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OmoEziokwu:
Lol. Are you referring to a man who had his eyes wide open when Bashir Tofa and Moshood Abiola were the celebrities in Nigeria's political space?

Sorry Sir.. Didnt mean to undermine your person.. I apologise sincerely.

That being said, whether at 40 or 45 years of age (whatever age it is really), it still is enough cause for amazement that any man would decide to make a marriage just happen like that. That just goes with the notion that he has to satisfy a societal obligation just to feel normal, whether he realizes he is doing it or not.

What can I say... There exist a point where Emotional thinking equals Logical thinking, at such point everything falls into place naturally.. everything takes care of it self. I've seen it happen a lot of times.

So because that has not happened for you, you then have to make it happen, regardless of anything else? What does that statement even mean?

With God all things are possible.

justmag:
At the end of the day....I can only speak for myself. I kinda made a personal choice not to chase anymore. Or at least for now!..after talking to some female friends who openly admitted that girls of today now have more than one bf and it's perfectly normal. And these bfs play different roles. Shit closed my heart for business!

Best of luck. Maybe when youre ready those things won't matter as much.

lawrenceunaa:
just like that

marriage is not a boyfrn ,galfrn matter ooo

What's your point?? what are you proposing?

efosticgum:
@op, I hv 3 questions to ask. You hv answered 2 which is; u ain't shy and you hv a stable job.

now d third is; are u good looking?

Well to be honest with you I would say looking Good maybe 50%.. dere are days when i feel and look good then there are days i'm just derr.. I'm about 5'7" in height dark complexioned people say i'm getting fatter (They say i'm chopping money - dats not true were the money dey kwanu, its just dat noting is burning away the food i eat... abi now) and what else would you like to know..

Annypie:
hmm,call it luck or fate.

buh,u still hav to make dah effort to answer d door,let it in,and be a good host.

Ok! i can hear you. Thanks Alot!

TheWisest:
Wow! You all have spoken so well. Now, as theWisest, let me give my pinch. OP, make friends with the ladies and I mean, just friends. Your neighbours, your colleagues, your customers. Just make friends. Then find the one you're most comfortable with and a relationship is born. That was my formula and my love life is like heaven. Leave seduction. I've been there and it's empty (even the sex too is empty). You're a good guy. Just make friends first. BY THE WAY, if you don't know to make friends, just tell them HI.

Ok!! i truely like your line of point.. But like i said earlier, i'm really not good at conversing with people not to talk of ladies.. dat has been the problem all along. I live a really quite 1-way direction life, mostly boring... i'm telling you the truth.

Omimah:
Since OP wants to marry in July 2015, won't 9 months be too short for him to date ten girls, then later pick one of them, then propose to her? Can't he just go ahead, study a girl he has been admiring (if at all he has) for some times, watch her with keen interest, then propose to her?

Hmm! Just like that?

mecussey:
Read that again...some people get good married life without dating anyone. I might do like that if worse comes to worst

Well its true... Marriage may come in different ways.. maybe depending on God's plan for you! is that what you are saying.

Well i'm not opposed to the idea anyways. As long as we put God first, i trust such marriage can just be fine..

dancok:
op I can feel ur pain because it happens to me too,but in my own case I never get job,so I think I have hope when I get job I will hit a stable relationship.op just keep trying,people like us find it difficult to make a stable relationship but at d end when we meet that lady she will never allow us to go,just keep trying u will meet her soon,my mind is telling me.

I hear you Brother... I really hear you. You already know everything.

Meanwhile i wish you luck in getting a stable and favourable economy.
Thanks.

OmoEziokwu:
Why would any man set a deadline to marry, as if to imply that if it is not met then something would go wrong? Aren't such thing supposed to be organic, or something like that? So if you don't marry in July 2015, what will happen then? What kinds of programmed men are roaming the earth these days?

Its not like you really put it... as in programming per sa..

I may not be correct, but my mind tells me you maybe of younger generation compared to me. I can tell you categorically, when i was younger Yes! the norm would be as you've stated it.. as in all going Organically you meet people and nature takes its course in time. Well i'm still here and that has not happened for me..

To tell you the truth About 2 - 7 years ago if sumone had told me to wait till 2015 before i get married i would have said the person didn't like me that that Date and year is too far.. but them 2015 is just around the corner now.

To answer your question if by then noting happens nko? well Daris God! I'll keep being me and keep getting better... but then i'm really trusting God for this Miracle.. Its the Faith!

Thanks

shayman:
Hmmmmm I think we have things in common @OP...

Ok! In what ways are you refering to

marcnelly:
call me 08131173499.

What for exactly Please??

xtervaganza:
1st - have u been in a relationship b4?
2nd- how old are you (sorry to ask)

Honestly, I wont say i've been into a formal relationship before until i got to my late twenties. I ve tried two relationships since then but didnt make much progress... most times my fault i must confess.

I'm in my earliest thirties.. thanks

diluminati:
You kids should stop this Nonsense.

It is evil to DATE before Marriage. No where in the Bible was it stated or induced that you have to have a girlfriend that you would be sexing constantly before marriage.

If you want to get married, Just be ready say the word, and you will find a woman who is ready and know whats up. All these yeye dats are the ones that later turn out to divorce, or serial killer marriage.

OP dont listen to kids, when you are ready just shout out the word.

I ve been shouting the word.. I still am shouting the word.. I want to do all meaningfull tinz that i will take. Honestly.

nestaolive:
@op, wooing a lady is not the answer. Dont rush into things u can't control later on. Allow nature make it happen. And also, wooing a lady doesn't necessarily mean that it will End up good. Just take ur time, look carefully and you will get what you desire. I have never wooed any lady on nairaland. Even those that follow me here can attest to that but surely,you can find ur wife even here on nairaland

I'll try.. thanks. but how about just being friends.

Annypie:
but loads of introverts lyk u,are married na.

see hun,love wuldnt come knocking,u hv to somehow make some efforts..mayb its dah next door neighbour,dah babe in d supermarket,in a gathering..and so on,buh u wuldnt knw if u keep moping,and wallowing in wishful thinking

deres somebody for everyone...u just hv to start searching..goodluck!

Its true what you've just said. but you say it like its easy for many.. and the reality is that it really is not.

I wont say i mope and wallow in wishful thinking... i dont really. i do make attempts but it doesnt last thats where my problems lie.

skentelelady:
Start by having a conversation with an outspoken girl in your office ur neighbourhood. You need to build your confidence first before you approach a lady

If there is a particular girl you like try to make her your friend first and don't show any sign you want to ask her out. Find out if she has a boyfriend. If she doesn't, show her you care for her not by spending your money. You can always call her to check on her or send SMS.

From her responses you will know she's into you. Then you can build something from there

You should be able to do this within 2-3 months.
All the best

Thanks alot.. I'll keep trying. I'll take your words under advisement. Please can i reach u once a while if i have troubles along the way...

lindachi86:
come mk i give u girlfriend

Are joking or serious. i take this matter quite seruously. Please.

johnstar:
ok bt u hv 2 patient in gtn married, I wish u gudluck tho

is 30 not patient enuf

Honestly i dont know what to say to make you feel better.. But please Take heart and accept my Condolences.. it wont be easy from hereon but them you have to remain strong and commited to making ur Dad proud in all you do. please remember always the good life he lived and the great legacy he has left behind and be consoled by the fact that he has gone home to his Creator.. the best place to be.

akpur1:
You dont need a g.f before settling down.

How do you mean.. i think it shud start feom dere isnt it ??

pawn89:
is that you are shy or you are timid, which one of them is the case?

Actually not at all in any of the above case. i used to be though but wont. say im typically shy or timid. I can talk with ladies but i ffund ut extremely dufficult to make my self interesting to dem so they wish to hear from me again.. and as such i ve not had a relationship dat realy made any sense. its was just me.. nost the ladies... I ve missed chances with a lot of fine ladies you know..

sweettease:
You have the wedding fever singles have just after attending a wedding. You'll probably get over it soon, I know because I've attended 5 weddings within the past 3 months and I still have one, two Saturdays from now .. my dear, be sure it's what you are ready for and want and not just the fever and what people are saying. Good luck sha

I get ur point. but i assure you, i truely luk foreward to havin sumone special in my life now and getting Married. Its not about the wedding fever only.. its just dat i ve gotten to dat stage wen its d major thin on my mind

johnstar:
Ar u rili sure u wanna gt married, or is it all abt Bleep

I'm really sure its Marriage i want.. Not Bleeps. thankz.

NicxonXXX:
P.M me and i will make you fishers of women

I'm tempted to take u up on ur offer. What do you really propose Sir..

KiddaBlingzz:
no think of marry first o
think of getting a girlfriend.

and you don't get a girlfriend by staying at home or being afraid of women.

I get it. but i'm a natural introvert by nature..I've been trying really i have.. it not easy for someone like me to keep conversations going and interesting.

samflexxy:
Do you have a work ?
Do you have a stable salary ?
Are you sure you can bear the weight of wedding because you don'to seem to me like someone who should be talking about marriage
Let's say you still want to marry its simple go on dates with ladies at least go on a date with ten get to no them well and the one your hearth clicks with you can initiate a relationship then propose marriage to her

Thanks alot for your advice. to answer your question. Yes i do have a job. a steady one too. it may not be much, but it can still suffice.

Ahhhh... voila my peeps. But you know if i could be able to woo beautuful babes comfortably i wouldn't bother so much about my nature. i just wish i cud make ladies laugh and at ease and comfortable around me.

could there be a work around about this. Otherwise i think im fairly ok..

My brother cousin, who is my age mate, got married yesterday to his amazing love.

Naturally everyone started telling me that they know my turn is coming soon, at least by next year.. and you i just say yes ooo! Na so na! Meanwhile i dont even have a babe. How will i get one. luv her unconditionally and vice versa Date her and ask her to be my partner for eternity

The problems is that i dont even know how to woo a lady...O Lord God, Please come to my aid. I look to you for Mercy, Grace, Love n Favour for I'm really troubled about this and i need your advice convince a lady to be

blognetbase:
please how do I create a PDF documents ?

To Create PDF document, Please refer to the thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/1559975/convert-word-documents-pdf-tutorial

I hope it helps.

Thanks.

Pictures

Being able to Edit a PDF document can come quite handy sometimes. I've had several situations where i downloaded pdf materials and had a need to modify or get content for personal or company use. This can also come handy for students or professionals during research for thesis write ups.

To get started, download a copy of Adobe Acrobat Pro from Adobe's official site.

(Please note that Adobe Acrobat is different from Adobe Reader. The Reader can only allow you access and read a pdf document while the former would allow you modify, alter and make changes to a pdf a document.)

I have Adobe Acrobat X Pro Installed (see Pix 1).

Locate Document, right click and select open with Adobe Acrobat pro (See Pix 2). Open Document is as Pix 3 (Note highlighted tab).

Go to file - Save as... - Microsoft Word - Word Document. (See Pix 4)
Save in preferred location (Pix 5)

Wait for the Word document to be created. Locate the file, Open and Edit as

you require. (See Pix 6 & 7)