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Zehner:
Erm.....No vex the mess/farting part is so funny. but on a serious note......Do you have a job? why is she calling you frustrated and saying you want to bring her down.

Only she knows for sure why she calls me frustrated. I came here hoping people could help explain these situation to me and explain these comments. The "frustration" comment she has based/leveled against me many many times, it still stings but is not surprising.

What really shocked and PAINED me this time, that really prompted this post was this comment:

"God will not answer your prayers. All your prayers to God will remain unanswered as long as you continue to cause me pain"


To your question: I am self-employed and run my own business. I have had severe business setbacks which I have shared with her. These setbacks obviously make me sad and unhappy,but I keep praying and working as hard as I can to stabilize and grow my business.

Ive been going through a very difficult time for quite some time in different areas. I share with my wife these struggles and ask for her prayers and support. She is not a prayerful person and getting her to pray is very difficult. Indeed, in the home, if I do not ask for us to pray, no prayer occurs. When I do ask, on a good day she prays with me, on a bad day she refuses or brings an excuse - running late to work, needs more time to sleep, etc. All my attempts over the years to get us into a prayer routine have failed!

I have noticed that frequently when I bring to her attention issues of her failing, instead of her to address her failing and make amends , she rebukes me as follows: "You are a frustrated man - I wont allow you to bring me down with you" She has made this and similar comments to me several times. Obviously, these comments sting!

Recently, she made the same comment and I just sat here in pain and shock. I then said to myself - "God help me".

Her response to me on hearing me say "God help me" was as follows:

"God will not answer your prayers. All your prayers to God will remain unanswered as long as you continue to cause me pain"

I looked at her as she looked me straight in the eye and uttered these words. I did not respond. I was too stung and shocked to utter a word. So I restrained myself and kept silent. Her response to my silence was to repeat it twice/thrice. A few minutes later she said it again for a total of three or four times.

Now the obvious question is what prompted this. Well I think these comments of hers should be addressed and interpreted on their own. Nonetheless, let me address the obvious question:

I was in the room and unfortunately messed/farted. I excused myself and left the room to go outside of the house to make a call - and left the door slightly open to allow in fresh air to diffuse the smell of the mess/fart. Less than five minutes or so later, I came back and I smelt perfume all through the hallway and I wondered where it came from. I enter our room where she was and the perfume smell is even stronger. I then realize what happened. To remove the smell of my mess/fart, she sprayed my perfume into the air in the room. She turned my perfume into air freshener. I asked her: "Why would you do that. Is my mess/fart poison? Would it not naturally go away after about 2-4 minutes? Plus, I left the door open to allow fresh air in. If it was so bad and you felt using perfume as air freshener was the right thing to do, why not use your own perfume - why use my perfume?" She said to me, because it was your mess/fart. I then told her very sternly - not to ever do that again. That was it. Her response was to then accuse me of being a frustrated man and the other comment I mentioned above and repeat here:

"God will not answer your prayers. All your prayers to God will remain unanswered as long as you continue to cause me pain"


As I write this, it sounds so ridiculous and perhaps even unbelievable. If this is all that happened - why would a wife sting her husband by calling him a "frustrated man". Why would she make a comment of that gravity concerning my prayers to God.

Please help me understand the true meaning of these words she has laid on me. Please help me interpret the situation.

Your advice and suggestions are welcome.