thorpido:
To be honest with you,you knew the kind of man you were getting married to but you decided to marry him all the same.He stayed in his parents' house till he was 41 ?
What kind of person will not accept a job of N200k because he doesn't want to answer sir while owing debts and can barely fend for himself?

As it stands now,you either decide to maintain the status quo or decide to stand on your own to take care of yourself and your baby.Don't leave your hubby just yet but let him understand if he still wants you,he needs to shake himself up and face reality.

Let whatever income you make be for yourself and your baby Don't lend him or give him any more money.Stay with your parents and try to save up.

You are right. I knew his kind of person but was desperate to settle down as I was already 30. He wasn't this bad then though, things just took a downward dive.

Thanks for the tips and for everyone else that advised. I'll really look into adopting them.

Thanks all