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I thought I was just playing with him. I thought he was just a nuisance in my life. I was used to the attention the "big boys" gave me and looked down on him as a "small boy". Now I long so dearly for him.

Ayo and I were classmates back in secondary school. Classmates in the sense that not in the exact same class, but we were in the same "level" (he was in SS3 science class, I was in SS3 commercial class). We met again a few years ago when I visited my aunt in Lagos. My aunt was the landlord to those he was staying with. Over a few days I was around we talked alot. i got to know his mum had a stall in my school in Ibadan and i usually frequent the place to buy stuff since it wasn't far from my hostel block. He schooled in ilorin and was in Lagos for holidays. When I finally left, we exchanged numbers and he promised to call me.

Over the next few months, we exchanged a few calls. He really wanted to know me better but the pride in me didn't let me submit to him. Most of the time whenever i went to buy stuff at his mom's shop, the sales girl was always like he asked of me. I had already changed my number by then so i never thought of letting him have my new number.

Eventually we got back in touch and he regularly came over to see me at home. I thought i was using him to while away time and just saw him as one of those boys i could tax once in a while, and tax him i really did. He eventually moved to Abuja for his youth service and every now and then i would call him to send me some money, something he sometimes did.

I remember what finally led us to part. For a while he had been asking me to come over to visit him in Abuja and i kept on telling him i would, but I knew I was just posting him. Finally just to test him, i asked him to send me transport fare and if he did, I would come. He told me I should borrow the money and he'll refund it but I refused. Imagine my surprise when, i think it was two days later, I got an alert for 10k in my account. He immediately called me afterwards and told me he had sent the money and he really wanted me to come. I promised him i would, but deep in my mind, I was like mumu, he wan date woman like me, small boy like him. I didn't go and i spent the money he sent. i later switched my number off for a few days, and afterwards I called him and told him I had come to Abuja but kept trying to call him. I know he knew I was lying but he just said he was a bit busy. He never mentioned the money.

A few weeks later he came to Ibadan and told me he wanted to see me. He came to my house and i saw he had bought a car and that was what he wanted to show me. He took me out for ice cream that day and when he dropped me back home a few hours later, he told me he wanted to ask me something. He asked me why did i lie to him. i asked what he meant and he said why did I lie that i came to abuja when I didn't. He said if i needed the money and if i didn't want to come, i should have just told him so. That statement made me flare up and I yelled at him. I told him some really nasty things that day. I told him that honestly, I had never liked him and was trying hard to like him. i told him I didn't care whatever he thought and he was a small boy to me. That if I was whining for a measly 10k, I wondered how he was going to get a girl. I told him 10k was chicken change to me and it was a sum i spent doing my hair. i raved and ranted for long and he just sat there listening to me quietly.

After I had let out my steam, he quietly apologized and said he was sorry i took it that way. He shouldn't have asked in such a manner. He should have let me explain why i didn't come and that he wouldn't ask again. He also said he didn't realize that was the way i felt about him and that he was only trying to be nice, and he just saw me as someone he really cared about. That brought my mind down a bit and before he left, i told him i really didn't mean any of what I said. He then tried to kiss me, and after doing some initial gragra, i allowed him to give me a small peck on my lips.

That was the last time I saw him . He called me occasionally but he didn't come to Ibadan for a long while. He later called me and told me he had gotten an admission to study for his masters and he was leaving in a few days. I told him once he gets to the US he should remember to send me some dollars and he said he will.

He's been away for a few years now and I realize i miss him. i miss seeing his face, i miss our talks, i miss his "ijogbon". I thought I was just using him for his kindness but i now realize that i had developed a little flame for him in my heart. I sometimes dream about him and i really want to see him again.

FL Gators:
2. Plz answer sisikill'ss question, am also confused

if u read my first post on nairaland some months back you will understand.

www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=286936.msg4066820#msg4066820

right now am at a loss. my eyes are so swollen from crying for such a long time. this thing happened sometimes last month and my heart is still broken over it.

Cockyzy:
@EMMANUELLAH: I HAVE READ ALL YOUR THREAD FROM THE LINK IN YOUR PROFILE.SOMETIMES IF YOU ARE TOO QUiet and reserved people would encroach ON YOUR RIGHTS.ANYWAY,I HAVE A QUESTION,PLEASE Answer it:what your birthday and month? Where you born within this date 20feburary-20March?.

why do u ask? i was born in april.

u are right. many of my friends and church members say i am too quiet. i try so much as to socialize as much as i can, but it is just naturally me to be quiet.

This post is to all of u who advised me to not have complete trust in men. I thought my boyfriend loved me, even from what happened to us (my previous roommates and us incident), but it seems men are generally randy goats.

One of these same girls i mentioned then, that i thot he said we shld stay away from, i later got to know has been sleeping with my boyfriend behind my back. I got to know one evening when i called him and he didn’t pick his phone. Some of my hall mates had been trying to warn me to hold on tight to my boyfriend, but whenever i asked them what they meant by that, they told me that “the mouse comes out to play whenever the cat is not around”. Iam not too good with parables so i didn’t really understand what they meant until much later.

I had noticed that my boyfriend was unusually unattentive to me anytime we were together. Ever since that day we were forced to have sex infront of those two girls, he had made a couple of passes at me again, but i told him no. Had i known that this is what i was going to later find out, i wouldn’t have been so rigid with him.

Last month, i travelled home to see my mum who had just left the  hospital after she was admitted for an illness. I had planned to spend the whole week with her at home and return during the weekend, but my classmate called me to inform me of an impromptu test one of our lecturers had fixed for Saturday morning. I had to leave home after only two days. For some reason, i didn’t tell my boyfriend that i was coming back to skool so soon.

I tried calling him when i finally got to skool, but he didn’t pick his phone up. I then decided to go to his room in the male hall. When i got to his room, knocked the door and opened it(being that he was the only one in the room, i really didn’t need to wait for an answer b4 i went in cos i had done so on many occassions in the past). I walked in and met this girl i mentioned earlier with him, both unclothed. They didn’t have a blanket or anything thrown over them, so i saw them all for all their sinful unclothed glory. I guess they had just finished a round or so cos they were both sweating and panting. I didn’t know when i screamed.

My boyfriend immediately got out of bed and started begging. Tears streamed down my face as i stared daggers at the girl. I simply turned round and left the room.

I refused to see him after that. He kept on calling, coming to my room, but i refused to entertain him. I told him that for him to have stooped so low to sleep with one of those girls, that means he never loved me.

I had planned to take on some revenge on both of them. Since she seduced my boyfriend, i had decided i was going to do the same to hers. My friends who had warned me before told me not to. I still have not decided whether i shld go on with my plan or not, but i am not happy at all. As i type now, tears are still streaming down my face.