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blackpanthar:
you can drop your message here. I may take long before replying emails

Can you mentor me?

blackpanthar:
are they self sustaining? LIKE WEB DESIGN, DIGITAL SEO MARKETING, COPY WRITING?

I mean stuff you can use to make money ON YOUR OWN WITHOUT WAITING FOR EMPLOYMENT

Hi blackpanthar,

I would like to email you.

Can I do that?

blackpanthar:
are they self sustaining? LIKE WEB DESIGN, DIGITAL SEO MARKETING, COPY WRITING?

I mean stuff you can use to make money ON YOUR OWN WITHOUT WAITING FOR EMPLOYMENT

Yes. Can I send you an email?

blackpanthar:
lol BRO, your best life starts the day you stop REGRETTING.

See, you can learn DIGITAL SKILLS.... and WORK REMOTELY.

YOU ALSO NEED TO GO OUT AND JOIN SEVERAL COMMUNITIES, WHERE YOU CAN MAKE NEW FRIENDS, HAVE A LIFESTYLE CHANGE and you will begin to see changes.

You also need a MENTOR to hold your hand and show you the ropes till you succeed.

I wish you well,
see you at the top

Thank you. I have some digital skill already

MrBrownJay1:
all you people who value your life upon the achievements of others can never succeed in life, because you fail to understand that there will always be someone out there who has a better life than you... and equally fail to see the ones who have a life way worse than yours.

Thank you

IyaTola:
I can sense the frustration, self-doubt, and despair in your words. First, please know that you're not alone, and many people face similar struggles.

*You are not a failure*

At 41, you've got experience, skills, and knowledge. Recognize your strengths and accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem.

*Breaking free from low self-esteem and fear*

1. Acknowledge and accept your emotions.
2. Identify negative self-talk patterns and challenge them.
3. Focus on your strengths, skills, and achievements.
4. Set realistic, achievable goals.
5. Celebrate small victories.
6. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist.
7. Practice self-care (exercise, meditation, hobbies).
8. Learn to reframe failure as an opportunity for growth.

*Overcoming fear of failure*

1. Recognize that failure is a natural part of growth.
2. Break down large goals into smaller, manageable tasks.
3. Develop a growth mindset.
4. Take calculated risks.
5. Learn from others' successes and failures.
6. Practice positive self-talk.
7. Visualize success.

*Revitalizing your career*

1. Update your skills to match industry demands.
2. Network and attend industry events.
3. Highlight transferable skills.
4. Consider freelancing or consulting.
5. Explore related industries or roles.
6. Create a strong online presence (LinkedIn, personal website).
7. Seek guidance from mentors or career coaches.

*Starting fresh*

1. Don't view it as starting from scratch; leverage your experience.
2. Focus on building a strong foundation.
3. Set clear goals and timelines.
4. Surround yourself with supportive people.
5. Stay positive and persistent.

*Depression and mental health*

1. Seek professional help (therapist, counselor).
2. Talk to trusted friends or family.
3. Practice self-care.
4. Join support groups.
5. Prioritize mental health.

*You can still make it at 41*

Many successful individuals achieved their goals later in life:

- J.K. Rowling published Harry Potter at 32.
- Stan Lee created his first comic at 39.
- Vera Wang became a fashion designer at 40.
- Julia Child published her first cookbook at 49.

*Actionable steps*

1. Schedule a therapy session.
2. Create a list of your strengths and accomplishments.
3. Set specific, achievable goals.
4. Reach out to friends or mentors for support.
5. Start learning new skills or updating existing ones.

Remember, your life is not wasted. You have the power to change your narrative. Take small steps, and progress will follow.

Keep in mind that I'm not a mental health professional. If you're struggling with depression or severe anxiety, please seek immediate help from a qualified professional.

Thanks you

ZzZzzzzzzzzzzzz:
If you can't post with your actual monika that explains alot about you.
You are either a bad person or a troll who has been promoting all sort of negativity

hmmm, You have judged me as a bad person because I did not post with my original moniker

ActiveFarms:
Go for these practices


1. POS and then learn driving on the side. After three months come back and testify

Thanks for your input

I don't have capital to start these things

I have been a nairalander for years now with another account but I created this one for the purpose

I am 41 without any accomplishment. Single and broke.

I have a low self esteem that I am always afraid of the unknown. I have been fighting this for years but to no avail

My friends I started with in the industry are doing very well but I am still at the bottom.

I missed so many opportunities because I was thinking I could not handle it.

Even though my friends believe in me but fear always ruin it for me.

I hardly apply for jobs and get interviews because of fear of failure.

I have worked hard, learnt so many things and master of none.

My industry is now saturated and to get a job now is very much harder.

And if I want to get another job I will be starting out afresh and companies are looking for experienced people.

The knowledge I have is already phasing out.

I am full of regrets and confused. I feel I have wasted my life.

Can I still make at this age? How do I remove this low self esteem? I am getting depressed as everyday passes by.

I am currently working in a startup