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Too many guys get it wrong trying to handle this same situation. When u got a girl in a serious relationship, she should be in the know of what u going thru, she shuld share in ur pain, help with the healing (which in this instance, she actually has been doing). Except u dont see a future for u 2, there is no reason to ask for a break, its like shutting her out, imagine if this situation plays itself out while u r married, would u ask ur wife for a break?

Girl846:
I just have to say something, might be a little off topic but,

Why do people try to pass-off poor morals or promiscuity as being "modern" or "liberated"?  

my sister from anoda moda!!! God bless u for asking

adetoru:
Why are the guys here pretending,it happens jor
@ayettymama,it was my experience back in school,booty call turned to relationship for some guys it was soooo pathetic,even my husband ,b4 we became a couple,he was just the most stubborn of them all,followed me everywhere and kept asking "what are we doing?" and I'll be like "banging,duh"

r u saying u and ur hubby started as booty calls and eneded up marrying, and tht he initiated the idea of turning the casual relationship into somtin serious.
If all tht is true, why didnt u make him realise tht somtin serious wasnt in the plan
i can bet tht ordinarily, tht's his modus operandi, he is running 1/2 other chics right now the same way, but of cos, he no fit marry anoda woman when u dey house now.

^^^Amen!!! gbam!!

^^^ i bliv by now, u already have a decision or maybe close to one

Girl846:
I honestly mean no insults but:

There is always a story behind a girl who has reached a point where she freely gives herself away to different men meaninglessly and with no importance attached to it - in the defense that she just "needs to get her rocks off". A point where her self worth is detached from her body.
I believe we (men and women) all want to love and be loved. The only thing that stops us from achieving this is fear, a past heartbreak or a bad experience.

This is why we choose to go down the easy and often self-destructive route of multiple meaningless casual encounters. Where deep emotions will and the risk of being hurt will not be encountered.
You will not realize the damage it has caused right now but in the long run its effects are undeniable.

You wonder why some people (men and women) find it hard to be faithful to each other these days? People often deceive themselves and think that "once I get married I will quit my lifestyle and commit to my spouse". What a delusion! Past behavior indicates future behavior!

I think a long deep and serious self-assessment and reflection needs to be done.
May God help you all.

If anyone sees this as an insult, then the person is not really ready to hear the truth

Girl846:
Intimacy and love are originally designed to go together. We have hormones that ensure they are closely tied to each other.
This hormone is called oxytocin the 'love hormone'. It is present in both men and women. But it is present in greater amounts in women it helps them bond to their partner after intercourse and helps them bond with their babies after it is born.
This is why it is more common for women to want more from casual relationships than men (not that it does not happen the other way around)

When we try to separate the two- Bleep and love, the results can be disastrous.

Its all simple biology!

As for me, there is nothing casual about Bleep because the possible consequences are FAR from casual.
Imagine me winding up in love with d guy who sees me as nothing more than a medium from which he can get his rocks off or pregnant or with an std for life, all because I wanted to have some no-strings-attached fun? NO THANKS

At least someone explains it with some common sense. Most in here have chosen to play out their ignorance

^^^true and very on point. In addition, the fact tht he cheats on u, may not say he loves u less, for some men, there's a big diff btw love and sEx

^^^ just do as ur signature says