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I've seen/heard of the 'side chick' in relationships. Here are a few pointers to determine whether you fall you are enrolled into the side chick association. Enjoy.

His House Is a Mystery – My dear, any man that really wants you around would want you at his place for one thing or the other. Contrary to general thinking, men love company a whole lot and if it so happens that you have been with this man for months and you don’t know as much as the street of his house! Dearest Nne, thou art a SIDECHICK. My dearest Nne, if you don’t know/haven’t met any member of his family or friends or he has never introduced any close contact(s) of his to you, you are a double sidechick. No two ways about that.





You Are Not Connected Via Any Social Network - When I say social network, I mean social networks and not Instant Messengers. If your “man” is not connected to you on any social network and you know perfectly well that he is active on those platforms e.g Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Google +, it’s either you are not good enough for him or he doesn’t want the real ‘MADAM’ to start becoming suspicious of his activities. Most probably, you only chat with him on BBM, Whatsapp or whatever IM media suitable for your ‘SIDELATIONSHIP’. If you fall into this category, you need to have a review of that relationship for you might just be a SIDECHICK.




He Is Always Busy – My dear, everyone claims to be busy but when one really likes/loves you, he would create time for you. Yes, there are men that are busy as bees due to the nature of their individual professions but if he is always busy when it comes to you, like 8 times out of 10, have a rethink. You might just be in a SIDELATIONSHIP.





No Random Meetings – If before every meeting with your man, it must always be planned or scheduled like some office meeting, there’s something fishy about that. He wouldn’t want a random meeting that would clash with when the real ‘MADAM’ would be around so everything has to be planned to perfection like a CIA covert operation. If this happens to you, SIDECHICK might just be the title for you my dear.




He’s Never Angry When You Cancel – You and him have planned to meet somewhere, someday and then, maybe before the D-day or on the D-day, you have something really important to attend to and you cancel. You inform him about the development and he doesn’t get angry! Not even the slightest of angers?! Whenever my MADAM cancels on me, I know how burnt I feel. Every man feels it. He might even feel relieved that you cancelled, after all, you are just a bloody sidechick. So it’s no big deal to him. Nne, I pity your condition if you fall into this category.





He Cancels A Lot – When your ‘man’ cancels a lot on you after fixing a meeting or a date without any tangible reason. It just so happens that the real ‘ MADAM’ needs his attention and it coincides with the date of your arranged meeting, who do you think he will pay heed to? The MADAM or the SIDECHICK?. My dear this is a sign sign sign sign sign sign (Echoes into oblivion).





You Don’t Go To Public Places – This is my personal favourite. Any man that is proud of you and proud of your relationship would love to show you off to his friends, family and anyone that cares, like a shoe he bought for Christmas. But it just so happens that this guy doesn’t go anywhere with you, it’s either you meet at your regular rendezvous or nothing. The truth is, he doesn’t want anyone to know about it! Either he isn’t gonna be with you for the long hol or the MADAM would find out through direct catching, one Madam’s friend or one tatafo around the corner(We all know them). If this happens to you…………… I say it with all the muscles in my mouth, YOU ARE A SIDECHICK!.



I reject every spirit of SIDELATIONSHIP in your life IJN (AMEN).




Uche.

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There's obviously nothing wrong with intertribal marraige except individual sentiments and opinions which is to each his own.

Dear ladies,


If you plan on holding on to your man and not just holding on to the bedroom or should I say "The Bed" only. You really need to engage your man. Men yearn for a woman they can spend a whole day with and never be bored, trust me on the this. Here are a few tips to engage that "Prince Charming."





Take a road trip (unplanned) - Just act like you are under the influence of the song 'Shut Up And Drive'. Get in the car, drive anywhere, everywhere, see wherever the trip leads(Hopefully not in a ditch) . See places together, take a few pictures, create those memories girl!. This time out helps you communicate, and understand your man more. Every man appreciates together time.

Cook Together - Cooking can be fun for couples when they do it together. Well, even if at the end of the day, he burns the whole meal, its still part of the whole fun. You both spend the time cleaning the mess up. To add more spice to this, try out a new variety of food to cook, go to the market with him. Then help yourselves with the step by step procedures of preparing that meal. Then, if all goes well and the kitchen doesn't burn to the ground . Food is served. Romantic eh!

Card And Board Games - We got monopoly, scrabble, chess and a whole lot more of these games. Play them with your man, the looser cleans the house for a whole week! Just kidding. These games can get heated up in the process but nothing is sweeter than a friendly competition. In the events of no card or board games, who said electronic games weren't there? Get some game pads on some game consoles e.g Xbox 360, Sony Playstations. Now play the day away.

Watch Movies Together - Now, I don't mean going to the cinemas to see some new movies. Ask him what movies he loves watching and you never can tell,you might discover new things. Get those movies, grab some popcorn and soda and watch with him while he cuddles you. Little things like these matter in building up long-lasting relationships.


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