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Fear fellow catch me ooo, because she accepted to date me on Tuesday and she was in room that we kissed and smooched well well, she was on her period that night so we didn't go down. On Thursday she chatted me up that she want to have sex with me that night.I told her that I won't be available that if I would be available that I have tough and hard work to handle tomorrow that I need to retain my energy for it. She started asking me if I don't have feeling for her bla bla. I told her that we would have ourselves on Sunday that she should relax.

From that point my mind keeps running around, how could she be desperate for sex like this that I should be the one to be doing all this. Maybe she has ulterior motive or she is on mission. My mind keeps beating around and not relax with her move at all.

Donspicey:
Yea dat of instinct happens wen u re spiritual or very observant......

Bt d main cause is Masturbation and Anxiety...

He don too fantasise on the girl while masturbating...


He don bang her for him brain......


So her unclothedness no dey move him again.....

Not really, due to the nature of work am doing , I get tired easily and loss focus whenever I masturbate. so, I decided to have a girl to balance everything but what happened yesterday was beyond my understanding

Donspicey:
Yea u need to build ur sexual life bfr marriage cos its very important and neccessary......


But before dat happens,you need to:


Stop masturbation first cos it causes penial dyfunction......


Minimise ur love for pornography........



Minimise ur alcoholic intake............


Wat really made ur dick became Flaggid is ANXIETY....



You have watched porn and masturbated to the extend dat ur brain no longer react to physical stimulation......


And even if ur brain reacts,u would hardly last up to 5mins......


Ur dick is now used to ur palms only.....

I have stopped it already. I want to work on myself now
Apart from abstaining from masturbation what other things do you think I will do to get back fully.
Thank you

Pancakeey:
Maybe you’re not sexually attracted to her
It happens and it may be because you’re used to your touch

Try to spend time on pre-intimacy and maybe it’ll change
Many people get excited with people they’re sexually attracted to
You might love her but does she excite you?
Does she make you Hot by just thinking of her?

Don’t forget to practice safe sex too
Good luck on your next match

When did naira land start changing people’s words?
I typed F O R E P L A Y above and it’s displaying pre-intimacy

Thank u

Uzomacharles:


Just how many weeks,you don conclude say you don stop am....
Aboi u funny joor..

Apart from what happened yesterday .I have vowed not to go back to it because the effects are all over me now

wisewordd:
Did you consider if she came there with pregnancy to tie on you that you escaped?

Do you know if she have a deadly infection?

You don run dey blame masturbation.

Most times our instinct detects danger on its own, you just need to understand yourself and work with it.

If you tried another girl that same yesterday, your nigga for rise. Trust me.

Hmmm, alright thank u

lefulefu:
its psychological
i dont see a serious problem
here
could be u not sexually attracted to the girl or ur mind is not settled
try and relax and do it with a girl u find sexually appealing

I think u are right because I had erection this morning but the girl is very beautiful and attractive, maybe is psychological or mental stress

chatinent:
You need help on what actually? You need help being insulted?



Oga, go and get married! I don't support pre-marital sex.

I need to build my Sexual life before getting married. Very important to me

I have been a active member of this forum since 2013 but created this new account to seek for help because of the shame I have put myself.

The incident happened yesterday I Invited my girl to my house I took her to close bar at my place. So, after seeing Manchester match we went home to have fun. We started romancing and kissing when I decided to go down on her, to my greatest surprised my joystick refused to get hard.i tried all my best but no way. I felt disappointed and shame all over me.i decided to lied to her I was on drug that that's why and I will make things up with myself that next weekend will be great.
Throughout that moment with her she was not happy with me at all. I know that I have I lost her because through our chatting she likes sex very well.
Note: she is the first girlfriend I ever had though I have female friends close to me and I have had sex 2 times during that period my joystick didn't
failed me like yesterday and I didn't last long. I watched porn and masturbated for 9 years but I have stopped it three weeks ago and decided to have girlfriend to start enjoying it real but I don't know where it went wrong.
I need remedies for this, I want to get my sexual life back.the returning match is next weekend and I don't want to Bleep up again.
Trolling is not allowed abeg
Thank you