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So do nice guys really finish last? This subject has been the big topic of discussing since ages and almost every guy out there wants to know whether nice guys do finish last. You see there are a lot of misconceptions on this topic but the facts are only known to a select few. Now you are being introduced to the real facts. Read on to discover what the real answer is and put an end to the mystery forever,

Yes it's true- Well in one simple line yes nice guys do finish last and there are several reasons for that. You see nice guys make several mistakes due to which women are repelled.

They adapt to anything- They are willing to change themselves according to the woman which means they will do anything to be around the kind of woman they want to be around which is a very strong sign of weakness and women don't like weak men. They want to be around someone who is a strong decision maker.

They are highly insecure- This is one of the biggest reasons why nice guys always finish last. You see the problem with most nice guys is that they are some what insecure about themselves and they are not sure about their own opinion about themselves that's why they go around asking for someone else's opinion. At the same time they feel they are just not good enough and they will never find the kind of woman they desire therefore they try to be overly nice when they do find one. They have a loser like attitude which women dislike and that's why they finish last.

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To get us started, I will give you the actual psychiatric definition of someone who has the Narcissistic Personality Disorder just to make sure I don't leave anything out. This comes from the standard text, the DSM-IV, which psychiatrists use to diagnose people. Here's their definition:

A pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, lack of empathy, as indicated by at least five of the following:

1. a grandiose sense of self-importance

2. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

3. believes that he or she is "special" and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)

4. requires excessive admiration

5. has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favourable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations

6. is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends

7. lacks empathy and is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others

8. is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her

9. shows arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes

Have you ever met someone with at least some of these qualities? Chances are you were dealing with someone who was at least slightly narcissistic. I think what defines a narcissistic personality is someone who thinks they truly are, "the bee's knees". They think they are better than everyone else, deserve special treatment, and seem to live in their own little world. In common parlance: SELFISH. There's usually an 'entitlement' thing going on; where he/she acts like a king or a queen and expects people to drop everything to 'serve' him/her.

Unfortunately, many women have the experience of being raised by parents like this and/or being in friendships and intimate relationships with such people. They come to therapy feeling 'crazy' because they are angry with such people, yet don't think they should be because the narcissistic person has convinced them otherwise.

I'll give you an example. A client of mine, let's call her Linda, came to me because her husband had been having an affair with another woman and told her he wanted a divorce. They had two children who had just reached adulthood and no longer lived with them. Linda felt like she'd been hit in the head with a sledgehammer. When she got angry with him for being unfaithful and expressed her sense of betrayal and hurt, he said that she "deserved it" for being such a "lousy wife" for all the years they had been together. Also, he called her "frigid" and said that since she wouldn't provide sex, he was forced to find it somewhere else. He actually saw himself as the victim, not her, and believed that she had caused him to have an affair with another woman.

Not only that, but he called her "crazy" for being so emotional and said he thought she needed "professional help." He took absolutely zero responsibility for his behaviors, lacked empathy for the wife he had betrayed, and even blamed her for his unfaithfulness. He even said he realized that he was "too good for her" and was wasting his time with someone so "beneath" him.

When his children reacted with horror and devastation he called them "wimps" and thought they were being "selfish" for not being happy for him now that he had "set himself free and found happiness."

I could go on, but you probably get the gist of it by now. This guy definitely meets at least five of the criteria for "narcissist"! You've probably dealt with someone like this yourself- unfortunately, they're everywhere. My work with Linda focused on helping her to trust her own reality; that what she was feeling was not only sane, but normal. She felt unheard, abandoned, betrayed, and blamed for things that she wasn't responsible for. In therapy, I gave her the space she needed to feel her feelings and have them validated and to differentiate between what was "his stuff" and what was "her stuff."

Since she had no contact with him, I suggested that in order to find closure with her marriage and to move on, she could write her ex letters saying whatever she needed to say and not mail them. This is a very helpful technique for dealing with 'unfinished emotional business' when the other person is either not available to do this with, or not safe emotionally. Boy, did she have a lot to say! She wrote and wrote until she could write no more.

I also got her to examine all of the things she had internalized that he had said about her and to find the faulty reasoning in each of them. In this way, she was able more and more to externalize all of the 'garbage' that she had taken in from him and put it back squarely onto the shoulders of the one whom it belonged to- him.

Narcissists are some of the most frustrating and crazy-making people to deal with in the universe. My hope is that you have no clue what I have just spoken about because you've never experienced it, but I bet you do know from personal experience. Narcissism abounds in this crazy world of ours.

In order to protect yourself from people like this, use the criteria for narcissism listed at the beginning of this article to discern whether someone in your life may be narcissistic. Then do whatever you have to do in order to protect yourself from being a victim of this person and their insanity. There are a lot of good books and websites out there, which will help you in this vein. I suggest doing a search on the internet or on your local library's catalogue. Read as much as you can. Educate yourself. Then take the steps necessary to protect yourself and your children (if they are affected). It may be helpful to see a reputable psychotherapist as they will be able to give you helpful tools to learn self-care in the face of narcissistic personalities. Sometimes this means getting away from these people all together, and sometimes you can have milder but distant contact. The most important thing to remember in dealing with these people is that it is them who has the problem, not you.

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Seriously, forget everything you've read thus far. Any ordinary guy with a group of male friends will agree with one or more of the following reasons. These are REAL reasons taken from men as to why they have or would have left their relationships. You don't need a relationship expert to explain to you why a man leaves. Sometimes the answers are relatively simple. I don't provide any behavioral theories such as men not being breastfed or being neglected at childhood as a reason for leaving the relationship (although it may apply to some).

So for you ladies who keep asking yourself and/or others as to why men walk away from relationships, here's a list that I composed specifically for you in no particular order.

1. Nagging - This is an honest reason. Ladies, some of you don't realize it but you may nag your partner to death. There is only so much he can take. You may have to ask him to do things more than once but he will eventually get to it. If he doesn't wind up doing it after the third or fourth request, take a moment to find out why before you go into a fit. Did he just get off work? Did he just get home from somewhere? Did he just finish something that may require him to relax for a few minutes? If none of these apply, then he may be just plain lazy and you should be questioning whether you really want him back.

2. Sex - If it's unsatisfying or you are denying him to the point where he questions whether he is living in a monastery or at home, chances are this is a BIG reason. Is he being unreasonable or are you?

3. Love - This is one of the more painful reasons. He may have fallen out of love or may have fallen in love with someone else.

4. Attraction/Physical Appearance - Some of the reasons I came across were that men just weren't physically attracted to their partners anymore. This was usually coupled with falling out of love or at least it may be what triggered it. Remember ladies, this doesn't mean that you are not attractive. Men have different tastes, enjoy different things, have different pleasures, etc, all women are beautiful.

5. Excitement - You may not be interested in the same activities as him. He may be an extremist and want to go sky diving or scuba diving with sharks and you may just want to sit at home with a glass of wine and a movie.

6. Cheating - There are a number of reasons why men cheat. This could be a whole separate topic in itself but for purposes of this article I will limit it to the most common reason which is physical attraction. When a relationship becomes stagnant and/or there is little to no physical attraction or excitement in the relationship, temptation grows stronger. Particularly in work places where most adultery occurs.

7. Self Esteem - Some men feel emasculated or belittled by their partners to the point where they leave. Some may feel that they are not worthy of the relationship. This is one of those reasons that may require some professional help.

8. Kids/marriage - Some men may not want to get married or have kids. Some may want one without the other. Whatever their needs or wants, pushing them into one or both may lead them to walk away from the relationship. Anyhow, if the man you're with doesn't want the same things you want, you should be asking yourself why you are with him in the first place. Ladies, there are plenty of men out there that are looking to get married so don't stress yourself over him. Beside, if this was a serious relationship you should have known in the beginning as to whether or not he was interested in marriage/kids.

9. Commitment - Some men just can't stay committed. For whatever the reason they need to be with different women. Again, this is one of those reasons that can be better explained by a relationship counselor.

So there you have it. These are actual reasons why men have left their partners. There are a few additional reasons that are not listed here but these are typically the most common. I certainly hope this helps you understand or at the very least give you better grasp of why men decide to leave.

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The Top 3 Traits Women Want in a Man - This is Something Every Man Should Know,


Why do you feel men always have to work hard in a relationship? Why is it that some men fall into the friends category extremely fast even when they feel they did everything in the right way shape and form? You see women have a best kept secret weapon using which they control men and most men don't even realize this. This is the major reason why you must not miss this at any cost. Read on to discover how women control men and their true secrets,

They will show you a bit of attention and you will be lured- A lot of women do this in order to get the guy to spend money on them and the fact is that a lot of men actually fall for this trick. They might make you feel like that they are real interested in you and might even get into a very interesting conversation with you. Eventually you will realize that you have spent a lot of money on them and this might go on for several months if you don't spot it early.

They make you jealous- This is one very strong psychological trick they use and almost every man falls into this trap. Actually this is the real way most women get men to chase them down like crazy and almost beg for attention. You see they might start by showing you a lot of attention and after a while they might talk to other guys in front of you or even talk about other guys with you.

They will test you all throughout- You see they will try to know as much as possible about you and the more information you give out the least interested they would be in you. You must always keep the mystery part maintained if you really want some long term results with females.

An absolute must know for you- This secret is an absolute must know for you no matter what. This is the grand daddy of all which would give you the ultimate power to become a magnet towards which every woman would be attracted. This is only known to a few and you are one of the lucky one's who are being introduced to this shocking secret - Tell me the Secret

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3 Major Reasons Why You Will Never Get a Girl - You Must Be Aware of These Before It's Too Late

A lot of guys out there want to meet women but why is it that most guys out there are not able to find the right girl or often no girl at all? Why is it that most men out there struggle when it comes to the matter of getting a girl to like them? You see there are several devastating mistakes most guys make out there due to which they are not able to get the kind of girl they desire. Read on to discover what these mistakes are before you end up making the same,

Not making the first move- Most guys feel that they will go out and magically women will approach them and they would get a date. You see no matter how good looking you might be you will always have to approach women no matter what. Some of the most effective girl magnets out there approach a lot of women on a consistent basis.

Not making a good first impression- Now this s the most important aspect of getting a girl. You see it's often said that the first impression is the last impression and this is completely true when it comes to the matter of women. You must make a good first impression otherwise she will never consider you as a potential date ever.

Thinking you are average and you will not get good looking females- Now this is an attitude most guys have out in our society. This kind of thinking means you already know that you are not good enough and it will some what reflect on your personality. Women notice this and they would reject you even before you make your attempt. This is the major reason why you must never put yourself down and limit your resources.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women.

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One thing which is not taught in school is social dynamics and everything one should know about relationships. This is the major reason why a lot of guys out there tend to somewhat struggle with this subject. There are some keys you must know at all possible costs if you truly want to get some results with the opposite sex. Read on to discover what these keys are and achieve earth shattering results,

Maintain an emotional connection- Women are more emotional but men are more rational and this is the basic difference between the two. If you truly want to make them get attracted towards you, you must be able to make an emotional connection with them if you want them to be attracted towards you.

It's a combination of all the emotions- At the same time it also means that she should experience a combination of all the emotions to really get attracted towards you. You see she can not be happy all the time around you as that would make it extremely predictable and after a while she would start getting bored of you. This is the major reason why she must go through all the extremes a human can actually experience.

Make her work for it all the time- At the same time you should never be too easy to get or deal with. You must be something she struggles to keep all the time. You see when she has to work to keep your attention she would try extremely hard and her attraction towards you will grow instead of die with time.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know. This is something you can't afford to miss at any cost - Tell Me The Secrets

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9 Most Shocking Secrets Women Don't Want Men to Know, "

Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say. They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Read on to discover some of the most shocking secrets women don't want men to know.

Blonds aren’t always dumb- If you thought all of them were dumb than you are strongly mistaken. Hair colour does not affect a person's IQ. They only act dumb to seem cute or get you to spend money on them and if you do that than you are dumb not them.

Women get jealous as hell- They might deny it but the fact is they get extremely jealous even if their man talks to a random female or maybe a friend. She might pretend to act all nice but inside her jealousy volcano is about to erupt.

I am the sexiest of them all- Every woman has this mind frame no matter how much they try to deny it. Almost every woman wants to feel like the one and only beauty queen in the world as if nothing compares and demand royal treatment from all men.

Am I fat- I know you’ve heard this one time and again but let's all admit to it officially! No matter how skinny she is she would never consider herself thin. Almost every woman occasionally asks this annoying question- "Am I looking fat in this honey?”

They always lie about shopping- They might be out grocery shopping but always end up getting something for themselves which they thought was cute. They either try to hide it or lie about its price saying it was on sale.

Don't share secrets with them- If you have than you are already on prime time radio. Almost every woman shares each and every secret with her friends. They tend to share their secrets over a cup of coffee and have a good laugh over it. And yeh when I say secrets it means your private secrets as well ( he he) if you know what I mean.

What shoes are you wearing- If you thought it was a myth than think again. Women do judge a man by his shoes. So better make it a point to wear nice clean shoes the next time you walk out.

They know when you are cheating- Women have inbuilt instincts and emotion system which beeps and alerts when their man is cheating. No matter how big of a player you are you would always be caught no matter what.

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Chinese Women and Their Relationships With Western Men.


As you probably already know, China is a bustling nation with over 1.3 billion inhabitants mostly crammed into the Eastern portion of the developing country. With the rich cultural tradition of Confucianism all but destroyed in the Cultural Revolution that razed the country until the death of Chairman Mao in 1976, China has struggled to define morals and sexual standards for a generation that has grown up outside the 'Iron Veil'. In 1979, when Deng Xiao Ping announced "To be rich is to be glorious", China threw off the shrouds of decades of poverty and rushed full force into mass commercialism and materialism. As expected, the 'world's oldest profession' came roaring back into society, fueling a sex starved population that has been racing to make up for lost time.

All of which is good news for most visitors,

Even 10 years ago, a Westerner holding hands with a Chinese girl would attract scornful stares, and tourists could even be prosecuted for sleeping in a hotel room with an unmarried woman. Nowadays, Chinese women openly demonstrate a strong attraction to Western men, and it's not all about the money or the promise of a green card: a sexist home culture makes Western sexual equality seem like paradise. Western men have shown that a little manners and caring can go a long way in winning the hearts of women who have been marginalized for decades.

Older visitors will be thrilled to learn about traditions such as "the older cows must feed on the tender reeds", which is a parable dictating that older men should keep girlfriends far younger than themselves, often as second or even third mistresses to their wives in order to preserve their youthful energy. These modern day 'geishas' are often given nice apartments, clothing, and living stipends by their benefactors whose only mandate is that they do not sleep with anyone else and do not get, or stay, pregnant.

There are also plenty of financially successful women dating foreigners as mere sexual explorations into Western culture: having heard rumors of Western men, Chinese women are eager to put the theories to test, even though may intend to marry within their ethnic heritage. Still, there are many traditional girls wanting to fall in love, get married, and have kids just like in the story books. Due to a sexually repressive culture, many of these girls are uninformed about dating with casual sex and foreigners may find serious relationship drama can develop from a single one-night-stand in China.

The combination of these factors makes China a great travel destination for dating or even just mating, but as with any modern community, and especially one in the throes of an economic explosion; escorts, prostitution, sexual disease, drugs, and worse have become cornerstones of society; China's burgeoning sex industry offers visitors a plethora of pleasure, should one avoid the perilous pitfalls of sex scams in the land of the Rising Sun.

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Well may it be intentional or unintentional there are some thing a lot of men out there do subconsciously which often gets them dumped by women within seconds. You see these are some mistakes a lot of men make on a regular basis and more or less they don't seem to have any control over these things. Read on to discover what these mistakes are and what you should do about them,

Getting nervous around women all the time- When you are nervous she will feel strange in your company. You see because being around women is all about how confident and secure you are about yourself but when you get nervous in such ways it's quite obvious that you are not even comfortable in your skin.

Feeling that you might lose her as she is too good for you- This is something most average men go through when they actually do get to be around a highly attractive woman. You see this kind of thinking does mean that you are insecure about yourself and the very fear of losing her would make you push her away and you will lose her anyway. Therefore learn to control yourself and forget about the outcome.

Being jealous of other guys- Again this only means that you don't think you are good enough for her and you fear that someone else might steal her away from you due to which you feel jealous of other guys. You see the moment you lose this feeling of jealousy her chances of leaving you will completely diminish.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know. This is something you can't afford to miss at any cost .- Tell Me The Secrets.

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Well,indeed all three ladies are pretty. But really for me ,the most beautiful lady in second chance happens to be one of ISABEL maids, the one with the very dark hair. but can,t recall her name. Definately she,s very pretty.even without much make-ups or lovely dresses, she stands out, , THAT LADY IS TOOOO FINE, IF SHE,S ON THOSE SEXY WEARS ,VALERIA,ISABEL AND ANGELA PUT ON .SHE WILL BE TOOO MUCH.