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ethene:
for me I can't take it but if u know u can tolerate u can go on to forgive her but that would mean u have conditioned ur mind to take whatever u see. She is obviously not being truthful but then not to mean she doesn't love u. lastly the foundation of the relationship is bad, a 7-week relationship and she has spent 5 weekends with u that's not good enough am not trying to be holier than thou but u see on the part of ur gf it's a very bad one and the truth is any lady that is capable of going into such relationship is capable of anything including the one u raised.

have you forgotten she spent the 5 weekends with me, if you think thats a reason to judge her, then you should be judging me too, cos i asked her to spend those weekends with me, she works on weekdays though

what i really need to know is that is it possible for a lady to sleep in a mans house and nothing will happen, personally i don't think a lady will sleep in my house and nothing will happen, but i don't want my personal belief to ruin my chance of happiness

MsRoe:
Well, she did spend five out of seven weeks with you, which means she loves you the best. . It really seems like you love too, otherwise you wouldn't even contemplate this further. Maybe you give her the benefit of doubt. The beginning of a relationship is often messy, especially when there are FWB to disengage. Give her a chance to open up to you. By that I mean, imagine the worst case scenario and tell you would be fine with it.

please, i really do not understand what you mean the bolded

jay2pee:
You are still confused... I will advise you to forgive her and continue your relationship.... But warn her never to try such again... No one is perfect

i wish it was that easy

delishpot:
Well just like men, a woman can love you but still play away match. The point here is.... if you can not guarantee her faithfulness and you do not want to share your woman..... quit the relationship now. Cos these are part of the signs people ignore while dating that becomes a monster years after they get married.

sharing my woman is out of the question, its just that its hard to let go, this is really unlike me

maikbanj:
Bros,she cant love you and be spending nights in other Guys place. Please do not be deceived. Dont allow her use your heart to play Canterball

i really thought about this too, but she keeps on maintaining the fact that nothing happened, that she needed to attend a wedding in lekki those Saturdays(which was true by the way, because i saw pictures) and she didn't want to go all the way from ota to lekki those saturdays, so she had to sleep over at her male friends place, one is in yaba, the other stays on the island

this is her explanation

hi, my name is emeka, i am an active member of this forum, i had to create a new account to post this, i don't want the stigma of this obviously stupid question i am going to ask to taint my main nairaland user name, am really a force here, its just that i mistakenly fell in love.

Let me get straight to the point, i started dating this girl about 7 weeks ago, i must confess she is wonderful, except for minor compatibility issues she is everything i want in a woman, we think alike and reason almost the same way,to be sincere its been heavenly since we met. i really love her, i have been in several relationships over the years but i was really not in love with any of those girls, so this is a big deal for me.

the problem now is that is out of the seven weeks since we started dating, she has spent 5 weekends with me and they were awesome, we really enjoyed ourself (and am not talking about the sex alone). now the other two weekends, she spent with two different guys, she never thought i would ever find out and she denied when i first confronted her, but seeing that i had unarguable evidences against her, she later confessed spending the weekend with them, the problem now is that she is claiming nothing happened between her and the other men while she slept at their place, she said they are just friends, she has been begging me for a week now and i am confused,

the truth is i think she really loves me and am most certain i love her too, i am confused, i don't know what to do, i am really confused.
Apart from this cheating issue, we had no other issues, i really don't know what to do

i need you guiz to advice me, or do you you think i am being foolish, i really have insulted a lot of people here on nairaland about them being foolish in relationships, i hope i am not guilty of the same thing now