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Hahahahaha. That girl just lied about being dedicated to water abi marine spirit.

The flower drawn on her tummy was as a result of a sickness called udhe in benin. Can't actually remember the English name

I have it on my tummy too. Its usually the last resort parents from way back have to save their child.

What that udhe means is that something swells up in the tummy of the child and starts sucking the child's blood. So if after everything it didn't die. They simply use this flower drawing method to bleed the thing to death. Its just like you are performing a local surgery. There are various ways udhe is treated.

1. Use of hot cutlass to cut the spot disturbing the child. (I have this one it was
Used to draw a cross on my tummy

2. Use one needles to penetrate the skin of the child.

3. New sharp razorblade with uden.

Doing this saves the child.

Note: the child ain't dedicated to any water whatever its just a form of treatment.

And all those people saying Edo's are diabolical. Please when last did you visit the state.

One love brothers.

Now am not here to defend any typical Edo guy. But to say some plain truths.

If you have never been to Edo state and the rest of Nigeria please do not say trash about other people based on what you hear.

That being said. Let me now say something's .

The typical Edo boy is very arrogant,proud,and wouldn't want to stoop so low for a woman to feed him.

Fine I would have to agree most of our girls are prostitutes but trust me most of them went there on their own will.

The typical Benin boy doesn't want to hear that its money that made his wife or girlfriend left him. Men this set of men are so proud. That's why you see alot of them dying in the lybia-italy sea. Because they all live by a code that says get rich or die trying. (They have the highest rate of alpha males in Nigeria as a whole. One of the reasons cultism is much, they hate being oppressed. So they do what ever they can to avoid it. If they lack money they go all out for it.

Personally am a Benin boy. I grew up let's say in 6 states in Nigeria. I have visited 4 countries in Africa and 2 outside Africa and guess what took me there?

Business. Normally I won't have gone this far. But for that I hate oppression and want to buy cars like my mates spirit.

Regarding treating women rightly. Fine they are very polygamous but hey which tribe ain't polygamous in Naija (if you haven't sin cast the first stone )

So to me I would say a Nigerian is a Nigerian regardless of tribe.
#mosthardworkingmeninafrica.

So hey everybody. Just take it easy and Stop bashing other tribes. Yours ain't perfect.

Qoute me to insult me. But please when doing so say your tribe and I would open a can of worms for you.

This is an extract From www.strongfamilyblog.com

Children are so much better off in a nuclear family, and unfortunately there are far too many families that have failed. While both husband and wife have responsibility to build and strengthen marriages to provide a stable environment for children, there are many things women can do to protect and preserve their marriage relationships.

Because Children From Broken Homes Always Have Hard Times Growing Up,
Same applies to children from abusive or a home where parents are always quarreling.

So Below Are My Best Advice to make your marriage stronger and also avoid divorce.

1. Honor And Respect Your Husband: Granted, your partner may not be the same person he was when you married. But he is still worthy of respect and honor. He is an incredible person in his own right. Consider making a list of his most amazing and endearing qualities so you can remember why it was you fell in love in the first place.

Note There Is A Thing Line Between Honoring your spouse and becoming over pleasing.

So the best way to do is to learn to make important decision and always consult him to know his opinions before you carry them out.

2. Communicate, communicate and communicate: The fastest way to break up a marriage is to loose good communication skills with your spouse.

There is no substitute for talking regularly and about everything. Our Husbands feel intimacy with us when we share openly about our lives, our interests, our dreams and our expectations. A family therapist friend of mine suggests that husbands and wives set aside 30 minutes each day without interruptions where the couple can just talk together. Effective communication is an important way to strengthen marriage.

My Book The Happy Marriage Guide was written to enable you build good communication skills with your husband. I would suggest your get a copy here.

3. Have Sex With Him A Lot: Honestly a man that has sex alot with his wife have very little tendencies to cheat,

When spouses don’t get busy regularly, they can lose physical connection. “removing the expectation of having long, technical lovemaking sessions.” Whether it’s a quickie in the shower or making out like teenagers before bed, “10 focused minutes can build more intimate moments than many couples have experienced in years,” he says. What’s more, “this can turn into longer lovemaking sessions.

Sex shouldn’t have a menu of its own, take it like water,

Its good to have early morning sex and its a very good form of exercise {lol}

4. Forgive Quickly: Hmmmm this is my best part of this article…

Often marriages begin to fall apart when one partner or another holds a grudge. Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself more than one you give your partner. So refuse to hold grudges and have a forgiving spirit.

The Ability for you to forgive quickly would determine how long your marriage lasts.

Because a marriage where the wife is unforgiven pushes the man outside of the house, because no matter how hard you try to show you have forgiven him it would always reflect if you haven’t forgiven him genuinely,

And no man loves to be threatened in his home.

5. Don’t Hesitate To Get Help: If you are still having challenges, consider getting counseling or couples therapy. Often your workplace (or his) will have access to an employee assistance program or EAP, where you can get some initial help and a referral to others. You might consider starting with a trusted member of clergy if you share a religious heritage and then move beyond if needed.


For more useful marriage advice visit www.strongfamilyblog.com

That's my Nigeria number.

I am currently not in Nigeria, I came for a seminar here in south africa.

You can try calling me next week Tuesday I should be in town by then.

Moreover what part of Naija do you live?

If you live within Edo state Axis. Then its a good thing.

But if u live in the east. Maybe IMO or Anambra. I could arrange for us to meet.
As I am touring eastern states next week.

So call me next week.

Looking forward to rubbing minds with brilliant girls like you.

See you later

Osaro Destiny
C.E.O ekiema media marketing.
Entrepreneur with swag.

Am out

Chinwe. Honestly I am going to talk to you. Teenager to teenager.

First of all, I don't know how to punctuate.so don't mind how it is.

Now assuming you are a guy. And you find yourself in this situation. What would you do?

Now listen to me. Don't think marriage is gonna save you from poverty, honestly I know what am talking about.

Now let me tell you a story.

Am the first son of a family of four. Dad died when I was four years old.

His brothers confiscated all his wealth.
It didn't shake mum though. She managed to amass some wealth without remarrying.

Then in 2010 she did a business that went wrong. And we went from living in a duplex in festac town to an uncompleted building in benin.

So tell me is there any kind of suffering that hurts more than that?

Elder sis suggested what u just suggested now and mum didn't allow it.

To cut the whole long story short.
Last year. I won 3 awards and bought the former uncompleted building we where living in. 22nd of this month I would be 20.

Elder sis Now a fashion designer.
Whole family living comfortably. Although things are still kinda rough.

So what's the essence of my story.
Even as a girl you too. Can make enough to rescue Urself and your family from poverty.

If the guy u currently want to marry, notice u are marrying him to avoid poverty. He won't respect u honestly.

Contact me. We could talk extensively am interested in ur case.

Note; I don't have money to give u ooo. Probably gonna coach u.

Am currently in south africa. Would be coming home next week.

Send me a mail at osaro.destiny@yahoo.com.

Last bullet. Never ever marry for the wrong reasons

I Was reading Randomly Online And i came across this article, so i decided to share it with you guys on here

However happy you are before You got Married, there’s something about getting married that can rock the boat. Most couples wobble on honeymoon. Many find that once back home, things aren’t going as well as they did before the ceremony. Unlike During The Time Of Our Grandparents Whose Marriages Always Stood the test of time. This Days Research has shown that A staggering Four in Five marriages are also set to fail In Their First 10 Years Of Marriage.

So whether you’re a blushing bride or forty years down the road, how can you make your marriage work? The answer is to look at what effective couples do and apply their secrets to your relationship.

And Below Are My Personal 7 Secrets To A Successful Marriage.
Secret 1: Successful Married Couples get their deal straight

Marriage is different from living together. It’s not necessarily better, but it’s different. Both of you will have different expectations of a ‘spouse’ than of a ‘partner’ – often basing those expectations on what you saw of your parents’ married life. For example, you may have been happy for your man to live the student life before the wedding, but afterwards, you expect him to draw a regular salary.

Successful couples talk deeply before the wedding about their expectations of each other, and if there’s serious disagreement – for example he wants kids, she doesn’t – they think seriously about whether to marry. After the wedding, successful couples also talk regularly to check their expectations of married life. If those expectations clash, they keep communicating until they have understanding and agreement.
Secret 2: Successful Married Couples keep their individuality

However independent you were before, marriage has a habit of sucking you in to being a couple.

Particularly if the marriage involves children, your lives are increasingly tied up together day-to-day. The result is often feeling both dependent and depended on – as though you have someone constantly clinging to your ankles.

Successful couples know that, however much love there is, marriage can bring this trapped feeling. They encourage each other not to be always ‘us’, to take ‘me’ time, to have ‘me’ hobbies and even ‘me’ friends. This way, each partner brings individuality in to the marriage, keeping it fresh and alive.
Secret 3: Successful Married Couples keep each other centre stage

It’s tempting, once married, to forget the little courtesies. When you were going out – and still trying – you remembered the little things, such as serving each other first, and remembered the big things like respectfully listening to each other.

Marriage can cause a sea of change and often you stop being courteous to each other, stop seeing each other as important and instead start putting other things – like work, hobbies or the children – first.

Successful couples always keep each other centre stage. They are interested in their partner’s opinions. They take their partner seriously. They refer to their spouse in glowing terms when talking to other people. In short, they never take each other for granted and remember how lucky they are to be married.
Secret 4: Successful Married Couples learn to resolve conflicts

American psychologist John Gottman did a 20-year study of married couples and concluded that the main element that separated success from failure was whether they could resolve conflicts or not.

The bottom line is that unless the two of you are clones or doormats, there’ll be times when you disagree and times when these disagreements cause pain. Sure, you shouldn’t put up with addiction, violence or abuse. But if your partner simply wants something different from you or does something differently from you, you must resolve that.

Successful couples keep communicating, whatever the bad feeling between them. They negotiate differences and disagreements so that they both end up getting a fair deal. They smile and support each other rather than nag and whinge. They accept that sometimes, loving is more important than winning.
Secret 5: Successful Married Couples keep the lust alive

On your wedding night, you may rip each other’s knickers off – but to be honest, in the years that follow, desire’s going to dip. Plus, nowadays, marriage often coincides with the ultimate passion killer, the birth of your first baby.

Successful couples know that to keep lust alive, you need to actively prioritize lovemaking and make time and taking space for it. You need to make sure you’re constantly updating your knowledge of each other’s sexual needs, finding new ways to please each other.

Successful couples stay affectionate. If there’s a sexual drought, they ride it out by flirting, touching, hugging, kissing and being romantic.
Secret 6: Successful Married Couples grow with each other

The bottom line is that the person you marry won’t be the person you’re still married to in ten years’ time. You’ll both change – particularly at crunch points in your lives such as starting a family, losing a parent or facing the empty nest.

Successful couples know that one or both partners will shift in personality at these times. It can feel as if the rules have changed; what it means is that you need to change in order to keep up with the changing relationship.

Successful couples anticipate shifts and ride with them. Rather than demanding they both stay the same forever, they welcome the natural developments of personality and partnership that happen with time.
Secret 7: Successful Married Couples keep working at it

The fact that you’re married can make you rest on your laurels – as the years pass, you may feel that nothing can harm your bond.

But beware! Time and a false sense of security can erode even the strongest love. So successful couples take rain checks and keep having regular ‘where are we at’ conversations to make sure that they’re both happy with the way things are going.

If one or both of you is discontented, then fix the problem. And don’t fight shy of getting professional help. Successful couples don’t wait until the divorce papers are signed before seeing a counselor – they troubleshoot at the earliest possible moment.

Extracted From www.strongfamilyblog.com.
You can visit there for more useful marriage advice

Tinubu:
Ok
#bakfromban
Op, your case is very critical....
You like to think you don't need girls
But you like this girl
Now you are committed, the poor girl has fallen for you, and is trying to protect her investment. And you are now feeling like a Chairman.
You don't have time for 'Childish behaviors', and want to break up with her.
Please answer the following questions.... All of them carry equal marks.
Question 1- Are you gay?
Question 2- If you can't handle jealousy, why the hell are you in a relationship?
Question 3- You seem to have already made up your mind to break up with her, so what's the purpose of this thread ?
Question 4- Why is your diction and punctuation this bad?.... Doesn't your school offer any English language General courses?

Answer 1: No Am Not Gay. If i am gay i wont be in a relationship with a female.
Moreover with all these kind fine babes for school, na guy i go cum dy like?

Answer 2: Who cant handle jealousy? but when its too extreme, its another case, she is over possessive and am
in a relationship because i want to.

Answer 3: No i haven't made up my mind, i was angered yesterday when i created the thread.
But most of the advice that was given to me, made me realize i was also making lots of mistakes on my
part.

Answer 4: I am terrible at writing English and am not ashamed to say it. although i am fluent
in spoken english, and off course my school teaches english.

Now that i have answered all your questions. whats your advice.

sexyseun:
see wahala oooo!!! Break up na, who hold u b4? Were u expecting us to tell you otherwise? Do d needful and breakup b4 tomorrow morning

You dy find attention na. If u don't have anything to say. Kindly bounce off.

InZA:
Break up with her.

Okay boss.

Nairaland:
You never date before ni.. If a girl gets jealous because of you, consider yourself lucky.
In other news, vote Buhari come FeBuhari 14 and she'll never get annoyed easily again

No. Never had the time jare.

MizMyColi:
OP
Clearly you're not ready for a relationship, so why string her along?
Why do you date?
Do you date because you earnestly desire to love someone ideally or because it's a badge of warrefa to you?
From your post, you clearly aren't cut out for relationships, do her a favour and let her know the stance of your mind.
I agree that most times we ladies act irrationally, but given the scenario you put up above, I doubt any lady who genuinely wants a life with you would wanna put up with that.
It'll take a deliberate lady, one who has made a very strong conscious decision not to let her emotions get the better part of her to bear that.
In the end, this is just a case of selfishness on your part and lack of good judgement on hers.

I really love ur input madam. Truth be told. I love her. And have cut down excessively on keeping female friends. But considering my status. And extrovert nature. Girls must always stick around na. Moreover the girl I gave shout out to has been my friend for 2 years now.

Moreover she knew about me b4 we started dating.

5naira:
ask apc

Olodo ni ehn.

So I have this girl. That's super jealous and gets annoyed easily.

Now here is a short story so u understand .

Am that kinda guy. That believes girls are not needed in my life especially since am still hustling.

But being ur typical extrovert. I have lots of friends. Both male and female.
And am very popular in my school (S.U.G PRO) and a bit okay pocket wisely.

So I happened to like this girl. Who is very intelligent. We started dating.
But its 1 months we started dating. And this is the fourth time we are quarelling. For the same thing she was aware abt before we started dating.

She doesn't want to see me around female friends anymore.

The last one we are quarrelling for now. Is that I uploaded a pics of my friend and gave her a shout out.

What do I. I wanted to break up with her. As I don't have time for childish behaviours.

What's ur advice please

beau49:
Being ambitious is good but when it becomes too extreem then you need to check it. The not discussing irrelevant issues with people is understandable but try join in once a while.
It seems the money is plenty that's why you don't mind loosing it to these people .

;

Not really. Ooooo. I just believe In risk taking. The whole money is being made by the 2 off us. And if he carts it all away. No problem.

If you have a nice idea. We could kick off something

Being too overly ambitious.
Mumc b like. Why don't you ever walk with your age mates. Why must it be people bigger than you by far.

Pride.: yeah most people complains I am proud.

But truth is. I can't stay in a crowd discussing irrelevant issues.

Trusts too quickly; mumc don complain tire. The rate at which I trust people is something else.

Recently lost $2000 to a scammer. And I am still doing another business with an unknown person.

I don sit down for ground oooo. Waiting to learn. I must make money in 2015

First of all. I would want to say a big Thank you to Jehovah. Who supported me from day one. Took me. Out of the streets and turned my poor broke ass into a big boy within a year. Then big shout out to mumc who doesn't take No for an answer. Big shout out to my younger bro. Who gives me good ideas.
Shout out to all my employees at Ekiema Media.

A big thank you to all science students of National open university Ekehuan Campus. For choosing me as your S.U.G PRO

Then the biggest shout out to all those girls. That saw me hawking on the street and said they can't talk to me. Who is smiling now?

And thank you the person who opened this thread. Because it has never occurred to say thank you for anything.

Funny thread. Remember dreaming I was playing football. Rushed to a corner to ease myself. Woke up. And saw the whole bed soaked.

Ugliest nigga. Ever liveth. Proud to be ugly

Trizyd:
Put dis in health section, u might be awarded a front page

I am not after frontage. Just trying to help the ladies out.

This Article was Inspired, By my best friend {female}.
She called me some days back and the first thing she told me.
was she was feeling feverish.

I need not ask. because i already knows the reason.

After she dropped the phone, something sparked in My head and i decided to do a research and see how i could help her at least reduce the pains.

It is the result of the research i am posting here. and it helped her.

NOTE: This are not doctor's advice ooo, but it helped my friend reduce her menstrual pains.



Step 1

Lie down and apply heat to your abdominal area. Place a heating pad {You can use towel soaked In hot water} on your lower stomach as you lay on your back. Leave the heat source on for 15 minutes to help ease the pressure and pain that menstrual cramps can cause,

STEP 2

Take a dose of pain medication. Choose a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drug (NSAID) like ibuprofen {She used This One} or naproxen, NSAID drugs work to block the prostaglandins that contribute to painful cramps. NSAID medications are available over-the-counter at the drugstore or may be prescribed by your physician.


Step 3

Do yoga poses. Choose poses that promote relaxation and the stretching of your abdominal muscles, Breathe deeply while you maintain your yoga poses to help you relax your muscles, including your uterine muscles.


Step 4

Exercise. Add some gentle exercises, such as walking or swimming to help promote oxygen flow throughout your body so your muscles are able to relax. Stretch well to bring about similar results.

Step 5

Eliminate dairy products from your diet. Give up eating milk, cheese, yogurt and ice cream during your period, recommends Kirsch, to help reduce cramping as well as the amount of pain you feel.
Warnings


If you experience pain and cramps that get in the way of your normal functioning, see your doctor to help rule out more serious causes of your discomfort, such as endometriosis.

Hi. Great Women Of This Forum.

I want to quickly ask this question.

If you could get a permanent Solution TO Your constant menstrual pains.
Would you be interested in getting it,...

I am currently working with some foreign based consultants. who are busy creating
a solution for this problems, we would be launching it in the US....

I. Was 16 When my dad died. And I was left to fend for a family.

I Hate girls.

They are all evil

Please No cute girl should look at my Dp.

It's going to cost you. Your relationship

A smart and hardworking woman. Who wants to see you succeed is an asset E.g my mum.

While a girls who's is only interested in what you have to offer her is a liabilty.

So I would say a good woman is an asset. A bad one is not only a liability. But also depreciating investment

Watched some of this videos of this guy's outside Nigeria and I can tell you female fans are crazy.

And I can attest to the fact that women can do all this things.

I have a female course mate. Who told me that whenever and wherever she sees terryG she is going to make sure he touches her B.rea.st.

She doesn't mind going Naked in public to achieve that.

And even you as a normal guy.

If you are a bit popular. You would see stuffs like this happening around you all day.

#talkingfromexperience

Well not much to say. But I just can't believe that these are supposed to be the women we are gonna get married to one day.

Funny thing is that they are not even ashamed to say it.

Even the innocent looking ones

SMH

hi Oga my name is Osaro Destiny and i called you last night.

I just sit down and wonder sometimes how parents thinks.

Okay first of all am a teen. And I am going to be talking based on experience.

The real truth is that even with goof parents who relates with their children very well. I still see responsible girls from good christian background who is well grounded still rushing to date even at a tender age.

No matter how u try to hide her or talk to her. She goes to school. And see her friends date cute guys . With teenage Pressure and all. And boys with sweet sugar coated tongue she would be tempted to misbehave.

But when the parents allow thier kids to date and get to know the boy. And relate with them properly advising the 2 of them. Together. You would be surprised at how well the child turns out.
Just my own point oooo