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Senioreddy:
If this is not a fiction, then OP I must say you no try at all.

This is not a fiction. It's true.

I'm an introvert person not that social. The truth, I am not too good with women when comes to dating. For years I have been reading different topics on how to date, treat and not to be nice to women here on nairaland. At one time I followed the teachings. I was practically doing all what I was thought here. I saw some level of success with me, but later I stop doing those things. I'm not getting younger. I wanted to be free, be kind and nice to everyone. Ready to settle down with, the woman I can play with, a woman that will respect, not have fear for me. I want to be flexible with whomever i settled with. So went back to my former self.
The reasons am creating a topic today is because I have learnt life lessons with a female neighbor. There is this girl living close to me. I was too nice to this lady though I don't have any intention of dating her because I perceived she was into runs. But I was overly nice to her. I'm kind and sometime gift her money.I found out that im not of a value to her. She only comes around when she is stranded. Once she get the help she wanted she moved. She never care if all is well with me but she always comes to me when she needs help. There is a time I try reaching her through phone calls because it has been I week I saw her. I was shock when she was busing the call and she didn't return the call. From that day I knew the girl didn't rate me at all. I deleted her number and I also heard from someone ,that thesame gir was calling me a fool,mugu for spending for her. She said I don't have the guts to approach her. I didn't feel border for those things she said. After all, right from day one I did not have mind to date her. I only take her as someone that I can relate with. Even if she still comes around I didn't change my behavior towards her. I treat her well.
There is some thing i observed about this girl she has a boyfriend that is into Yahoo stuff. The guy does not send her at all. The guy treat her badly. But the girl loves the guy with her last breath. She will sacrifice for the guy I mean Bleep other men for money to fund this guy. The guy no send her papa. He treats her like animal. There is one day i came back from work in the evening. She knew I was around she came out and greeted me. She was shaking. I asked her what is wrong with her,she said she was not feeling fine. I had to give her money to buy drugs, bought food for her to eat. The boyfriend that has a car didn't show up to her. When the girl get well about 3 days later I heard her communicating with a guy on phone. The guy called her to give her money. She didn't have transport Fare, she came to me, saying i should borrow her 500 naira that when she comes back she will refund. I gave it to her. She went to meet the guy and came back with a pack of take away food. That's how my female neighbor called her boyfriend on phone asking him, if he has eating. The guy replied no, na so girl carry food go give boyfriend make he chop. Omo that night cold catch me. I felt sick. This was the guy that didn't come for, her when she was sick.
I experienced life teachings that day. luckily I got another job in another state relocated .since then this girl won't let me rest with calls.