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Ok, I need advise.

I love my Nigerian Igbo man.    We communicate through skype but plan to meet in March 2011.  Have you ever known a romance to be successful VIA internet.

He is a very educated,  loverable, real and he bends over backward for me.  He has put everything in this relationship to prove his love for me.

Many, many sacrifices as well as his finances.  I really believe in him and I don't want to hurt him.  Any advise?
I guess I still believe in true love coming true.

We are both being Optimistic dispute of our difference in culture

Open for comments, Diane loving my Eddy.

@DaRapture

lol, I think I can help clear things up. EDDY2222 is actually my Nigerian boyfriend. i am Diane2222 which is an African American female originally from chicago.
We joined this site together. His name is EDDY and my name is Diane. We have not met in person outside from skype. He comes to the US in March for school and I look forward to taking our relationship to the next level. I would be interested knowing who this EDDY-girl is though, Lil.

In any case we are getting very close as we share things about each other. I am far from Ni eve and I ask all the right questions.

He actually have told many many horror stories concerning men from Nigeria. These are things you wont know unless someone from Nigeria tells you.
I believe its possible to fall in love with a Nigerian as an American girl and keep the flames hot.
Ii love my Eddy and he has pr oven that he loves me as well,

Diane

@ eddy2222:

What are you looking 2 know about the Chgo lady?

Most AA Women are:
smart, intelligent, respectful (2 herself, family, friends and boyfriend OR husband) hard-working, independent, friendly & beautiful.

NOW!!!!!!! what to look out for is what we in the states call "GOLD DIGGERS:"

There are two basic types of Gold Diggers out there:


1) The women who don’t give a crap about you.
This woman is only interested in herself and what she can acquire.

2) The women who give a teensy little bit about you.
This woman is only dating you because she thinks you’re the best she can do at this moment in time; she probably “likes you ok” but she will never love you.



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@N Danielle
Yes you did well on explaining and I agree with you.

 
I know that there are no perfect relationship.  Communication will be the key!

We want to be that of a story that does not n in dissapointment.  Of course as we all know,   I believe itspossible to find real love and that the International relationship between an american girl and Nigerian man can work.  What if someone said, all blacks in the USA is the same, beware of them.  I would be upset because I am who I am not because of being Black but because of my character, inner being.  Steriotype is what blinds us and not look within the heart of a person.

Well I am very happy with my Igbo man from Nigerian. I will be meeting him face to face in February.
I appreciate him wanting to find out more about me, "AA Girl from Chicago.
I love my Eddy so much. We meet via Skype. The time we spend together is to allow us to get to know each other.
I can really say that he has taught me about his culture.

I am normally a very aggressive female that in is charge. I have always wanted a man that would take charge and let me sit back in the cut as he take charge.

I love my IGBO man, Forever EDDIE!

Diane, loving her man!

  ThaT IS A LOVELY POST.  I don't want my Nigerian man to change.  I love him just the way he is,
He is so loving, caring and attentive to me and my feeling. He is a gift from God. Everyday is an excitement with him, even from afar.
I am blessed to have him in my life. I love him unconditionally!

Please tell me how it worked out for you. Did you stay or did you go.

eddy2222:
OK here i have my comment firstly i want to make everyone understand that Nigerians are loveable people most especially caring people but we must believe or understand that among even the disciples,we had one that set up JESUS,so am not saying we dint have the bad ones they are every where around us,that is the most reason you should depend on GOD and not your feeling or your investigation skills,they never work cos dis guys have lived all their lives waiting for such an opportunity,you can imagine he wakes up every morning and goes to bed every niter with such thoughts so you cant out ran him,am very sorry to everyone that has been hurt but i strongly say learn to build all relationship on GOD,I AM A Nigeria man it worked for me and still working,this is my African American relationship story PEACE, AM OPEN TO COMMENTS AND ADVICE

, I am so happy that I met EDDY, and this is a journey we are both on with our eyes open.  But what helps us is we both have faith and believe this is the will of God.  We are both strong believers. We trust God more than each other.
Building your relationship upon biblical principles with a foundation is a recipe for success.

WOW!  WOW!   I don't even know where to begin.  I have spent the last 2 hours reading almost every posted given on this thread. 
I am an African American Woman and would like to share,,thank you for the opportunity.

I met a wonderful man who is in Nigeria. We met by way of facebook.  I then ask that he do the skype and we both are getting very close each day.  We are both very open concerning our intention from the beginning.  I understand his drive and intention to help his country someday.  I am an humanitarian and completely understand where he is coming from.  We have since, grown quite close and entered to a relationship. I know many might say, how can you fall in love with someone you have not met.  Well its happening, on both sides.  I took him to this site.  He is not offended and agree with what most of the women are saying,  He exposed things to me about his fellow Nigerian brothers that he hope to one day change. 

We both believe in genuine love despite of ones culture.  I will be flying to Nigeria to meet him in person and his family. I have taken the walls down and I am willing to go where love leads me.  I know people are people and I don't want to believe that all Nigerian are the same, just like I had to get him to see that not all African American woman are the same.  We are both humanitarian and desire to make a difference in this world by changing the perception of our people.

All the wicked things about Nigerian he has taught me before I came to this site.  I didn't have to go to the internet to learn it.  He is a kind, loving man thus far and I want to pursue this relationship.  He tells me all the time how much he is falling in love with me in such a short time.  I must admit I'm also falling in love with him.  No I'm not desperate but I am open for real love.  I have had 2 failed relationship with American men, cheating, lying, insensitive ect), I can't say I'm perfect either. We all have our demons in life to occur.

Is it possible to meet a Nigerian man and live happily ever after, against all odds, I am optimistic and I am taking down the wall.
He said his culture does not believe i divorce.  He says he will not leave me and return to country to marry. 

He tells me he want to love marry me some day when the time is right.  I want to get something clear.
I offered to help him get to the US and improve his living situation by pursuing a career in the US based in his education and experience. He is very educated and smart.  He does not have to marry me to do that.

But, even when I tried to back away and tell him I will help him because I believe in him,, his answer was, he could go to the United Kingdom or any country for that matter to pursue his career.  But his purpose for coming to the US is to be with me. 
I believe him,, he has no reason to lie. I gave him the open door outside from marriage. I took out any excuse for deceit and offered him the opportunity with an open mind.

The bottom line is this, we have so much in common and we are drawn to one another on more levels then intimacy.  We are drawn together through spirituality, professional, humanitarian and the glue that will hold it all together is love. My faith is in God, not man, I don't trust him as much as I trust God. I asked that the door be shut if it was not his will, but so far I can clearly see love in the air.


I am open for any exchange on this subject.

Also my prayers go out to any and all women that felt any pain from men who are Nigerian, or any man for that matter.