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Let do some thinking together before thread crashers destroy the thread.

Another point on your list is the temperament.

You see, I agree with you that when woman bottle up anger, it can be dangerous. However, the danger lies not in failing to express her emotion but in ability to let go. If after she revealed your old sins, she forgive and forget then it is safe. If however, she does not forgive, please do deeper meditation about her.

Quick temper is however worse. If I had to slap you every time you offend me and later beg you, then, you will carry lot of scars that would make you hate me each time you look at yourself. I hope you get the point of that parable?

Do some thinking! Oops, have you ever bother to find out if your US admirer has secret lover at home? Have you ever ponder on what her reaction to your impending proposal would mean to her? Please add it to your meditation.

Finally, remember to remove "pidgin" from the list. It is useless. Don't ever rate a lady on language. Pidgin for that matter.

Cheer.

Emmanual2u,
It is a pity that some of us have never learn to understand that in life nothing is perfect except perfect.

Temptation is one of the greatest destroyer of joy. You get one today, you will find another tomorrow. Every relationship is based on commitment, love, and trust. These three are the tripods upon which successful relationship stands. Your case was clearly a case of temptation and natural consequence of being in long distance relationship. There is no way you would go after your US girl without hurting the lady at home. I want you to ask yourself the following:
1. If the US lady were to be poor, ugly, yet maintain those traits, will you still fall for her?
2. Is your fiance missing one or all the traits you found in the US girl?
3. Run through your system, try honestly to evaluate yourself: are you feeling this way because your fiance is far away from you? What would be your reaction if your fiance were to be in your state? Is your engagement to your fiance formal or just an agreement you entred to prevent her from going after another man? Before you met the rich woman, did you have plan to bring your fiance over to you?

If you can answer sincerely those questions, I may find the missing link.

Let me tell you that every action has reaction. You should follow your heart, but be fair to the innocent naija lady you have tied down

@sam

everybody understands this topic,but one thing i know is that, there is nothing u and prince will do about it,its a tradition that has been there right from the time past,and still is,nobody can break that tradition,neither will anybody wash away the marks of osu from d people who are,churches have tried as far as i am concerned,there is particular village in abia state,where some churches wanted to interven,but they couldnt,so if my advise of leaving d village,because they cannever be accepted in that village till they die,so if my advise of leaving the village and going to start life else where so that they will live long is not a good advise,i rest my case, let other people contribute,as for me im not stating anything again[/quote

chinda u r supported,sam try and understand it from chindas view,is it better d people stay in d village and die of rejection,or better still find theirselves out of d village and move else where,cos believe me sam there is nothing anybody can do about dis osu thing,it is like a wound dat can never heal,it is there ,so thers nothing anybody will do about it,im an igbo guy and i knw how well d osu's are maltreated,now i borrow chinda words,is it not better they leave d vilage(mind u they are outcasts and therefore the villagers dont take them as their people)in essence they do not belong to that village,they better leave d village and the maltreatment they get there and go to where they can live a good life,get it man there is nothing u or i can do to erase d name osu