at men the way men look at women. When a man looks at a woman, he judges whether or not he's attracted to her based on her looks. If she's overweight, has the wrong hair color, if her breasts are too small, if her nose is too big... whatever it may be, the man may dismiss her completely, regardless of whether or not she's a really great girl.

Because men look at women that way, it's natural for men to assume that's how women appraise us.

This belief is both true, but at the same time misleading.

Women do take looks into account, but in the overall scheme of things, to women, looks play a smaller role in deciding whether they'll sleep with you than it does when it comes to men deciding if they'll sleep with a woman.

Let me give you an example from my life for instance. I used to date a girl I was madly in love with. But because I was slightly overweight, I was always depressed, feeling I didn't deserve a girl like her. This bad attitude of mine eventually ended up driving her away.

But we stayed friends, and as time went on, she met another guy that she fell in love with. Eventually, I went to visit her and met her new beau, and to my surprise, I discovered this guy was 10x fatter than I ever was! Seriously, he had a good 100 pounds on me.

The difference was, even though he was fatter and not as good looking as I was, he didn't care. He allowed his good traits to shine, whereas I allowed myself to dwell on my bad qualities. And this great girl that I had in my life was attracted to those great qualities and easily overlooked his shortcomings in the looks department.

Remember that women are emotional creatures by nature. They are more in-tune with how they feel and therefore more susceptible to their emotions.

What does this mean?

That women may immediately be attracted to a good looking guy because he makes her FEEL GOOD right away. But if that same good looking guy is mean, or dumb, or turns her off in other ways and makes her feel bad feelings, she may decide she really isn't attracted to him at all.

Also, factor in that not all women are attracted to the same type of guy. Just like all men aren't attracted to the same type of women. Some women may prefer short men, or men with long hair, or fat men, etc.

It comes down to this: You don't know WHAT physical type a woman is going to be attracted to. So approach her anyway and find out if you're the one.

If you're wondering just how, exactly, you can approach a woman, be sure to check out my book The Art Of Approaching. In it, I give easy to follow strategies on how to meet any woman, any time, anywhere -- and you don't need to be male-model-good-looking for it to work! To check out my book click below now:#http://lovestroke..com/

There are steps to gaining confidence -- which attracts women naturally -- but it doesn't happen over night. It is a process.
And if you understand these steps to gaining confidence, apply them, and continue to work on improving yourself a little each day, you'll steadily gain confidence.
Women are attracted to men of VALUE, which comes from having an internal sense of self. There are countless techniques and approaches on dating that teach you how to demonstrate value to women.
I ask, "Why not simply BE valuable rather than having to continually be consumed by thinking about demonstrating it?"
Thinking about doing things to demonstrate is almost like working at 'faking' it. But the cracks will always seep through in the end.
When you have an internal sense of value, women see your value without you having to do things to prove it to them.
Then you just be your true self.
Now, I do think using these techniques can be helpful in the beginning, to notice and understand what attracts women, but the danger can be doing them ONLY to get a response -- this is just another way of trying to impress and being controlled by women.
Rather, start seeing what attracts women as CLUES that reveal the steps to gaining confidence. Then do it for yourself.
Attracting women isn't the reason -- it becomes the BENEFIT.
STEP #1: BECOME RARE BY FINDING A DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSE

Women are attracted to men who are rare -- or 'wild'. The steps to gaining confidence begins with becoming rare.
So what makes a man rare? And how can you take this step?
Simply put, ambition makes you rare. Because when you're ambitious, you stop letting others try to control you or do your thinking for. You develop and free your 'wild nature', along with open-mindedness.
Few people really know what they want out of and in life. Many guys accept their lot in life without a fight. To them, it's just the "way things are".
Then they end up at the mercy of everything in life that is not within their control, different powers outside themselves. These include things like their jobs or bosses, their family's expectations, the social circles or the communities they're a part of, and the women in their lives.
Guys who let these things control them will never be rare. Being a follower in life definitely has it's places. Learning skills means being a student, a follower.
But a blind follower will never be rare. Always know the benefits -- what you want -- when you follow. Always make the choice to follow, with a purpose behind it.
It's a paradox. Women say they want a man they can control. But they're attracted to -- and really want -- a man who is wild... a strong-minded leader. He's in control of himself and his direction, and he doesn't let others -- even her -- influence or control him.
This gives her something to trust in, completely.
How do you become rare? Find your dream. Know what kind of world you want to live in, what kind of life you want to live. And refuse to give more importance to anything else, especially women.
This is the first of the steps to gaining confidence.
STEP #2: BECOME SCARCE BY ATTACHING A PRICE TO YOUR TIME

Women are attracted to men who are scarce. All the steps to gaining self confidence lead up to each other. The first step is to become rare by becoming ambitious and defining your life.
The second step happens as you develop your ambitions and put your plans into practice.
Every man's ambition will be different. But find what you LOVE! If you don't know what it is, ask yourself this question...
"What do I enjoy doing so much that I lose track of time?"
With things we're not too keen on, we tend to see them more as chores. We can't wait until they're done and over.
We're just waiting on and watching that clock.
But with things we love, time isn't important because we whole-heartedly enjoy being in the PROCESS of doing it. It's not work. It's fun -- a pleasure.
When you've discovered what you love, invest your time and heart into it. Give it priority in your life above all else. And especially when you get to a point where you're working towards doing what you love full-time to make a living, your time becomes valuable to you.
And when your time is valuable to you, meaning you don't give it to people easily and you don't give it to just anyone, you generate an attractive force.
By placing a price on your time, you realize that the people you choose to spend YOUR time with have to enhance your life. This view carries over with women. They have to enhance your life.
Women can sense when your time is truly valuable. You begin approaching women with a qualifying mindset that comes NATURALLY.
And this really begins to happen when you...
STEP #3: BECOME POWERFUL OR INFLUENTIAL BY WINNING RESPECT

Women are attracted to powerful men. This statement can be a little misleading. Being powerful really means being influential in and of YOURSELF, without any external attachments like titles, wealth, or reputations.
Following the steps to gaining confidence will bring you naturally to developing your powers of influence.
It becomes a necessity.
When you have ambition and you're working towards realizing it, you also realize that without learning how to work with people, living your dream will be unlikely.
The quality of relationships you are able to develop, ultimately, is the gateway to living out your ambitions.
The foundation of building great relationships is in knowing how to give others respect. People trust those who respect them. And there's a whole process to giving respect -- and thus winning respect effortlessly.
The process is long, and I won't go into detail here.
But it is the transitional phase in the steps to gaining confidence for it is here that you start to communicate and reveal to others what's been going on inside you.
And more than anything else, women are highly attracted to influential men. Men who know how to bring people together in harmony with a purpose that benefits everyone involved.
The leaders, who are strong communicators.
These are guys who can walk into a social situation where everyone is keeping to themselves, and not too shortly after he steps in, everyone's become comfortable with everyone else. Now, they may not have been aware it, but he did this deliberately.
STEP #4: BECOME IN DEMAND BY BEING ATTRACTIVE TO EVERYONE

Women are attracted to men who are in demand. Looking at the above mentioned steps to gaining confidence, being in demand is a combination or effect of all of them together.
What does it mean to be in demand? Really, it means not being easy. It means you're selective.
When you have ambition, it becomes more important to you than any women. With ambition your time becomes one of your most important assets because you need to bring your dream into reality, and you refuse to give it to just any woman. You start looking for ways to be sure this woman is really worth it. And when you've become a powerful communicator who can positively influence others through your presence, then women want to win your respect.
And where does all this start? With your dream, which starts from what you enjoy most in life.
Find it. Know it. And work it.
Set the steps to gaining confidence into motion.
Women are interested in men who other women are interested in. Women tend to rely on other women's opinions -- especially when it comes to men.
Men who have a strong sense of who they are don't live their lives by their reputations or by what others think about them. But a reputation, to a woman, is important.
I'm not talking about an 'external' reputation here. I'm talking about an 'internal' reputation, meaning how women talk to each other about you amongst themselves.
I don't like going into how women think. It's too much of a maze. But in understanding how to attract women, it can be helpful to know this.
If one woman has a good opinion of you, other women will adopt that same opinion. Often, being wanted by one woman means that you will also be wanted by her friends.
Yes, women are competitive.
So by going through life and respecting everyone you meet, especially women you DON'T find attractive or you wouldn't be interested in, their opinions eventually reach the women you would be interested in.
For those in sales, it's like having a testimonial. And you know how powerful testimonials are in making sales. Word of mouth always wins the race.
And that can only happen by being truly valuable, which you build by following the steps to gaining confidence.
IT IS A PROCESS... AND PROCESSES TAKE TIME

Following these steps to gaining confidence is a process. And trust me, it does take time. It's no quick fix. It's no get rich quick scheme.
The only people who benefit from those are the ones who sell them.
But if you want long-term success in dating, as well as in life, follow these steps to gaining confidence and you won't be denied.
To those who study success, you know there's a big shift in awareness in the beginning. You know, you get those "Ah-ha" moments. Then as you start following the principles, change seems to be slow -- sometimes for long periods.
But it is happening steadily, even if you don't see it yet.
And finally you hit a period, where everything seems to start happening all at once and you begin wondering where it was hiding all that time.
Just keep in mind that during moments of doubt, remind yourself that the steps to gaining confidence is a process. And it's okay to have days where you're not performing at your highest standards -- or like you did the day before.
It happens... so let it. #http://lovestroke..com/

Do whats best for you #http://lovestroke..com

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I hope you're doing well. Lately, I've been having a great time. It can be easy to get so worked up over normal, every day things -- like work, school, relationships, etc. -- that it's nice to every once and a while take a step back and unwind.
That's what I've been doing lately.
And it's been a great reminder to me that we shouldn't be taking life so seriously all the time.
In fact, being able to kick back like this is a key factor in being successful in life -- AND with women!
Allow me to explain.
Fun is an important factor in being successful. You have to actually ENJOY the journey you're taking if you want to achieve your goals in life.
For instance, if you want to be a pro golfer, but you HATE golfing, do you think you're going to stick to your goal? Or will you look for something more satisfying for you?
I'm willing to bet the answer to that is YES.#http://lovestroke..com
The same is true of meeting women.
If you want to have a beautiful girlfriend/wife/whatever, but you HATE the process of meeting women, are you really going to end up getting what you want?
I'm willing to bet the answer to that is NO.
I get emails on a daily basis from guys lamenting about how much they want to have a wonderful woman in their lives, but they always add to that "But I hate going to bars, clubs, bookstores, gas stations, public places, anywhere with actual living humans, etc. What can I do?"
I think some guys would just prefer to sit at home and look at naughty pictures of women on the internet than actually go out and meet real girls.
This is because they don't know how to make meeting women FUN.
And let's face it, if this is a chore, then you're not going to want to do it, right?
So let's role up our sleeves and get our hands dirty, because I want to tell you how to make meeting women something you actually can ENJOY doing as opposed to making it something you HATE doing and are reluctant to pursue.
The first thing I want you to think about is what kind of a woman it is that you want. What does she like? What is she interested in? What does she look like? The more you know about the woman you want, the easier it will be to filter out all the girls you DON'T want.
Remember, the narrower your search, the more happy you'll be with the results you get.
The second thing I want you to think about is where you can meet the kind of woman you want. Make a list of all the places you can think of where a woman who's interested in the kind of things you want her to be would go.
For instance, let's say you want a girl who loves baseball. Where would girls who love baseball go? Just off the top of my head, here's a list:
1. Major League Baseball Games
2. Minor League Baseball Games
3. Little League Baseball Games
4. Sports Bars On Game Day
5. Sporting Goods Stores
6. Baseball Conventions
The list could go on, but you get the idea. So if you love baseball, and you want a woman who loves baseball -- GO TO A BASEBALL GAME! And while you're there, meet the women who are there too! Use the other qualities you're looking for in a girl to pick and choose which women you want to meet.
At the very least, you're doing something you enjoy anyway, so you're going to have fun no matter what!
But if you're still wondering what to do once you actually have to MEET a woman, you need to check out my book The Art Of Approaching.
In it, I'll take you step-by-step through the process of how to meet the women you want, quickly and easily, with no fear of rejection or failure. If you haven't already gotten my book and read it cover-to-cover, you owe it to yourself to do so now:
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And remember, no matter what, figure out how to have fun and enjoy the process of meeting women! You'll get much better results if you do.
Wishing you success,

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Many of the people who visit this site have been in some kind of "failed" relationship before. Maybe it wasn't even a serious relationship. Maybe you just met the girl, you thought that the two of you were perfect for each other, and then you somehow find yourself, fairly quickly, in the "Friends Zone".
You hate the Friends Zone. You hate the idea of ever being in the Friends Zone with a woman you are attracted too. You hate the idea that the Friends Zone is the one thing that, time after time, keeps you from getting laid.
But what you hate most of all is that you can't figure out how the hell you keep winding up in the Friends Zone in the first place!
It's the most annoying thing in the world! I know because it has happened to me over and over and over again. If you hate the Friends Zone, I know exactly where you're coming from.
There are no big flashing red signs that say "WARNING: You Are Getting Too Close To The Friends Zone!" You don't even know until you try to make some kind of advance and you get shut down. That's when it hits you that she has already figured you out and put you where she wants you.
I hate it. I know you hate it. Now I want to share with you why exactly it is that we keep ending up there.
I very recently stumbled upon something that showed me in only one sentence how you, and I, and everyone else, ALWAYS ends up in the Friends Zone without any kind of warning. Plainly put, it is something that we say or do, something in the way that we act during the time we are with the woman, that puts doubt in her mind about her feelings of attraction.
You may have been successful at creating attraction with her up to any point in time, but as soon as you start breaking the rules (i.e. buying her gifts, doing her favors, complimenting her looks, or being submissive in any way) you are instilling DOUBT in her mind about that attraction.
Get what I'm saying?
Let's create an example:
There is one hot babe, and two guys. Guy #1 and Guy #2 are very similar, except that Guy #1 doesn't get "needy" around girls because he knows there are always gonna be more girls in the world. So he doesn't try to hold onto chicks by doing them favors or buying them things for no reason. Our Hot Babe feels attraction to him and she knows it. Because he isn't TRYING to keep her, she thinks he must be worth holding on to.
Let's take the same scenario with Guy #2 in the playing field. Guy #2 is confident about approaching women, but for some reason he feels the need to try and hold on to them and win them over when they get distant. Our Hot Babe feels attraction for him at first, because he is just like Guy #1, but when Guy #2 starts buying her gifts, doing her favors, and giving in to her every whim, she starts to DOUBT her ATTRACTION for him!
Why does she doubt it, you ask Because she thinks, "If this guy is so needy to keep me, he must not attract a lot of women." Now she wonders if she even feels attraction.
Before you know it, she decides that it isn't attraction after all, it has to be something else, like guilt or something. She isn't sure, but she doesn't care. At this point she's put him in the Friends Zone and he has no idea what just happened.
My friends, what happened to Guy #2 is that he made himself APPEAR needy, whether he actually was or not.
Maybe he's really a ladies man, but our Hot Babe has some serious doubts now. If Guy #2 had simply ACTED like Guy #1 and not appeared needy, Hot Babe would have had no doubt that she better jump this guy's bones before some other hot babe gets the chance.
When you're pursuing women, don't let them ever, EVER doubt their attraction for you. They already want you. Don't give them a reason to think otherwise!
Happy Hunting, #http://lovestroke..com

[url][/url]If you want to keep your lady, and not be cast upon the broken-hearted heap of lovers she's left behind, you must get her invested in your relationship.
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something invested in you and the relationship, preferably QUITE A LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
And I hate to break it to you, friend, but there's always someone a little more "interesting" just around the corner.
So what exactly do we mean by getting her to invest in your relationship?
Think about a Vegas slot machine...
Imagine your girl slowly approaching it, studying it for a moment, tentatively sitting down, then popping a coin in and pulling the handle. The odds being what they are, she doesn't win anything... this time anyhow. So she tries again... and again... and again. Pretty soon she's not only got a lot of money invested in this machine, but also a good deal of time, effort, and hope invested as well.
In fact, the more she "invests" in this machine, the harder it will be for her to get up and walk away. Because she's convinced that if she keeps at it, keeps pulling that handle, eventually she's going get what she wants. The very next pull might be the one that sets off the JACKPOT.
Now if her girlfriend came up to her after she'd put only a coin or two in the machine and said, "Let's go. Wayne Newton's coming on in half an hour." She'd probably pop right up and head on out to see the show - Wayne being a little more "interesting" than the slot machine she's sitting at.
On the other hand, if her girlfriend came up to her with the same offer after she'd been continuously popping coins in this #*%#@# machine for half an hour, it would be much harder for her to get up and leave, and give up her "investment" in this machine... even with the mighty Wayne beckoning to her from just across the street.
Well, in the Dating Casino of Life, you are the slot machine. And it's your job, as a successful and happy Don Juan, to keep your lady pumping those coins in - and upping her investment in you - so that as soon as Wayne Newton, or some other hairy-butted diversion comes along, she won't be tempted to take off and check out his show.
Okay, so now that you realize the power of investing, the question becomes: how do we up her investment in the relationship so she's not tempted to leave us as soon as something, or someone, a little more interesting comes along?
Let's focus on three critical areas.
The first and most important area you want to focus on is EFFORT. You must get her to invest effort into your relationship.
Basically let her, ask her, or prompt her if necessary, to do things for you — from time to time. Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.
Let her make you dinner occasionally. Ask her to pick you up, or to drive when the two of you go out. Tell her your shoulders are sore, and "a massage sure would feel good right now." Basically, let her do some of the things for you that you, being the really great guy that you are, often do for her.
And, I need to point this out, it should NOT be difficult to get her to do these things for you. You don't have to trick her or force her to do anything. In fact, if she really likes you, she will offer, and actually enjoy, doing things for you. And if she doesn't offer or enjoy doing things for you, then she's only in the relationship for what she can get out of it, and what she can get out of you. And that, needless to say, would not be a good deal for you.
You do deserve a little better than that, don't you?
Second, you can also up her investment in you by getting her to spend some of her OWN hard-earned MONEY during the course of your relationship.
Let her pay for dinner once in a while, or buy the movie tickets, or pick up the pizza on her way over (and you don't pay her back). You should not be paying for everything. She should be paying for quite a lot actually. And this has nothing to do with this being the 21st century, and women being equal to men, and making just as much money, and blah blah blah. This has to do with upping her investment in you and decreasing the probability that she will move onto someone else as soon as you do something just a little bit annoying.
You don't always insist on paying for dinner when you go out, or the concert tickets, or the drinks, or whatever. You let her pay if she offers, or you subtly prompt her to pay if she doesn't offer. When the subject of your birthday comes up, you don't say, "Oh, you don't have to get me anything. Being with you is present enough." You tell her what you want, or you hand her your list.
Money, money, money. What's the point of her having it if she can't spend it on you?
And third, you can also up her investment by getting her to invest TIME into your relationship. Time, in this instance, means that you and her frequently do things that YOU want to do.
You don't always do exactly what she wants. Once in a while, you insist on going to your favorite restaurant, or to the ballgame, or out with your idiotic, obnoxious friends. There's NO investment of time on her part if you're always doing things that she wants to do. Heck, if you weren't around, she'd probably be doing those same things with someone else. It's only an investment if it's something that she doesn't want to do or wouldn't normally do if you weren't around (which doesn't necessarily mean she won't enjoy it).
Let's say that you and her go to the auto show, which bores her. Then to your favorite restaurant, which never has anything she likes to eat. Then to the movies, where you watch the latest Schwarzenegger flick (she hates Schwarzenegger). Are you going to enjoy yourself? Yes! Is she going to enjoy herself? Probably not. Is she going to complain while you're out? Maybe. Is she going to call her girlfriend up the next day and rip you to shreds? You bet.
Is this evening, which on the surface looks like a very very bad idea, going to increase or decrease her attraction toward you?
Well, if it's the first or second date, you're history. Sayonara, Baby. Don't call her cause she won't be calling you.
But if it's the 5th date, or the 10th date, or the 30th date, it might actually work to your advantage. Why? Because you've gotten her to invest some of her precious time into your relationship. You weren't doing what she wanted to do... that night anyway. You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to occasionally do things that you like to do.
You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.
But this attitude is completely contrary to that of most guys when entrenched within the thralls of a Goddess. The standard reply on date night is, "I don't care. Whatever you want to do is fine with me." The guy is crazy about the girl. He's happy just to be with her. He doesn't really care what they do as long as they do it together.
This is a mistake!
If you're always doing what she wants to do, if you're always paying for everything, if you're always putting out all the effort, she will still have, weeks or months down the road, nothing invested in you. And as soon as you get a little annoying, or as soon as someone else comes along a little less annoying, she'll be gone... and you'll be left sitting at home, wondering what you did wrong, and getting more and more bitter toward the opposite sex. After all, you treated her like gold, did everything for her, spent a fortune on her, and she threw you out like smelly garbage.
Happens all the time. The guys who treat their women like goddesses and put themselves out to try to keep her as happy as possible, without expecting anything in return, invariably GET BURNED. Let me repeat the key point in that sentence just so you don't miss it — without expecting anything in return. You must expect her to treat you as well as you treat her.
Now logically, one would think that women would love the "goddess" treatment. Always doing what she wants to do, you always paying for everything, her never really having to put out any effort. The novice Don Juan usually believes this is the way to win a woman's heart. (And there are numerous relationship books which will tell you the same thing.)
But as we're dealing with women, not Vulcans, our strategy must be a little different... taking into account the somewhat illogical workings of the human mind.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you. You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all "forgetting" you or demoting you to lowly"friendship" status.
On the other hand, what happens, in her mind, when you get her to invest effort, money, and time into your relationship?
Well, on a conscious level she may find herself somewhat annoyed once in a while — spending money, doing things she doesn't want to do, etc. But on a non-conscious level, she's looking at all the things she's doing for you, all the money she's spent on you, and all the times she's done things with you that she really didn't want to do, and she's thinking, "WOW! What a man! I must really like this guy. Look at how much I've put myself out for him. I didn't do anything like this for my last boyfriend." And it will be extremely difficult for her to just drop you and move on.
(This is also why it can be very difficult for you to drop the Goddess, who treats you like scum, and move on. You have a great deal invested in her. If you move on, like everyone advises you to, you lose all that you've invested in her.)
You see, as I've mentioned before, rather than thinking things through very clearly before we act, we often do things and then rationalize our behaviors afterward. You want her to look back weeks, months, or years down the road, and realize that she's really done a lot for you. That she's spent a lot of money during the course of your relationship. That she's got a lot of time and life invested in you.
And that she wouldn't have done any of that stuff if she didn't like you - A LOT! #http://lovestroke..com/