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Dpsychologist:
Let’s drop the sugarcoating and speak plain truth. Dating a single mother is not romance movie material. It’s real life. If you’re not built for it, you’ll suffer and she’ll suffer more. This isn’t hatred. It’s honesty.

I’ll keep it simple and relatable.

1. You will never come first. Ever.
If her child is sick and you’re having a bad day, guess who waits. You.
If school fees are due and you want a weekend getaway, plans are cancelled.
If you need to be number one in a woman’s life, this lane is not for you.

2. Her past is not theory. It’s active reality.
That baby didn’t fall from the sky. There is an ex somewhere.
Co parenting calls. Family ties. Old wounds.
If small jealousy already dey choke you, this situation will finish you.

3. Responsibility will find you, even if you run.
You say “I’m not the father.” Fine.
But wait till school resumes, rent is due, or hospital bills show up.
Reality doesn’t respect motivational quotes. Pressure will knock.

4. Her time is scheduled, not spontaneous.
You can’t just say “I’m outside” at 11pm.
You can’t randomly disappear and reappear.
Her life runs on routines. If you hate structure, you’ll feel trapped fast.

5. Emotional stress comes in bulk.
You’re not just dealing with her moods.
You’re dealing with a child’s emotions, an ex’s influence, and family opinions.
One small misunderstanding can turn into a full-blown crisis meeting.

6. Stability is not optional, it’s required.
Inconsistency is cute when you’re 22 and carefree.
With a single mom, it’s an instant red flag.
If you’re still “finding yourself,” please find yourself elsewhere.

7. You don’t gain what you think you gain.
She’s not there to build you.
She’s not there to fund you.
She’s not there to emotionally babysit you.
If sex is the main attraction, both of you are just passing time.

8. Manipulation can happen if you’re not sharp.
Some will gaslight you with “you knew I had a child” anytime accountability comes up.
Others will weaponize guilt.
If you’re emotionally weak, you’ll be confused and drained.

9. Society will talk and you’ll hear it.
Friends will whisper. Family will advise.
“You could have done better” will start ringing in your head.
If you’re easily influenced, pressure will push you out anyway.

10. Love alone is not enough here.
This setup needs patience, money, maturity, and thick skin.
If you don’t have at least three, you’re not ready.

Final truth:
If you can’t handle responsibility, structure, delayed gratification, emotional stress, and public judgment, don’t date a single mom. Not because she’s bad. But because you’re not ready.

And this applies beyond single mothers.
If you can’t handle real life complications, don’t date anyone seriously.

Dating is not sympathy work.
It’s readiness.

Be honest with yourself.
It will save you, and it will save her.


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This OP is just out to kill the hope of single moms.

I'd you can't date, others can do it. Don't use your stinginess to destroy others fortune, pls.

Mind u, I am a man not dating a single mom

SmartPolician:
I don't know why they are making former footballers who cannot speak good English commentators in football matches. Those guys should be managing clubs and national teams or heading football associations.

Leave commentary roles for sports journalists who can speak the language well because people often learn languages from those who have proficient command of them.

Thought I am the only one feeling that ugly arrangement

Mtchew....................................................................

Directionless wailer

Thank God you have realised that Trump has asked him to push you aside

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MufasaLion:
Very good news since the residents are not wise enough to demand for the security of their lives and properties from their government.

Do you know where they are talking about so?

Some persons can just be inhumane in their expression as if they survive in a thin air

I pray you have a little taste of such like one of my relatives that used to say Fulanis are not evils until they reached him in simply destroying his farm, then his voice quenched

Some daughters na regret

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Kaliningrad:

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I support Russia 200%.

If u like support the people wey colonize ur papa.

It's like trusting your rapist to not rape you again. Once a colonizer, always a colonizer.

Russia is the only White nation to NEVER colonize Africa. Instead they armed and trained us to free ourselves from the colonizers.

This is why the West hates Russia.

How has Russie helped you to come out of terrorism your uncles brought into Naija?

Should have been from countries that haven't met with Nigeria or Morocco in recent time na

The sports governing body most times make us underate their integrity

I feel they only delight in cashing out from us but not to give us the best of entertainment

Apart from the the centre ref and the ref assessor, all the rest na from our opponent countries we have beaten in recent time o

God help us

Stories....

A new wife is always more beautiful than the former on the eyes of a whorl

My own is for prices to drop generally, not the detail online write-up by govt and oil marketers

Her best lover is the one she failed to regard at his trying time.

She can't change to be a good wife even after meeting another man.

Let's stop be deceiving by the stage shows

May God help her heart in earnest

madridguy:
I so much like how Russia are dragging the war till Ukraine sponsors are weak and tired

Good cos you don't know much about the strategies and the long term plan

I pity the boy called husband here

seunmsg:
Less than 10% of Nigerians pay personal income tax. In fact, only those in well structured paid employment get to pay. Even at that, over 90% of them don’t pay up to 30%.

Again, it’s sad to see people ignorantly thinking their personal income taxes goes to FG. No, your taxes goes to your state government fully. Tinubu gets all the blame for the tax reform while state governors take every personal income tax. Even the VAT, states take 85% while FG takes 15%. Nigeria is probably the only country where the central government doesn’t take a dime from payroll tax. In US, Germany etc, FG takes the lion share from payroll tax. Not in Nigeria.

And who is burdening us with the tax?
Live for the truth

You no see many on your street and church?

You may end up having many male whorl here and you pain may abide

And she no even fine.

I wonder how some men give out their sex self

Russia keeps destroying her future by claiming Ukrain they will never have peace to have claimed, if at all they succeed

Na only una girls no good to marry out and convert ba

My dad's senior friend was a member who died in 2000s

Many Nigerians feel like they enjoy by taking early death substances.

More related are:
Salt
Seasoning, 'maggi', condiments,
Artificial sugar

You hardly see the new generation taking bitter vitamin rich veg/fruits or even using enough crayfish or fish to enrich their life

To shock you, the average lifespan of the victims is at 47 years while that of those that choose the discipline in such consumption is at 65

Is this enjoyment or sick outlook?

I don't even get again cos I tire to read

The best second beat part of a fish

Prayer is the master key.

Any pain in life can be approached by honest prayer by both parties, unless they are not in agreement.

And if in disunity, I can't mind advising you the way you may not like

Talkisneeded:
She married him for money,he was never good in bed It’s just the money and protection that clouded her decisions…
Now the money is not really coming fast and thick,you want to get tired of him despite the man still caring and loving you respectfully…
You can’t eat your cake and have it oooo,ask Regina oooo


But again,what’s life without proper bedmatics skills seff,I’m here to solve all your woes

What do people who cannot have sex do in their marriage to sustain the marriage?
I mean those with physical or physiological deformities that prevent sex making

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Mikocake:
I’m having the feeling that Op feels the husband deprived her of her youthful life by marrying her off @22, but my sister let me tell you the truth, nothing dey street oo. I don’t know who might be advising or influencing you to feel inadequate in your marriage but there are no perfect marriage anywhere. I’ve seen cases like this and the women always turn bitter after leaving their husbands because they realize there’s no love in the street. Don’t leave your home to turn sidechick to someone’s else husband oo. All the problems you listed about your husband can be worked on. I think his inability in bed can be attributed to his habit of drinking alcohol which when cut out or reduced, will get better. If his father is still alive, talk to him about the situation or a male figure that he respects. And remember, please don’t cheat on him cuz once you do, kiss your marriage goodbye. Men who don’t cheat hardly forgive cheating oo

God bless you...
You are very experienced and very mature.
And I guess you are a woman in a responsible home

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Carot:
how do you handle billings

Billing... like financial demands?

If so, then not me. I am a very defined man. I love beautiful women in skin and in soul.

So, I don't give my heart to fake ladies.

My sex and money are worth a responsible woman

Summarily, I don't die for who doesn't die for me. So, no billings come in cos I cut of chat easily and I can stay alone for long without interacting with people just to avoid deeper relationship

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wazobeer:
Pls don't bring your politics here abeg! Was it Nigeria that made the driver overspeed? Was the road bad? Some of you just like to use every possible opportunity to vent your hætred for the country, it's too much.

People die in London everyday, stabbings happen. Kaffy of BBnaija lost his brother to stabbing, despite being an officer in the met police.

Damilola Taylor was killed in the same UK by racist boys. In Canada, a truck skid off the road and killed a Nigerian a few months back.

A Nigerian doctor, Akintunde Bowden was shot in America just mid last year.

All those victims in foreign countries, abroad didn't happen to them, cos they're not celebrities abi?

Abeg make una rest!

Sorry, you can't read for long

Another Gumi is talking again.
Worse than Pantanmi and the Buhari cabal boys

Very painful to have all this issue.

Just wish VO9 could control his temperament all times.

I know Look didn't do well for two consecutive occasions he needed to free Victor.

All needed was for the caoch to re- advise Look after the match.

At least there is a management principal.

I plead with Victoe to stay calm and play for Nigeria as he also learns gentility

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Pacesetter123:
Chai,e don finished be dat..ooo!
That show boy Osimhen go soon leave camp or maybe him don already leave the camp me I no know.Now another striker don leave again though him own reason dey genuine but all this leaving leaving don already scattered our team finish.
Make we kukuma come back home nah come rest.
Nah Osimhen start all this yakayaka for the team camp.

Just hear how you are yarning trashes with no meaning

Mum get well soon.

Akor will be okay mentally and will return on time by the help of God