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i was actually looking forward to reading your reply to my message Mr. killjoy

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

My Answer to 1 - Have you ever wondered why like poles don’t attract and why unlike poles do?? Well that the same reason why men and women go together. Also when you are with the right person, you do not have to spend the rest of your life trying to be someone else, because the person takes you for you.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

My Answer to 2 - Really?, love doesn’t exist?, if love doesn’t exist why did you point out in 4. That “your mother loves you like die?”. And I would like to point out something very important from your second point. You said and I quote Experience has thought me that a woman’s love is only skin deep.” That note that is your experience. Well for me I will tell you that loving the right person is a whole different ball.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

My Answer to 3 - I actually agree with you on this point, but I would like to point out the fact that even you said it “ never, never get married just to have kids, that actually is a dumb reason to get married, cos one day those kids will grow up and leave and you will be left with that person alone. Instead marry a friend, someone who gets your jokes, who understands when you would like to be left alone and who knows when to bug you, marry someone your truly love.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

My Answer to 4 - I will just leave you with these two verses (so I don’t bore you with too much info) Proverbs 31:10 – 31 and Proverbs 8:11

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

My Answer to 5 - Most ladies you’ve met don’t have plans of making money because its either you made yourself out to be what you are not (rich enough to take care of them all by yourself) or because you do not go for ladies who dream big and actually don’t plan their life around a man so you can feel better about yourself. Of course if you go for this type of women you’ll have problems when you can’t provide for them. I am working and so is my husband and we both take care of our family and ourselves. No one has to bear the burden alone, it’s called support (the thing the neck does for the head). Also for your information that 5 days a month PMS she suffers is the only way your mother was able to bring you into this world, so it something you should be thankful for.

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb Bottom name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

[b]My Answer to 6 - First I appreciate the fact that you said MAY, that means there is the possibility that it won’t take place. When you go through all your causes of Divorce, you’ll see that it just takes a discipline and determined person to avoid all that.
1. She gained weight – most probably after having your kids, why not encourage her to gym and while you are at it join her because I’m probably sure you have gained weight too, although she doesn’t make so much fuss about it.
2. Sex gone stale – spice it up, look up new sex positions, leave the house (take her to a nice hotel or vacation spot and do it), stop laying on your back and expecting her to ride you all day and one more thing have you ever tried pleasuring her, or is it always about you?.
3. The LOVE only fades when you let it, as I said spice things up and try new things, why not take charge of the kitchen for a change and let her wash the car instead, I’m sure whatever you cook up (yes even that meal with too much salt) will be lovely to her.
4. You want a new woman – that’s just an excuse to be promiscuous, I heard a saying once “ cheating is easy, why not try something challenging and stay faithful (I doubt someone like you can do that , from your write up you like the easy way out of things).
5. She is no longer the woman you married – how can she be when all you do is oppress her, and make her feel unloved. When dating a girl, you call her every day, send her loving text, take her out for dates and buy her surprise gifts, just because you love her, but when you get married, she just becomes another house furniture, tell me how she won’t change. Tell me when last you sent a surprise to your wife for no reason, just to show her how much you love her.[/b]


7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will slowpoke you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

My Answer to 7 - Behind every successful man is a strong and intelligent woman. I’ll leave you with this article, written by a successful man Carmine Gallo http://www.askmen.com/money/successful_100/147_success.html
I know sometime it seem less stressful to take the easy way out, and yes everything has it’s good side and bad side (like you do) but let me tell you this God did not make a mistake in instituting marriage, when you meet the right person, marriage is actually the best gift you’ll ever get.