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I'm sorry you had to experience this

Hey guys. Thank you soooo much for the encouragement and the advice. They made me realise I could do this. Meanwhile I'm travelling home to discuss with my parents today cos I'll definitely need their support if I'm to go ahead with my decision. For some reason I couldn't quote anyone or reply till now. I guess it's because my account is new. I thought to give a general response incase I'm not allowed to reply or quote after this chance.

I've decided to head in to my new phase with my baby. I will try to wear loose fitting dresses in the office for a month or so. This is to avoid distractions from coworkers and extra attention/scepticism on my performance. Once I start working, prove my worth (give them a chance to judge me with no pregnancy in view) I will confide in my boss or HR so I can ask for three days off in advance (even though recovering from child birth needs more time).

Which ever way this turns out, I'm trusting that it's eventually God's plan. I'll let you know as things unfold.

Hi guys, I'm in a dilemma right now and since I didn't have anyone to ask or confide in, I had to post this here. I couldn't post this in the job section because my account is new. Kindly read to the end before commenting.

So I just got a job offer from one of the top 3 banks in Nigeria, I've been given documents to print and fill and also given a resumption date. But I'm a bit worried it may end badly. My CV states that I'm single, but I'll be showing up to this job 3 months pregnant. I submitted months notice at my present job because if didn't resign and they found out about my pregnancy, I'd have been fired eventually (missionary org).

My dad coerced me to apply for this banking job last month (I didn't want to because of the pregnancy and single mum tag), but I had to because I didn't want to seem like I was lazy and not making efforts to assist my family (he would have known if I didn't apply), also wasn't hopeful about the job or expecting an offer so I just applied.

So you could imagine my shock when I got a job offer email days ago.

I currently live and work in a different state from my parents so I've not told them about the pregnancy because I'm in a messed up situation. I had the opportunity to abort but my conscience and conviction wouldn't let me, so I insisted on keeping the baby even when my so called boyfriend warned and threatened me to get rid of him/her. Anyway, summary is that he's not going to be part of our lives. Imagine telling my parents this cr@p. That's not the major issue because I know I'd eventually tell me parents.

I'm happy about this job, I'm not worried about my competency as a pregnant lady, I'm good at what I do and I adapt swiftly to any job role no matter the conditions. I'm just worried about how the bank will react. A single and pregnant lady showing up for a new position, the controversy and all that.

Please advise me on what to do from your experience as a bank staff or someone who's witnessed such a situation. Also, do banks have rules concerning things like that?

Thanks.