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Kobojunkiee:
You think cheating on him is the only solution in this situation that is why I asked if you are even a human being at all.

Kobojunkiee:
Are you some sort of zombie?

thesicilian:
Everyone is a hero in their own story

My husband is a good man, he cares for me and the kids. I know he loves us but I’m tired of his cheating ways.

He beats me at any slight provocation, calls me names like stupid, useless, a person without life. I have caught him cheating numerous times and the painful thing is I can’t cheat on him because it is irritating and I love him.

Since last year my husband has been taking hard drugs like (Colo) I have done everything possible to help him stop but none of it works. I have prayed, begged, involved his parents, fought him, volunteered to help him, but it seems nothing is working.

I don’t have friends to talk to, I can’t talk to my family about it because it means I’m putting my husband out.

I have spoken to him numerous times about this issue, he said he is working on it but I can’t see any improvement. He complained last week that all I do is to fight him so I took a step back only for it to get worse.

I have two beautiful children, a girl and a boy. And I don’t want my kids to see all this.

I believe I have supported him as his wife, friend and partner. Omo the story is just too long there are so many things he has done to me but above all he is a good man and I want him to be better. I’m just scared, I don’t trust him anymore. He sleeps with different women and whenever he takes Colo, he acts differently that I’m beginning to fear that he might hurt himself or me and the kids.

Please I really want to make this work, so I need your advise and tips on how to stop him from all these.

PS: we are all matured here, you don’t have to insult me or my husband before you pass your point across. Thank you all

Villa12:
we don't judge without hearing from the other side. Even the dumbest person on planet earth don't judge without hearing from both parties. Invite your wife to this faceless forum to share her own views.

gift2xl:
Dude each time am opportune to give advice, i am careful not to break homes.

First sir she is your wife.... have you sat her down or take her out and have a conversation with her. Most of our women don't know how to express themselves to their husbands, they assume that the husband mere looking at her should understand her body language and address it.

Note... Not every woman's behavioury altitude is "she's receiving another dick outside her husband" you see how your little daughters behave when they need something or something is bothering them. Even when you asked them, what's the issue, are you ok... they mostly reply "NOTHING" but something is eating them up. Our wife's behaves same. Patience, tolerance, petting etc goes along way to settle issues.

Be careful of the advice you get. Most men and women has lost their Good spouses because of wrong advice.
Time reviews all dont be in a rush to decide, give it time and you will know if it's your errors that's fueling her anger or not.
Peace!!

ScotHarvath:
Tell me how I painted myself as Christ. Everything up there is the truth. How do you make someone your everything without express communication?

Namaster:
"She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me."

That's a NEW dick speaking through your wife. You wife started tasting a new dick a couple of months ago and that's when it started.

She only asked you to stay because the new dick knows she's a LovePeddler and will not have anything serious with her. He'll fuuuck the shit out of her, though.

The fact that you stayed after being told to your face that you are no different from FAECES to her shows you have ZERO respect for yourself.

You have NO boundaries. So get ready for MORE. She'll start BEATING you soon.

You are the WET dream of abusive whores—an introvert with LOW self-esteem who'll SWEEP the house while a bitch is in bed SLEEPING till 10 o' clock. If you have a little money, your LovePeddler has hit the jackpot.

You'll NOT listen but I'll tell you anyway:

Get a DNA test for both kids. Then KICK her out. No matter the results of the DNA tests, KICK HER OUT.

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

adolphus08:
So does that justify her cheating or gaslighting attempt? Typical triggered female response. Work with the data you are given and stop creating fictional scenarios in your mind. Even if he cheats nko?
He is a man and it's expected. He can impregnate 10 women a week at the minimum. But women can only get pregnant once a year. So she should be happy he hasn't brought in other kids from outside.

adolphus08:
So does that justify her cheating or gaslighting attempt? Typical triggered female response. Work with the data you are given and stop creating fictional scenarios in your mind. Even if he cheats nko?

adolphus08:
Statistics say different.

Dshocker:
Compared to single mothers.

Na why the duty of a man or father is to install discipline in a child.

Women are too emotional and overlook bad behavior that needs proper morals in a child.

90% of wayward people on social media were raised by single mother.

Dshocker:
Most children raised by single mothers have questionable characters

MrSly:
My advice is simple and trust me it is not usual nairaland yan.

Do DNA on those two kids because they are likely not to be yours. If anyone of them happens to be yours then go for him/her. NEVER HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THAT WOMAN OF YOU DISLIKE OPEN RELATIONSHIP. SHE IS HAS NEVER BEEN YOUR ALONE. SHE HAS BEING COMMUNITY KPEKUS.

frozen70:
If you are ready to keep living with her forever, knowing that she may still be keeping lover and you are fully prepared to keep taking nonsense, go back to her and keep and marry her then plan for your funeral in advance

But if you know that you have had enough, just ghost her and rest then start your life afresh, that she has kids for you doesn't mean that you must marry her. She is too strong for your fragile heart