₦airaland Forum

We should be careful with whom we choose to have a child with, get married to, and spend our lives with in this period.

To be honest, I don’t buy into the idea of growing distance between me and my child, nor with her mother, who has been the worst-case scenario in my life. I do my best to provide for my daughter’s needs, but recently she got sick and her mother has been dealing with the situation alone—caring for the child—while I provide the finances. It hasn’t been easy on my end either.

With all this happening, she is disrespecting me and building resentment, as if I’m happy with our current situation. I’m working hard to bring my child closer to me, but her mom being in the picture makes it a long and difficult process. I didn’t get it right with this one, and I feel like I shot myself in the foot by going with the “baby mama” approach as a way to have a child.

Man, it’s one of my biggest mistakes. I’d rather wait a long time and be well settled in life than follow that path for raising a child.

Sometimes I don’t blame men who choose that lifestyle, because women these days often don’t honor their men or respect the sacrifices we make to keep the family happy. I love my child, and I hate to see her upbringing go this way.