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MizMyColi: Bless You Tons Was that you who just sent me a PM?

MizMyColi: Dear, you might wanna take a total break from Him. Work on your needing Him. You obviously depended on him for Love and in the course of doing so, you seem to have lost yourself. You need to give yourself a chance to discover yourself, your values and what you really want. Perhaps your not giving him sex is a biggie to him, or did both of you agree not to indulge in such? Whatever it is, give yourself a break from Him. Learn to validate and pamper yourself from within. Get engaged in other things (sports, if you can). Whatever Happens.....you need to purpose in your heart to get rid of being clingyI and needy to Him. If you rush into another relationship, you might experience the same thing. You need to learn to love yourself unconditionally, and work on yourself such that you can attract the right man and sustain such attraction. We all need to.

MizMyColi: Did you see, or did his actions (which probably wasn't the best way to communicate it) tell you He needed time alone for his studies.

Look Dear, for a lady that a man is really into, He can never be too busy. He'll still try and struggle to reach out to you even if it won't measure up to what it used to be.

Did you two have sex or do something together which are against your or his or both of your values?

Do some deep soul searching, what exactly was the reason for the withdrawal? Seems to me like the withdrawal already happened and for want of not admitting exactly what the root cause is, you blame it on his studies.

Perchance, do you feel emotionally abandoned, perchance, do you feel like He stopped speaking your love language? Maybe it's words of affirmation or physical touch or acts of service or quality time or gifts?
That might have gotten you to act really frustrated and vulnerable.

In a nutshell, you showed huge signs of insecurity, which men are quick to label immature without seeking to understand the part they might have played in your becoming that way.

Are you still in school. Sincerely, to yourself now, despite your guy's character, do you see him as someone you can have a home with? Do you think he's willing to marry you?

Kindly reply

purplesummer: Be wary of guys who call young girls immature, it might be a ploy to make you want to disprove his assertions by sleeping with him so as to be seen as mature.
Be careful my friend, please be careful

MizMyColi: You Welcome. Mind sharing in few details what might have gone wrong?

pasqal09: E mean say u still be pikin for boy and girl mata

MizMyColi: Inability to reach a healthy and progressive compromise. Non-receptive to change. There are others too

meelorlah: He did

Tallesty1: It has so many meaning bro. It depends entirely on what happened, what the person finds to be immature. But generally I think the person is simply telling you to start acting your age. It means your acting much younger than your age.




But if it is from a girl then ignore her. Immature is a word boring girlfriends use to describe fun-loving-guys.

Ceasar1: [color=#000030] It simply means ‘You’ are only concerned with what you want without consideration of others. [/color]