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Damn it nigga!
God will see you through. Get closer to him. & see wat kind of job u can lay ur hands on. No matter how small.
In regard to the forex trading, try & give it ur all. But don't put much money, if u ain't a professiona. I trade with small lot sizes.
I invested my huge amount of money with professional traders springing up. Getting returns on monthly basis. Those guys trade with some kind of softwares that's helps them maximize profit.
But try more & learn it. Its a good skill I must tell u.
It's well my brother! If North isn't working for u, come back to South or East.
Shalom

Hahaha, my boy is now walking. He's one year old now. Thanks for ur advice nigga. We ain't fighting. Why the irresponsibility? I'm taking care of them very well. I'm glad we didn't abort. We are cool bro! "Peace"

Biguyman:
Better use this money go see the parents of that port Harcourt girl you give Belle 3 times.

Continue doing abortion, you go soon kill person daughter.

Irresponsibility!

7th ROI received.
Long live MBA..
Keep waxing stronger!!

Atiku is yet to be seen @ the Podium

Have really taken note of all you said here. & i ve made up my mind to go see her parents @ any slight opportunity i ve. But my going there with two or 3 of my frnds is not to break the news of the pregnancy to them. will go there with drink to let them know that am dating there daughter. like am going out with there daughter & ve the intention of getting married to her at the long run.
Cos i was meant to understood by she & her elder sis that i cant pay her dowry now that she's pregnant. until she delivers. they said that's there tradition.
Am hoping this works out fine. i appreciate all your positive & negative comments here. those criticizing me tho, u should understand that this can happen to anybody. i neva bargained for this. just feeling like am been pressured to get married to her. Dec this year would make me 27yrs. & my intention is to get married @ 28 or 29yrs. like i said, she's the best among al the girls i dated. several times she had caught me cheating, she still forgives. not like she caught me on bed cheating, but severally she had seen some incriminating stuffs in my closet. buh i already ve someone i ve in mind to get married to. who is 19yrs tho just got admission into the University. ve been planning future with that one. don't know how to break this news to her. not sure i would tell her even. not now atleast. she lacks some vital character which i think is youthful exuberance.
But this one pregnant for me claims to be 21yrs, buh kinda looks older than that. still doubt her age. she's more mature tho in reasoning etc than the 19yrs old. & she's a graduate. studied accounting.
Really planned on getting married to someone i give atleast 5 to 6yrs. not still sure she's 21yrs. & i heard ladies age more than men.
Just like all my plans ve failed. Smh.

She's not Igbo. She's River's. Am Igbo. I gave them that option as well. I told them I will send representatives. & to be quite honest, don't ve the plans of sending any member of my family, I planned on sending 2 or 3 mature men I can get to go stand for me. Buh she & her sister said no, that there dad won't accept a third party. That the man would like to see me in person. & according to them before now,there dad is a strict man. Retired force man.

Cee9:
Tell your family, any member of your family can go on your behalf especially (Man).
Is she Igbo?

Seeing of each other has to stop for now. Cos she can't come this far journey in her condition of pregnancy. I wouldn't even let her come. It's not safe for her. Except I do the going to see her. Don't know when that would be even. Could take 5 or 6months time. & they saying is far. That i need to come this month, which I can't. Honestly

Bluezy13:
Hmmm...


Tell them to keep the pregnancy, that you'll attend to visiting of parents part when you are chanced provided you still see each other as you used to.
Relax and concentrate on your work after which you go...you have to...see her people when your chanced. Every other thing will take care of itself

Money is also a problem here. My contract ends ending of this year. Will I start up family with roughly 2 to 3million naira? Money that I ve planned in using to build myself.

lilmax:
you are not ready to settle down but you're ready to support her financially

guy, it's not that you're not ready, but the truth is you don't see a FUTURE with her

your eye don open, love don clear

you made a mistake, I say man up and own your responsibilities

you can still marry her and keep working at the same time

money is not your problem, but commitment is

Just scared, I know how many years it took me to save such amount of money, now seeing myself raising a family with it. Frankly speaking, quite difficult for me. Ve already planned on relocating & starting up something with that money. This whole issues now. Am so freaking confused.

Cee9:
Pull your self together bro.The deed Is already done..
First: Tell your family, they will feel disappointed but they will surely come around.

Secondly: Go and see her parent, since she has all the qualities you need in a wife.

Thirdly: what you have with you can startup and run a family well..Do not kill yourself,things will sort itself out.

She knows where I work, she knows where I live in Lagos. Doing that it's not an option. Thanks tho.

Bluezy13:
Hmmm...
Switch off your phone, remove the sim card, throw it away, buy another sim card and continue your life.



3 weeks later, welcome back your sim card. call her and her sister and apologize for inconveniences due to circumstances beyond your control.

By then, half of the problem will solve itself out. Then solve the rest of the problem.

This is the only realistic way to tackle the problem in your situation.
Sorry if I appear heartless.

Easy bro, no harm.

SilentVboy:
You are not ready for marriage now. You have not built your house yet. Your job is not even secure yet.

Just take a min and hear yourself ponder over those questions....

DID U SIT DOWN AND ASK YOURSELF THOSE SET OF QUEST B4 YOU HAD SEX WITH HER?

Bro, you have terminated the pregnancy TWICE oo. So u want this one terminated too? KARMA IS A BITCH OOO.

TOMORRO, YOU WILL BE THE ONE SAYING THIS GIRL CAME TO STAB ME BECAUSE I MARRIED ANOTHER GIRL THAT COULD GIVE BIRTH.

Must u build house before u go and see her parents? Nonsense....

Visiting her parents requires me going with my people, & that's what am avoiding. If it were to visit them alone or with a frnd, I can do that. Buh ofcos, her parents would demand I come with my people.

Constance20:
Hello
I feel if u re not ready to start a family, u shud simply use protection but as she had aborted 2 pregnancies before, just keep this one ND do the needful. If u truly love and u think she is d right one for u, just engage her ..I advise u two shud discuss if u feel u re not still ready to marry her ND explain issues to her. Let her see reasons with u. And u shud also consider her too. Visit her parents ND talk with them.

Not that easy for me bro.

madridguy:
You don't have problem you only need advise.
Bro, go and see her family and do the needful. Chikena

Bro, my kind of work, I work Saturdays. Don't ve time traveling down to Portharcourt to see her parents. I had 3weeks leave last month. I resumed Jan 14. My boss wouldn't even comply with me if I try taking excuses. & the longer I stay too, the pregnancy becomes obvious. Then, her parents might ve find out.

Constance20:
Hello
I feel if u re not ready to start a family, u shud simply use protection but as she had aborted 2 pregnancies before, just keep this one ND do the needful. If u truly love and u think she is d right one for u, just engage her ..I advise u two shud discuss if u feel u re not still ready to marry her ND explain issues to her. Let her see reasons with u. And u shud also consider her too. Visit her parents ND talk with them.

Without wasting much of the time, let me just go straight to my point.
Ve been dating this girl for 2yrs now. & honestly speaking, she's just the best among all the girls i ve dated. She's hardworking, she cooks well. Good @ house chores. Before I got my washing machine late last year. Each time she comes around from Portharcourt, she washes all my cloths and do every needful things. Was with her in Portharcourt, but left there 2017 cos I got a better job in Lagos. She still comes to visit me each time she gets little opportunity from where she's managing. Her work.
When I was in Portharcourt with her 2017. She took In twice same year 2017, we got rid of the pregnancy. Last month been December she came around in Lagos to visit me, & it happened that we did it, & now she's pregnant. Even her elder sister called me this evening. We were discussing. They are insisting I should come see there parents be4 the pregnancy becomes obvious.
Frankly speaking, my problem is am not ready to settle down now. I feel am been forced to go do knocking of door and introduction. I told her she can give bath, I will support her financially. Till when am ready, I will come do the necessary things. Buh she & her sister are refusing. My job isn't even secure, it's contract. The little money I ve saved, 2million plus, planning on using that money to relocate to Abuja & start up something there. I can even move her with me. once am done with this job late this year. I ve not even build a house. Not even in the village nor town here. The house we live in, in the village is my uncle's own. I can't marry a wife & still live there.

Plsss fellow Nairalanders, am so so confused & depressed same time. That i ve been battling with for a long time. Depression. She's also aware.
And this, I want to keep away from my family. Don't want them to know that a girl is pregnant for me.
Please help me out, what do I really do now. I no longer concentrate at work. Am lost.

God Is The Greatest.

Ok, thanks. I will have to go to the embassy myself.
Thank you.

Thanks @ Bodejohn. I already checked there website. They do it by appointment. And the slots for June and July has been issued out already. The next slots are in August. My concern is would one wait till August before the issue you Visa?
What if the work am going there to do is needed at the moment.
Thank you guys. More contributions please.

Good Morning All,
Please who knows how to go about securing a visa for Czech Republic. I am been invited for work over there. I Don't know how to go about it. I don't know any honest agent I can use to get that. Neither have I been to embassy before. I have my International Passport with me.
The MD of the company offering me the job said i should ask the embassy the necessary requirements to issue me a schengen visa.
Some persons are saying it's the company's responsibility to do the needful by securing the visa for me.
Pls help a brother, have been restless since last week, have not done any positive move , because the whole issue is complicated. Different persons with different opinions. For those that have the idea or experience of how to go about it.
Please I need your sincere inputs. I would appreciate.
Regards.