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I grew up in my mom's family house so there's adults to watch over me. so security is fine

KyleBrry:
... You feel as though you're not connecting with the environment, I can pick the signal. Who will you be with here in Nigeria?

I TRIED and it wasn't about adapting i still felt like an outsider and i felt like i wasn't home. i don't know if you understand what am trying to say

KyleBrry:
... What IF you pick up the challenge, and adapt. What's the worse that could happen?

Thank you so much for the advice i really appreciate it! And its like you know Nigerian parents can be really difficult lol. i will get my points on paper and start rehearsing!

Libo45:
Dammy, so sorry about all the stress. Sometimes life can be like that. Most ppl will advise u to stay there and live the better life cos life here is a living hell. But the heart has reasons that reason can't understand. Home is where ur heart is. If u really desire to return to Nigeria, summon courage, make an outline of ur thoughts, rehearse, and pour ur heart to her. She may agree, she may not, but u're doing what is right. In the midst of this recession, many here still live happy, fulfilling lives. Agreed, Naija is a mess, but if ur heart is here, I ain't wrong to want to spend ur life here.

LOL please am not crazy o.i was just seeking advice from adults whom i believe might have a word or two to type.

Emescot:
Wait o make i ask... U left Nigeria when there was no recession abi? No wahala Come back! Tell her if she wont let you go u will slit ur wrist or become a drug addict, that works @deardammy

Okay so i grew up in nigeria up till bout 12 years of age.I love it all the school, my family and my wonderful friends and of course i love that i was always active leaving me no way of being overweight,Am not overweight by the way but have gained some weight.
It all happened in 2011, my mom started calling frequently and talking about how she misses us and how we will soon join her over in the United States. I was excited because i would get to see my mother but i wasn't excited of having to leave all the people i loved and care about behind.I even remember telling my mom that i didn't want to come until i was done with my secondary school as i was still in jss2. she said "okay no problem" i was excited. so July came it was almost time for me to write my exams but i didn't get too. on a gloomy day i got picked up from school alongside my little siblings. i had no idea what was going on but it didn't take me too long to realize what was gong on when i walked into the house i saw packed luggages. "You're going to America" my grandma said in excitement. I didn't know what to say i was very upset and not so happy that i wasn't even given a heads up or given the chance to say my farewells to my friends. Anyways as i cried my way to the USA it all felt good when i landed in Los Angeles and saw my mom! but that didn't last long i hated it and still do so maybe *hate is a better tense. I really appreciate my mother a lot for all that she went through for her kids to be successful. But i just don't feel at home here

I am 18 years old now and i want to move back to nigeria and school there am a little scared to tell my mom this but i feel i have to. especially knowing that i am not happy where i am. And i do plan on continuing my university in a good school.
ANY ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO OR HOW TO TALK TO MY MOM ABOUT THIS?

I WOULD ALSO LIKE TO KNOW HOW YOU LADIES AND GENTLEMEN WHO REACT TO THIS ISSUE IF YOUR CHILD TALKED TO YOU ABOUT IT, OR EVEN A YOUNGER RELATIVE.