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Sorry got banned thats why i could not continue, told u guys to read it up at voiceoutng, anyway here is the remaining 5

LACK OF COMMITMENT

Communication, Respect for one another and Committment to loving each other is what builds a long lasting relationship. The moment we show the lack of commitment into our marriage, then it begins to slide down, if one spouse is only committed to the marriage, it may become too heavy for him or her to carry, there by the spouse will let go, and that marriage will head for the rocks.

There is nothing as tasking and difficult as maintaining an healthy relationship, it is more difficult that running a successful business, it requires 100% commitment by both parties to make it work, they must be attune to each others’ feelings and needs, they must communicate their deepest desires and needs to their parties, they must respect each other for who they are.
When you decide to love, you will have the best of marriage.

DIFFERENT BACKGROUND

Different background does not necessary mean different tribes, it simply means different personalities, different value system, different beliefs’, different understanding of what love is. Some people know how to show love more than some people. Some people have different financial views, some men love to be frugal, save and invest in the future, some women just want to be lavish, spend, spend and spend.

Some men are reserved and dont love attention, but their spouse may be an extrovert that loves attention and fame whereever she goes. You must learn to study your partner and know your spouse very well, because you guys come from different backgrounds and value system. Gone were those days where people married only from the same community that shares the same background to a large system, but now things are different, every tribe in Nigeria has its own personal beliefs and way of doing things, which greatly influences their reasoning and behaviors.

ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

Sexual Abuse, Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse by either of the spouse is also a major cause why marriages are breaking. Physical abuse of women is on the high side in Nigeria, where women are considered second to man, the woman considers her husband as her owner which results in men physically abusing their wife at the slightest provocation, but nowadays due to civilization and protection of woman’s rights, the women are standing up to their husband’s if she is physically abused.

Emotional Abuse, is in the form of excessive jealousy, and being over possessive, or lack of love to your spouse, both spouses are usually guilty of this, and it can lead to the separation of couples. Where a woman wants to know where the man is at, every minute, or on sighting her husband conversing with a lady, she immediately blows hot and confrontational, or where by you lock your wife indoors 24hrs because you dont want anybody to see her beauty, for fear that they will woo her away from you, those are all acts of emotional abuse, and it will suffocate your other spouse, and he/she will eventually leave the marriage to have some breathing space. Even though you are married, you need to give your spouse some space, and not cage him/her due to our own abusive habits.

PHYSICAL CHANGES TO YOUR SPOUSE

If i was going to rate the causes of divorce rate in the world, i will put this at number 2, a man marries a young slim sexy petite lady, but after 10yrs giving birth to 2 children, and she is not the type that really watches her weight, she has now become 3 times her normal size, her breast is now fallen, her stomach is big, she does not spend time looking good, but usually dresses like an housemaid in front of her husband on a continuous basis, sooner or later a man will begin to loose his sexual attraction towards his wife, and would not even desire to touch her again, you may say he married for love, and not necessary her sexual body, you are so dead wrong, before a man marries a woman, he looks at the physical, before he proceeds to the character of the woman, although he may focus on the latter.

A man who was extremely healthy when he married his spouse, then suddenly he becomes impotent, maybe due to natural causes or by accident, the wife will find it difficult to stay with him forever, she will easily go for the exit door. Physical changes is a major challenge for married couples after 10years of marriage, they tend not to still be attracted physically to their spouse, it frequently happens to the men.

Couples should work hard at their marriage, which also means, they must look after their body and try to stay attracted to their spouse. Good eating and exercise habits can help to achieve this.

UNFULFILLED MARRIAGE EXPECTATIONS

Sometimes when a marriage does not fulfil its expectations for either parties, it really makes the marriage unhappy. It may be the expectation of a child in the marriage, that is not forth coming, or it may be that the wife expects that their financial status should have changed, and its not. There are lot of unfulfilled marriage expectations and sometimes it leads to marriage breakups.

NEXT WEEK TOPIC ON RELATIONSHIP TIPS
HOW TO MAINTAIN A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP.