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he met me in church two weeks after I n my ex broke up,I told him abt I n my ex n hw hrt broken I was,during those difficult times when I was finding it hard to move on he was there for me

he always comes around to keep me company,bought me gifts,took me to nice places just to make me happy,he told me I got everything he wants in a woman

after a month of meeting him,he asked me to meet him in a bar,which I did,when I got there I saw faces I don't I knw which I believe were all his frds.

b4 I cud say Jesus is lord,there he was kneeling with a ring in his hand proposing n his frds were all cheering him.

there I stood saying pls I can't take this am not heal yet,and he was whipering in my ears pls accept it,don't embarrass me in d presence of my frds,just accept it we will talk abt it later.so I accepted it without him putting it in my finger

the last time we met he was sad he didn't see d ring on my finger n he asked abt it I lied that d ring wasn't my size,that was d reason I refuse to wear it,he was like I shud bring back d ring for him to return it inorder for them to change it n give him my size

to be sincere I don't knw where I misplace the ring And his coming this weekend to my place to see my parent,b4 bringing his parents n frds for introduction

to be honest I don't luv him,pls how I can I tell him am not ready to settle down

this is my story,its been 6months I brokeup with my ex bfd of 5yrs,whom I rejected other guys because of him,during when we were dating I saw a lady's bag of cloth in his hux n I confronted him abt it,he told me d lady was stranded n he helped her that he has nothing to do with her.that he will call her to come pick her bag

I was furious ready to break d r/ship with him,he pleaded reminding me of hw long we have been in d r/ship,telling me hw age is not on his side n hw am not getting younger,n starting up a new r/ship will b hard 4 both of us.

I saw hw remorseful he was,i forgave him because I luv him,things he neva did for me he started doing them.

in february this year a lady met me in his hux we chated n I asked her hw long she has been dating my ex,she said she has been dating my ex for some months,though during those months I n my ex had little issue which we later reconcile,i told her she have to back out,she said she has done that,that her pastor told her my ex is not her husband bt I shudn't put all my eggs in one basket.

I called my ex in front of her, he asked her to leave n neva to call him again.
come n see when my ex came back from work that day he bcame so gentle thinking I will react bt I didn't,he said I shudn't pay attention to her,that she's desperate n age is not on her side,that she told me all what she said for me to quit for her to take ova,my ex conveince me with lies.

little did I know those things were sign God was showing me for me to quit the r/ship with him, bt I fail to see them,cos I was over whelm by emotions.

beside all these I have a suitor my childhood frd who was transfer from calabar to ph,he was all over me, begging me to take him to my parents for introduction,that he wants to get married to me b4 august, bt I refuse

though getting married was one of my prayer point in shiloh last yr,bt the way it came was not hw I expected it,cos we neva dated n I felt he was desperate,he went to d extend of giving his mum his phone to talk to me.his mum invited me bt I neva showed up.

even with the nature of his job his a banker he took the risk coming to Ebonyi where I served,to prove to me he was serious.n my ex neva came to c me for once n his parents reside in the same state.

I took d new guy to my elder sister who saw him and like him,his tall,hansome,Godfearing,intelligent n his yoruba,my sister advice me to accept him,that getting married to a man I don't luv is the best thing that can happen to any woman,cos d man will adore her n will neva take he for granted

I asked her if she got married to a man she don't love she said she was lucky to have married the man she luv n who luvs her in return.so I told her hw much i luv my ex,which I truely do

she advice me to follow my hrt.i told my suitor to give me 4 months to sort at things with my ex that we r in a serious relationship.

I told my ex about this guy n his plans for me,because I luv my ex i've been faithful and truthful to him n I don't hide any thing from him.

I needed advice from him,if he has no good intention for me he shud allow me to go n settle down with d new guy, bt my ex got so cool he told me hw much he luvs me,hw he has broken up with other gals because of me,that I shud exercise more patience with him,that his intention for me are for gud,his plans is neva to hurt me that he wants to surprise me

I rejected my suitor told he neva to call my number again


ever since I told my ex abt the suitor that was when our problem began,he accuse me of cheating on him which I neva did,he suspect my every move,goes through all my social media in my phone,including my dialed,received n missed calls on my phone.

he accuse me of the channel I watch,we fight over every little things,if I pick my call i have to explain who d caller is,if don't pick is a problem,i got tired of everything that I have to quit d r/ship cos the accusation n suspicions became too much for me to bear

my ex neva came to apologise to me as usual,and because I love him i went back him to say I was sorry,he told me to move on,that he doesn't want to waste my time n he doesn't like my tribe n am too young for him after 5yrs.

in august I got a wedding invitation from my last suitor,his now happily married.

Eva since I got wedding invitation from him.i've been battling with regret, guilt and depression,i can hardly think straight or sleep. n my ex is also getting married

please advice me on what to do to enable me do away with such feelings cos am dieing slowly