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I created a new ID to avoid mockery. I've been dating a Ghanaian lady here in Australia for the past three years. She's good, loyal, caring, lovely, smart and all that.. She loves me like mad. When we started dating, I made it known to her that I do not love and do not want to because of my past experiences, more so, that I wouldn't commit before I finish my PhD program. She didn't say anything and instead kept coming closer to me.

I' m the only son of my parents and extremely close to them. In fact, since birth, they've always given me everything I asked for.They've repeatedly said marying from my tribe is the only thing they want from me, and the only thing that would make them happy. Some people would be like why don't you talk to your parents? Believe me, I've been doing that since God knows when.

Herein lies the problem, I love this girl, sure! But I wouldnt want to displease my parents. I've finally decided I'm gonna leave her, but how do I do it without hurting her so much. Last sunday, she cooked, cleaned and bought gifts for me, and remember I've already told her to stop all that. I felt terrible as I was eating this food all because I'd be leaving her. I deeply feel for her, of course.. I'm human too!

The question is how do I leave this lady without causing her unnecessary pain? Has anyone been in this awkward situation before?
Your suggestions are really needed!