₦airaland Forum

First, change the narratives and all the big big names they called it
And make a discussion.

Una just want to drag this man of God. What he meant might not be cleria to everyone This message is very correct 💯.

Very important topics. The way things are changing, it's not going to be easy though

Congratulations to them. We need more to be disturbed to other part of the nation. Like my home town where villagers are suffering

uchennamani:
You can't divorce your child or children. You divorce only a spouse you are married to.

So, why the abandonment after divorcing your partner?

bende7t:
Woman tells you the child belongs to her, like an asset or property and dashes off to her folks or otherwise with the plan that the man should just be paying but he is not allowed full access to the child.
E no go work! Shishi no go drop.
Tell the child whatever she likes.
The plan is clear. Me won't be financing a wayward baby mama.
This generation of ladies that will never let a man have a little authority or even talk without outright antagonism.
Bottom line: MOST WOMAN ARE TERRIBLY UNKIND TO THE MAN ONCE THEY HAVE A CHILD FOR YOU.
una know una self

What happen to your innocent children Sir? Which father will leave his own children and come take care of yours for you ?or whatsoever that happens to them is no more your concern because their mother annoys you?

This is not nice. Doing all these over a boyfriend who would still walk away from you, once he knows you're this violent?

What's actually happening to us in this country?

DarkJeddi:
You mean the same Mothers that makes a Man's life a living h£ll ,because he wants to be in his children's lives until he gives up for his mental health?

Are you sure? Then what happens to the children?

Gbadugbakun:
So that I can have time to focus on my new lover. Besides the child would remind me of my ex wife and I don't want that. So everything about her including her children would be divorced.

Her children? I'm sure. This is how many think 🤔

omoredia:
The next wife will not take care of the child as well as the child's mother. Thats why

I don't understand. Is that why he should abandon his child?

Factcheck0001:
it's not like u think

My friend is in d same scenario u described now but he was forced to abandon the child.


The couple had issues as usual n they went their separate ways, the court ordered that the man should pay child support every month n should always b allowed to see his child anytime he wishes.

The guy is always paying money every month on a steady but 4 good time he drove from Ibadan to Lagos to go see the child n he was denied access.


Imagine how annoying that would b?

He had to stop paying n stop going to visit the child.

So will u tell me it's d guys fault?

In this case, is not his fault. But he should keep fighting to get access to his child. That's his child.

I pray for safety.

Thank God that I'm keeping to my month of June resolution.
Anything that does not concern me, I will talk about it
Amen 🙏

May God help all the helpless children on the street. Especially those that have no one to Carter for them.

Helpout12345:
Both genders can be guilty of this. As Samantha125 said above.

Yes. That's true, but it's mostly common with the fathers.

Samantha125:
Some men do want to be present fathers, but the problem is their bitter ex wives who keep looking for a reason to pick a fight with them whenever they try to keep in touch with their children.

You'd hear a lady still picking up a fight over things that happened years ago whenever the father of her children tries to make amends with her for the sake of their children without necessarily getting back together with her... [b]In as much as some men can be useless fathers by deciding to disown their children as a way to punishing their ex wives upon divorce, [/b]others are trying, but the problem is this gender of ours that keeps pushing them away.

Co- parenting is still a foreign practice in most parts of Africa as the parents are unable to put their sentiments of each other aside by doing what is in the best interest of the children ... They're selfish.

That's a sad one. Disowning your own children as a way of punishing your ex wife. God!
This is a very traumatizing situation, as the children are the one who suffers the more

Kobojunkie:
Spousal abandonment/divorce also implies abandonment of the children from the marriage... at least that seems to be the cultural understanding in much of Africa, including Nigeria. I saw quite a lot of that growing up in Nigeria.

But that's not fair. If mothers are to be given up like that, what will happen to the child/children?

https://youtube.com/shorts/aIkditWlfTo?si=Y_Fk8nB_0_nYXIUN

Sad story
Are we going to get better in this country?

Why do so many African fathers neglect their children, especially after a divorce or separation? Does divorcing the mother also mean divorcing the children?

How can you be at peace knowing your children are not feeding well? Just because they’re with their mother, you think it's no longer your concern? How do you sleep well, eat well, and laugh with friends, knowing that a part of you — your own flesh and blood — is out there suffering?

To every Nigerian out there, please stay safe. You can air your views without being violent, arrogant or insulting. VDM is going to be okay. God will not disappoint us

A moment of anger can destroy a lifetime. Let’s learn to control our emotions — no argument is worth a life. Sometimes, walking away is the best policy. It doesn't make you less of a person. We are too impatient with each other in this part of the world — too much anger, too much reaction. May God help us

I'm sorry for what you're going through, but sometimes, our younger siblings, our children are replica of us. Take it easy on her and don't let any man come in between you both. i pray for emotional healing

geoworldedu:
You killed it. Ever since I stopped gambling, my life has been better for it. Say no to gambling and Ponzis (except ponzi wey na today today dem start am )

Thank God for your life

To the football lover battling with betting addiction: Stop before it stops you. Betting doesn’t just take your money — it steals your peace, your time, and your future. Choose freedom over the gamble. You’re worth more than a bet

We don't have to be the same to live in peace — only willing to share the space with respect and kindness

Thank God, I'm no longer a citizen of this country — I already denounced it in my mind. Nothing here can give me a heart attack anymore.

Nteogwuija:
80% isn't entire. It might even be worse than that. In just 2 weeks I've dealt with about 7 dishonest persons(artisans and neighbors).

And I'm not the type who has daily interactions with people. Imagine if that were the case.

My principle now is to assume that whoever I'm to financial dealing with in Nigeria is dishonest until proven otherwise.

this is true, especially when it comes to money

I don’t agree with this generalization. Yes, there are issues, but painting the entire nation as corrupt is unfair. There are still many honest and hardworking Nigerians out there.

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SAD