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luciouscookie:
You lied! I remember she wrote how normally feel bad afterwards and begged for solutions. Let stop twisting things abeg. And for the record helovesme wasn't the only one that replied her,rather she was the only one that replied harshly.

there is nothing to lie about.
all the posts are still on this thread for all to see.
i will suggest you go back and follow the chain of conversation.

mummygwen made her initial post.
helovesme replied harshly without offering any tips to help the child
mummygwen replied again. this is her follow up response below.

MummyGwen:
U all have said well... But if only u know what am passing thru with this my drama queen, u all will raise hand for be and a trophy for been the best and most caring mother on planet earth, my baby don't eat, a six months old looking like a 3months old, looking lean, she can put food in her mouth and not swallow it for ages, she will just keep it there. And for the record, I have tried all those blend fruit, even my colleagues do laff at me, I have to go to shoprite the other day to get all the good fruits baby likes, like kiwi, apple, pear, potatoes and the rest, I spent 8k that day, money is not the problem here as I and her dad have decided to give her anything she wishes to eat but she will put the food in her mouth and not eat it, this moment she will eat it the next she won't, for u all to see the many things I ve bought for her in the previous post means I ve done all what u have said, I have read and read all in how a baby will eat, I search Internet everyday cos of that, and as for giving adult food, I am also doing that, but she don't eat much, she will take one or two lil one and d next thing is water all thru. I love my baby so much as I have even ask and they said take her for massaging and I have done that, they said buy her multivitamin and my house have become a mini pharmacy that have all the multivitamin any one can think of including dynamogen. Oya those that said they have pass thru this kind of situation maybe u will tell me that ur baby will put food in their mouth and refuse to swallow it at all and she will pretend she is sleeping, she can sleep with that food in her mouth. Hehehe... I wonder how she learnt all that trick, I am not happy beating my child, it not a thing of joy that any mom will beat even her grown up not to say a six months old. And besides when she is crying she don't still take much she cry in a way that she won't still swallow the food like she is crying and the food is still in her mouth, have anyone also seen that or pass thru that. I have join this thread almost four months and I read everything, before I posted here know it has gone beyond my control. Thanks for all the response, and mind u am not justifying myself. She even refuse formular, I tried that one when ever I notice she want water and she refuse drinking it, the only thing she take is breastmilk. Can a six months survive on that and am a working mom. She goes to crèche. Oya make una respond again .

helovesme then replied her again.
this time with a very long post detailing on how to help her.

so what is the lie there?

comtem2011:
This is a public forum, opinions/advise should be dished out with love. Adding to someone's injury is not the best. Coming here to seek for advice should not be a death sentence. This place is not for scolding. Its a place where we seek for advice on our everyday life affairs.

Not everybody can take insult, I hardly ask questions but I give the little solution I can for others to learn from.

In other news! am angry, nobody asked of me.

To God be the glory. My sister got married on Saturday, it was a glorious day. She kept smiling throughout, Adesile is lucky to have her.

i humbly disagree with you.
this place should be for scolding. that is why it is an anonymous forum.
i will rather have people scold me and judge me for my actions than
continue with the same action that i might live to regret one day.

if a mother or father is doing something that can harm that child,
such person should be scolded.

we complain that the country is bad
yet, we close our eyes to evil and try to gloss over the bitter truth.

i will not be surprised if there are bruises on the body of that 6 months old baby
as a result of all the smacking from the mother.
to smack a child that age to tears means it must be done directly on the skin.

the mother admitted smacking her everytime she feeds her
imagine if she is fed four times a day. that means she is smacked 4 times a day
multiply that by a week
and then multiply that a month.

yet people are castigating helovesme here and on whatsapp for calling her a bad mother?
will a good and God fearing mother do that to her own daughter?

onegai. there is a whatsapp group that is an offshoot of the pregnancy thread
they are all here. they are fond of picking on several members that contribute
a lot on this thread.
helovesme is one of their key favourites. she has been attacked on
that whatsapp group that i wonder why people can have so much hate against
someone that does not even know they exist.
in their usual fashion, her case was brought up yesterday on whatsapp and they all mobilised
to come here and attack her. that is why you see all sorts of unfamiliar usernames
and also new usernames that are not bold enough and decided to register new ones.
you members of that whatsapp group especially your leader, starbuck need to
really breathe in and out.

sometimes i think it is all envy against the likes of helovesme and co.

i took out time to read the last 2-3pages of this thread. to be honest, i do not see
anything bad in what helovesme typed. it is wrong to smack a child and it was
clear that the mother in question showed little or no remorse and instead was expecting
praise for trying hard with her child. it was only helovesme that took out time to reply
every single post she made and even picked on specific issues such as checking the child's
weight, the issue of the creche and so on.

personally, i will term anyone that smacks a 6months old baby to the point of tears a witch.
also calling that person a potential murderer is not wrrong.
there is no justification for it. i lost a niece when she was 9months old over something similar.
she was a known fussy eater. the mother claimed she was feeding the baby and all of a sudden
the child started convulsing. by the time the girl was rushed to the hospital, she had died. she was
declared dead on arrival. meanwhile when the child was around 5months old
my sister in law was caught by my mother pinching her daughter over over this feeding matter.
she was warned not to do so but its clear she carried on. it is not rocket science to
figure out what happened to that child. she must have forced the child to eat and the food ended
up the wrong way. she is treated as an outcast in the family and it took the grace of God for her
marriage to my brother not to end.

helovesme, i think its best you move on to a new username. people look at your first topic
and all they see is a woman with a rich husband living the champagne life. this is why they
pick on you all the time as they think you are looking down on others and you do not
understand whatever suffering people are going through. you are not the only person that
used harsh words on this feeding issue. how come it is you that is being picked on?
your opinon on MMM did not help you either as they think you are mocking those who have
their cash strapped in MMM. people's eyes are boiling and they are looking for who to
vent on. unfortunately, that person was you. if i was in your shoes, i will stay away
from controversial topics because you do pass on your views very strongly and you
are sometimes misunderstood.

it is impossible for we all to see issues the same way or address issues the same way.
some people say things as they are without mincing words.some will rather keep quiet.
others would rather apply more diplomacy.

peace.