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Considering my age maybe I'm too desperate to get one. I'm 35years.
Thanks for the advice.

My last relationship which quite lasted 3 years was with a single mother. I quit the relationship because i became tired. The stress of cohabitating with the mother and child and it drains me financially which i ended up having high blood pressure. Fast forward to 3 years of not having any girlfriend so this year I have decided to have one. Omo is not easy for me. Since January. All the one's i have been meeting are not serious and spent alot money and waste my time chasing shadows.
Last two months i approach a female coworker, she agreed we date.I later found out she is a single mother but that's not the problem. I had sex with her on the 2nd of this month, though with condom.One week after sex she fell seriously ill. She went for a test and tested hepatitis B positive. She called to tell me her results. Few days later i fell ill. I rush to the health center,i did series of test for hepatitis and hiv and others. Hiv is negative.The hepatitis comes out non reactive which means i don't have it and i will still have to run another test 2 months time. So i had high malaria and typhoid which i have treated. I'm ok now. My problem, am still not settled. I'm just thinking about my life .what if later i contacted the disease, if i for go for the 2nd test. And for the girl she still think we still dating and i don't know how to break up with her. I have ghosted her for days now. She always calls which I'm no picking. She sent a text she will be coming to my place soon. I need your advice. I like her she is respectful,understanding and caring but the health issues is the problem.

Goo0dHardDick:
https://www.nairaland.com/8654405/bought-girlfriend-phone-what-get

The above thread should be given the Simp award of the year 2026! This dude and many others are the ones who usually insult us here back to back, like some clowns asking me why I couldn't give a girl 5k on my previous thread.

1. Your sacrifices means absolutely nothing to a woman!
2. Women are extremely ruthless and selfish when it comes to their choice.
3. A woman wouldn't think twice in dumping you if another man who's better than you shows up to her.
4. Women always put themselves first no matter what! (This is exactly why she can cancel last minute on you without explaining anything. Or worst still she'll tell you NO)
5. Ebawaters, collect back your phone and other things you have bought for her, if simping will allow you to.

6. Women are always loyal to their feelings and not your sacrifices. The same phone you got her is what she'll use to call another guy who she'll visit to smash her.

Learn game or perish

First i want to appreciate you guys. I have received alot of bashing here. People calling me simp and others laying curses. And there are some guys here,that want me to get my phone back. I will say thank you guys for the care and advice. The problem now i cannot collect back the phone from her.
The receipt is with the girl and it carries her name. I'm just a stranger in that land who come to work there. I'm avoiding having an issue with an indigen that can escalate to my work place. I can't bear the shame if people find out I did such thing. I came here because it was a faceless forum. To pour out on what is bothering my mind.
I can't lie I'm not good with women. Sometime if am trying to be careful with them one way or the other i will still loose guard. All the things are just happening to me, because i am been pressured to settle down. I'm not getting younger anymore.

gracias124:
I sent 2k to a girl yesterday for transport since then she never pick my call. We agreed that she will visit me for coitus but i will have to send transport first, I sent and she never pick my calls.
Dont women have sexual urges?
I dont care about the 2k what suprises me is how she had been loyal on phone call before I sent the 2k

First i want to appreciate you guys. I have received alot of bashing here. People calling me simp and others laying curses. And there are some guys here,that want me to get my phone back. I will say thank you guys for the care and advice. The problem now i cannot collect back the phone from her.
The receipt is with the girl and it carries her name. I'm just a stranger in that land who come to work there. I'm avoiding having an issue with an indigen that can escalate to my work place. I can't bear the shame if people find out I did such thing. I came here because it was a faceless forum. To pour out on what is bothering my mind.
I can't lie I'm not good with women. Sometime if am trying to be careful with them one way or the other i will still loose guard. All the things are just happening to me, because i am been pressured to settle down. I'm not getting younger anymore.

jaxxy:
U should have being studying and testing her b4 u bought her the fone but we all make these mistakes as rookie toasters. U like a girl and u start doing things for her when she hasn't proven herself in terms of love, real care and character to u.

Never give diamonds to pigs cos they wont value it but will play with it in the mud.

as for the data situation her friends might be subscribing for her.

you shouldn't blame me much. I taught as calm, responsible and acting mature she is. She will be a cool headed person who knows what she wants. Not until i gave her the phone.,i start seeing different traits from her. We both will be online, she will be wanting me to text her first. If i don't,she doesn't text. I always be the first to text her before she will reply. Literally I'm just begging attention from her

fineboynl:
The funny thing. As she enter WhatsApp. She will message all her ex when done forget her. To show to them she have a new phone.

They will start to message her. She will go back to FB and tiktok.

The same thing with car. Some men buy car for woman. But she end up using it to carry the boy she love.


@Op almost all guys pass through this thing before. It shaping some but while for some it did nothing..

Thank you for the advice. My perspective has really changed about women now. The day i bought the phone and gave her. The next day she uploaded a video on her Whatsapp status. A cartoon video which she inscribed a text A LONER. The video was all about a character swinging alone. And a romantic song be played in the background as if she needs someone. At first i didn't reason it to be anything. But the subsequent ones she keeps posting draw my attention. You need to see what this girl is posting on her status. And she also beg guys for money and gifts.

angelboy01:
Exactly and that day I even hold receipt down incase she won call. Me thief, so make tables no turn. Haha

My bro omo to collect that phone go hard me. I don already make up my mind before buying it. if it sup i no go collect the phone back. The receipt dey with am, and her name dey the receipt. I don pay for my foolishness. I learned the hard way.

I Have been dating this girl for 5 months now, before i met her she was using an itel tourch light phone. I promise to get her a smart phone which we could use on Whatsapp because buying of airtime to communicate is too costly.

I felt maybe getting her a phone would kill boredom. After closing from work and on weekends she has something that will keep her busy.

Before buying the phone i thought she is that calm and responsible girl and giving me the girlfriend vibe though we have not slept with each other.

I bought her a brand new redmi phone on 2nd of April. But since i got her the phone she has changed drastically.

What she's posting on her WhatsApp status want to give me heart attack. I just new this girl didn't like me at all. I decided to test her. I called her a day before yesterday that am low on airtime, that she should help send me 200 airtime to buy data to open my bank app to do some transactions.

This girl said she didn't have 200 naira. She's looking for money to buy data for herself. In the next 2 hours i saw her online this the same girl that told me she didn't have at all. Omo i have spent for this girl. I love her. I think it is time to move on and count my loss. You see women matter count me out. She doesn't care i have been dating myself all along.