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I'm a girl child it not really easy to leave home or mingle with friends here with the little freedom I have today was because I decided to leave home for a year thou it wasn't easy

JealousCobra:
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Op, @ 24 you are still at your parents house dictating for them, I left my parents when I was 14 yrs.... if I were your father na to disown you be the koko.

You are among the lazy youths buhari is taking about.

It has always been the other way round

fineboynl:
Something must have cause all of that. You and you mother is disrespecting him. When this type of things keep happening he will find happiness else where.

I shouldn't be entitled to my dad's money even while still.in school! Presently I haven't even done my clearance and I'm beating my ass up everyday to get the money for the clearance, I earn less than 25k and I still drop money at home, give money for drugs to my sick mom and still try to save up for my school fee and clearance thou I have a little side hustle with I don't earn much from.

Richy4:

After trying to sympathize with you, you destroyed it at the end...
<< You are gainfully employed, u are earning an honest living yet the entitlement mentality still managed to find it's way in...

Parents are really damaging their Nigerian kids..
"It really painful that I had to work for 7-9hours everyday while standing for 1k per day....

Yes you are right there are lots of things I can't talk about here because the family issue no be today.

toobusy:
At 24,you should be thinking of how to become less of a burden to your Dad, meanwhile,I feel there are
some important details about your relationship and issues with your father that you didn't enlist in your write-up.

Yes I might have disrespected him by pushing him that night but i don't think I ever did or spoke back to my dad whenever he is talking most times I just remain silent .I'm not a baby why will I be fighting for my mom most times I fight for my dad whenever there is a disagreement or I don't even interfere at all. Most of the things my elder brother does to my dad and he will not talk, I dare not say 1% to him. I have changed churches at home all because he said if I don't follow him to every church he changes to he will disown me yet I always follow him to those churches but never made it mandatory for my elder brother

Helpout12345:
What is this world turning into?

So you disrespect your father and come online to come and ask us if you should forgive him?

Go and apologize to your father. Stop disrespecting him for whatever reason. And stop fighting your father because of your mother.

If you present yourself as a humble, respectful daughter to him, you can go close to him and table what you think he should do better about the family. But you are going about it the wrong way.

It my first dating someone with such,and I think the society sees it as a stigma

Magnoliaa:
How is this a problem, or is it supposed to be one?

I'm so relieved with this .....thank you[ quote author=rickpat post=118262461] okay,just take your time to get to know him more..trust me with more love and connection that you two are able to establish overtime,YOU WILL FORGET ABOUT THE INTONATION...at some point you will even love to hear him speak with that intonation... connection is key ..[/quote]

He isn't someone who gets angry easily thou, I don't want to manage him that why I want to spend sometime with him getting to know him better.

I want to be proud of him anywhere asfar as he treats me better I'm good.

His English is fair thou I'm not perfect myself

His stammering isn't the problem but his intonation

rickpat:
just be patient when talking with him... overtime you will get used to his stammering pace of talking..about his intonation, while provided he speaks good English...it's cool


FINALLY,IF YOU CAN'T BE PROUD OF THIS YOUNG ADORABLE MAN, PLEASE LET HIM BE... DON'T MANAGE HIM ..HE IS A FULL FLESH HUMAN BEING..

GOOD LUCK

Haven't gotten it

holykid1321:
Ojay

I bumped into an old course mate online after 8years and we started talking.

He is such a sweet guy but the only problem I'm having with him is that he stammers , has this speech defect and has a local intonation because he grew up in a local town.

I really do like him alot because he is a kind hearted person and I like him thou not sure if it love but I want to get to know him better. Have u ever dated a stammer pls tell.me your experience with them??

Yes I do,my parents first born is an introvert doesn't even talk much, he just accept anything,then my immediate brother is kinda very okay on his own I can't dare say 1% of those insultive words he says to my dad and he embarrasses him anywhere yet he accepts all this things and even calls him from time to time cos he gives him money. My dad accept anything from him, sometimes my brother shouts at him yet he won't get mad cos my brother is a no nonsense person. I think it because I don't have money thou�

She poured her urine inside the room and the beating wasn't anything serious.

[color=#000099][/color][quote author=Zonefree post=118255023]After beating your "3-year-old" niece, your dad tried to correct you by using same stick you used on the little girl, you pushed him thereby brushing his ego.

A girl under the tutelage of her parents pushing her father and still got the nerves to ask if she should forgive the innocent man

I'm even sure you fought him that day and you expect him to continue training you . He's even benevolent to give you 50K for your school fees. You should be grateful [/quote
As at the time the fight happened I was frustrated, restricted to a room because he locked the sitting room, I was feeding myself with money from my friends and other things he was making me go through and I just lost an elder brother too. I never rejected the money in a straight way I only him the money isn't enough to pay my school fee. The problem is my dad has always seen me as an inferior being because I'm a girl whatever my brother says is the final,I don't have an opinion to the extent of me requesting for a room which he didn't give me but he went ahead to build a new room for my elder brother because he needs a privacy for himself and his girlfriend, which they have a room to themselves already.

[[color=#000099][/color]quote author=Pierocash post=118254882]Without digging too far,I discovered you are the kind of girl that disrespects your dad,and fight proxy wars for your mother

You have to humble yourself,and go apologize genuinely. Why will you reject the money in the first place? That is rude[/quote]I rejected the money not because of anything but my dad is the kinda person that talks alot he might probably tells everyone how he paid my final years school fee all by himself which I don't like and where did he expect me to get the rest with the fact that I did my project myself and he knew I don't have any souce of income as at that time. I'm not fighting for my mum as at the time the fight happened I was frustrated and his refusal to give me a room to myself whereby we have an almost empty room at home,I stay in the same room with my dad and mum, whenever I want to change I will have to go to the bathroom to change and the bathroom is in the midst
of the tenants rooms.

Good evening, this is my first time posting here and it because I'm kinda troubled pls I will need you guys to help me on this issue.

Since 2020 I have not been in good terms with my dad, and it all started with a little fight about drinking of the water in the fridge and my dad decided to lock the sitting room where the fridge was kept restricting my mom and myself to the room alone as at this time I was in 400lvl and 24years.

My dad doesn't drop money and home so I had to look for means to feed myself which was really new to me cos he has been the one sending money to me in school even thou he doesn't drop at home.

After then we kept having issues about him not giving me a private room in the house even up till now, then on a day like that an issue happened after I beating my 3years old niece he was so angry that he hits me severally at a conered spot that he almost hit my eyes I had to push him on the bed and ran out of the house, then the second day I packed my stuff's and left for school throughout 2021 I didn't come home till December and he didn't bother calling or sent me money not my school fee and project fee I did everything on my own.

I came home late last year and apologized and later I asked him for my school fee which I had not paid as at that time, he kept giving me excuses which I Know he has and left after much talk he gave me #50,000 out of like #150,000 but sincerely I didn't collect it cos I don't know where to get the remains then I got a job and saved up and paid.

Presently I'm very mad at him because he never cared about me or my mum, all he does with his money is to give it to his concubines. It really painful that I had to work for 7-9hours everyday while standing for 1k per day and my dad is out there spending his money for one LovePeddler.

Do u think he deserves my forgiveness??