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Hi Ms. Mutter,

I am trying to reach you. I sent you several email connection requests via nairaland. Please reply to the email connection request I sent via nairaland, so I can send you an email.

Thanks a lot!

mutter:
There are pictures you don't allow to go public. This is one of them. It is just not ok. The man without a shirt. What does the picture say?.
No one can see if it is his wife. People should be careful with what the publise.
For those who see nothing wrong...prove it by taking a picture in a similar pose ]

This is not an impressive or inspiring list - at all.

senier007:
Source: http://dailypost.ng/2015/05/16/federal-cabinet-security-agencies-screen-names-submitted-by-buhari-see-list/

Who is the guy to the far left in the first photo on page 1 of this thread. He is ALWAYS by GEJ's side.

This case should be kept on frontpage. Moderators please do so.

Please post as much information as possible here. Those with contacts should send this link to the media and security agencies. If the story is true, the rapists and molesters should be punished severely.

You be betta man!

Billyonaire:
It is MANDATORY to tell your wife "Thank You", and if you forget to thank her, do apologize if she reminds you. The fact that you were not raised with that orientation does not mean it was right. You should learn the simple habits of courtesy, and make sure you pass that to your kids. My wife even makes me say thank you to the domestic staff when they present me anything and she also makes me add "Please" when asking anyone for anything. I accept these corrections and I have realized that life is more pleasant at home when I use more "Thank you" and "Please".

Come on man, behave yourself

For EVERY meal your wife cooks for you - you MUST thank her.

Nigerian men, na wah for una!

Is this an issue we have to even discuss? Goodness.

Dera25:
My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and serve me. She says that she deserves a greeting from me.

I said okay, just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be keep up greeting her each time she gives me food.

It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me, although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she reminds me of this greeting of a thing gets me angry, as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we've had issues because of it.

So daddies and mummies in the house, do you greet your wife after she has given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun?

Please let me remind you that this is not the issue of been a breadwinner or not. I beg you to forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian.

Thanks in advance.

SMART MAN/WOMAN!

God Bless You! Spread this message to Nigerians.

newmuzik:
There's this fact that I know... Numbers count for something. Countries with large population can use that as an advantage to greatness. When you have people you have potentials, the more people you have the more potentials you have. When you are able as a nation to manage the people you have you bring out the possibilities and greatness. Wise leaders do that, look at at Asian countries with little mineral resources but much larger population, see what they have done, see what they have become....

If we can overlook the divide that caused us so much hate, we can harness so much greatness and thrive to become among the greatest nations on the face of the earth

Abeg tell me wetin be "oringo"

Do you think Chime will still support him for Governor in eight years?

Mzest:
That's Dr. Chukwuemeka Ujam. He is a former commissioner for lands in Enugu State. Funny thing is that he is a returnee from London and has a PHD. He has been pimping for gov Sullivan Chime since his London days. He arranges Oyibo teenage ashawo for the oringo governor. He is very close to chime. His wife is very close to chime also. Nobody knows what's going on between them. Another funny thing is his twin brother Dr. Chukwugozie Ujam escaped jail in Lindon. Google his name and see for yourself. After he was arrested with thousands of PVCs he was released following the intervention of chime. The PVCs which were taken to Army 82 Division in Enugu have been released to chime after GMG bags changed hands. Dr. Ujam now says his arrest is a hoax, that it is a photoshop. Funny thing is that chime was preparing the Ujam boy for governor in next eight years. We are watching to see how the Ujam boy will escape jail when GMB takes over and launches his war against corruption which includes election rigging.

Is there any proof that he made these comments. Any independent source? Audio?

I forgot to say Thanks DukeNija for your brotherly support.

Bros,

I've been praying...I REALLY HAVE!

While it appears I am blaming my wife by saying:

"Wondering if she is now possessed because truly the things she says and does these days are mind boggling - this cannot be the same woman I married."

Do not forget that I also said:

"Wondering if the marriage is under spiritual attack?"

meaning I leave room for the possibility that we are both under atatck ..or maybe I am under attack.

As I said, I am becoming paranoid and this paranoia annoys me.

I am not opposed to going for "deliverance"...but one has heard so many things about fake pastors, etc...that I am extremely cautious/wary in that regard.

DukeNija:
Why don't you go for deliverance? Look for a prayerful church and go for deliverance. I will recommend Mfm prayer city for you. I too had a challenge and went there, and honestly my testimony came on the second day of the deliverance. You call yourself a Christian, yet the enemy has crippled your marriage and business. How do you expect to fight back? By lamenting on nairaland? Pls go for serious prayer and fasting. I suspect two things, either its the work of spirit spouses who want to wreck you and destroy your marriage, or there's a direct attack from somewhere, most likely family. Well my mom is a pastor so I've seen many things. I've seen a couple who couldn't stand each other before, the man went for deliverance and instantly, the wife traced him to the venue and with tears they reconciled. Oga, pls don't blame your wife.

Kaboninc,

Thanks for your counsel. It is hard to disagree with your advice.

kaboninc:
Accept gini?

If your left hand will cause you to loose your life, biko cut if off and burn it to ashes! Another may not grow but your other body part will make up for it. Amputees are alive today because a rusted arm (or leg) was cut of. Today they've climbed to heights even one with complete human parts has never attained.

Life is hope. Being alive is having hope for a better tomorrow. Giving up doesn't necessarily mean giving up. It can mean leaving today to live tomorrow!

If a woman, your partner cannot share your dreams, goals, aspirations, lead you on, support you, stand by you, encourage you, motivate you, inspire you, then you've definitely made a huge mistake in marrying her and need to correct it. Too much gentility will lead one to an early grave.

You can give her the grace to change but if nothing works, stay away from her and still if nothing works, divorce am. Am not a fan of divorce but am not also a fan of polygamy. Am not a fan of a death trapped marriages. Choose the lesser evil - separation (then divorce)

Everybody deserves to be happy, has the right to be at peace and be calm. Any threat to it should be dealt with accordingly.

I for sure cannot stand a foul, bad mouthed lady. Gosh!!! And she my wife? Then am a LIVING DEAD!

Exebi, you're thinking of divorce and its implications. I hope you should also consider or currently considering your happiness and state of mind. Encouragement, motivation and inspiration are important drivers of the wheel of success. If your wife is not driving you, biko jump to another bus or wait for another. Every bus APPEARS to be on the same journey but so many are already derailed right before they started!

God's Grace takes care of us even in our inactions and thoughts - but we shouldn't take it for granted.

May God continue to guide you through this difficult time. Also note that for every event, there's always a lesson to learn.

Cheers.

Here is an update to those who followed and/or contributed to this thread.

Things have actually gotten worse. Much worse.

I truly do not know what to do.

My mind says end the marriage as it is not working and is not likely to work given the obvious signs.

My heart is torn by the fact that this would go against the biblical injunction against divorce, be an acknowledgment that I failed in a major life decision, bring much sadness to my parents, friends and loved ones...and bring me shame over my failure.

My heart also still wants to believe she can transform back to the woman I thought she was or the woman she used to be. My heart believes if this happens then we can have the wonderful marriage I thought we would have.

I am at a complete loss as to how I got into this mess. I though I took steps and prayed against this outcome. I am now becoming paranoid. Wondering if the marriage is under spiritual attack? Wondering if she is now possessed because truly the things she says and does these days are mind boggling - this cannot be the same woman I married. I am even beginning to wonder if the same spiritual attack I suspect on the marriage is what has severely negatively impacted my business. The collapse my business has experienced since this marriage commenced, if I tel you the details you would WEEP FOR ME. Actually my business has been in decline since this relationship started and the decline has been simply catastrophic and hard to explain or fathom. An incredible combination of bad decisions on my part, bad luck, misfortune and strange occurrences adversely impacting the business (bad luck).

If not for my love of God, I would have since committed suicide.

I am deeply pained and deeply confused.

Pray for me. Counsel me.

Thank you.

This point is WISE & TRUE - especially in Nigeria with many selfish parents, elders and friends pressurizing everyone to marry immediately. Indeed this point should be #1 not #7.

eleojo23:
7. Don't marry due to pressure.
There is a lot of pressure on young people to get married. These pressures can make someone marry a person who is not meant for him/her thereby marrying someone they don't really like and with whom they are not comfortable.

When issues arise, he/she will be saying within himself/herself 'if I had my way, I wouldn't have married you in the first place!.'

Don't allow people to push you into something that you'll later regret.
Because when the relationship begins to have problems, it is this same people who will begin to run their mouth and say things that will surprise you.
They'll say things like
''if you didn't really love him/her and you knew you wouldn't be able to live with him/her, why then did you marry him/her?"

That's why it's good to always take actions that you can be responsible for and not because people expect you to. This is because when things start going the way you did not expect, you begin to look for who to blame but alas, everyone denies responsibility. You finally end up blaming yourself for allowing others make your decisions for you.

Can someone please post a link to this video/audio message on Youtube or elsewhere. Please! Thank you!

Brothers and sisters,

Please pray for me. I am HURTING - VERY MUCH SO. I need His wisdom, guidance, direction and strength.

Please pray for me.

Thank you.

egopersonified:
Her bad behaviour(abuses, curses)

Her bad behavior has been long-standing and I have brought it to her attention several times. She even "promised" almost a year ago to change. Within one week of that promise, she did something horrible I would never have expected from her (an entirely different story) and indignantly used rudeness and disrespect to "defend" herself. Frankly, if I must be honest with myself, she just lacks the ability to behave properly towards me - no respect, no care, no love. The irony is that she is exceedingly respectful, loving and caring of her parents and siblings. She is also generally respectful of elders. I frequently tell her, "you speak to me and act in ways you would never speak to your youngest sibling or to even a stranger on the street, yet this is what you give 'your husband' " . her response is that I should not mention her "family". Indeed, she even says that my mentioning of her family to make that point is "disrespectful" of her family.

egopersonified:
Has there ever being a time she apologized for her behavior and tried to change for a short while? If yes, she might be trying to get out of it but failing.

Before I answer your question, I need to first understand it. When you say "she might be trying to get out of it but failing" - what is the "it" you are referring to?

Ilekokonit,

Thanks for all your thoughts and counsel.

I am really finding it hard to believe it is an issue of "competition for money" in my case. Maybe I am naive, but I do not see it. Yes, I am going through a difficult time, (which God is lifting me out of into greater heights), but my struggles have not affected her finances so I do not see why she should necessarily resent me or be competing with me.

I do see your point, however, that she may have stopped loving me and now hates me. Indeed, there is evidence to that point.

Thanks again for sharing.

Ilekokonit:
You speak with wisdom.

Not many people know that the wedding day is a hundred metre dash BUT the marriage proper is a marathon. And without deep love and mutual affection no couple can survive the everlasting handcuffs of this marathon called marriage.

Once there is still mutual love then all is good but when this love dies in one or both parties and is replaced by competition to have more money than your spouse then the marriage starts dying a sure death.

Dear Aisha2,

Thanks so much for sharing.

To be frank, this is not a new problem and your two wise suggestions have already been implemented by me. Sadly, they failed.

aisha2:
Good starting point. I was looking for the word " smart" she may be a practical woman who feels prayers without works is dead.
Curses aside nothing excuses that but I am not one of those who you will meet doing midnight prayers, casting and binding, i do quiet silent prayers and do a lot more work.
She may feel you are relying too much on prayers and not doing enough work.

This is the fourth page on nairaland. If you have any interest in your marriage working then i suggest you close this page, you jave had enough sound advice except you wamt an avenue where your wife will be bashed and you justified. Close this, take the valuable advice and try it.

I suggest you take her for a walk as someone suggested or write her an email as my friend would always advice share how you feel, and LISTEN to her own pointa why she acts like that and how better you both can improve communication because you cant bring a child into such negativity. Where thia fails inform her parents i asked if you were close to your in laws you didnt respond.

I wish you the best wont be commenting anymore

To emphasize this point, I will answer your question in all caps:

I HAVE NEVER CHEATED ON MY WIFE! GOD WILLING I NEVER WILL!

She knows this fact and she knows I am the kind of man that will never cheat.

kozaic:
OP. Pls hav u ever cheated on her?
I have a huge feeling u are a bit biased. And trust me my feelings are always right.

U hav somebody who is taking ur attention outside ur home.. Stop painting ur wife all black in public pls.

Stop allowing single guyz 2 derail u, work out ur marriage!

Have u ever cheated on ur wife?

aisha2:
I asked what good qualities she has, you ignored me.

Sorry.

She's beautiful, smart and a great cook.

Ilekokonit:
The minute you can see hate in those same eyes you once saw love, the marriage is over

This woman hates you and once they start, they don't stop.
Start planning for your singleness as in her mind, she would prefer you to be dead so that she can move on with her life
She sees you as unnecessary baggage possibly because things are not working out as you planned YET

These comments resonated with me..and it is frightening. Yes sometimes I feel she has flipped from loving me to hating me. I noticed this a while ago and tried multiple times to address it with her to no avail.

What can a man do under these circumstances?

Assuming you are right in your ocmments below that I married "a very terrible wife". What do I do now?! This is a serious question. Thank you.

Can you also comment more on this comment of yours:

"Funny enough, a preacher said something yesterday. He said "Some men and women get married to their Wives/husbands and their destinies shutdown immediately. It closes completely and never ever opens again simply because they married a particular person"
Classic case of marrying the enemy!

How does one determine they are in such a situation? And if they are, what do they do about it to rectify the situation? To open up the destiny again? These are also serious questions. Thank you for taking the time to answer them.

DukeNija:
I'm very sorry to tell you but I think you married a very terrible wife. Why didn't you seek the face of God b4 marriage? Why didn't you marry someone who loves God and prayers like you? Why didn't you see that she isn't really the humble, meek, supportive proverb 31 wife?
You got carried away by her intelligence, beauty and charm that you thought u've hit jackpot.

Breaking news: this woman is wrong for you because she does not have the same spirit as you, she doesn't have a good understanding of God, she doesn't have the fear of God, she doesn't have respect for other people not just you, she's proud and looks down on others and can even trample on them if given the chance, she saw you as a successful businessman with potentials and when the chips came down she realized you weren't whom or what she had in mind. You do not know the whereabouts of her finances despite the fact that she has a great job with a great salary, she could be financing a project or "projects" as a backup just incase this marriage comes to an end, doesn't contribute much in the house financially.
Bros, I think you are in for a long thing. How long will you continue to suffer like this? 10yrs, 20yrs, 30yrs? I don't know what else to advice you other than for you to continue praying without her getting involved, ask her to contribute financially to reduce the burden on you, and please don't have kids yet just incase.
Funny enough, a preacher said something yesterday. He said "Some men and women get married to their Wives/husbands and their destinies shutdown immediately. It closes completely and never ever opens again simply because they married a particular person"
Classic case of marrying the enemy!
Peace!

ELLYsian:
OP, you should have married a prayerful woman.

You are RIGHT! I foolishly thought I did...but the red flags were there prior to marriage. She is spiritually weak and lazy. My heart is in pain.

2sexi:
OP, money is the problem! Nothing else.

A lot of people posting on the thread have indicated this is the issue. Maybe I am deceiving myself, but I do not want to believe it. Maybe you guys are right..?

I do not want to believe it, because it is not as if have asked her to take up the majority of household expenses. As i said, I bear at least 80% of household expenses - it was probably over 90% at one point. She still earns her very large salary and deposits it in her account - supposedly saving for the family's rainy day - to which she has not shared with me any details of the savings. So I am not bothering her to take up household expenses, so why should money be the problem. Other than her hearing me cry about my business struggles (and my cry is essentially when I ask her: "please intensify prayer for my business" or my not being able to engage in some luxurious expenditures I used to - there really is no difference. But again, maybe I am deceiving myself. To me the absence of luxurious expenditures is not a big issue - as long as the rent is paid and we are eating, healthy and clothed. Maybe to her it is.

I am really confused...

Some comments here have resonated though -even though painful.

Please keep sharing and contributing. I am listening/reading and praying. I hope to take a definitive decision soon..but just want to be sure I am in sync with God's perfect will.

Thank you.

Ilekokonit. Thanks for sharing your comments. Wow!

May God help me. I need wisdom. I need grace. I need strength. I need courage. I need Him!

Ilekokonit,

Can you please share some more on your comments below. Thank you.

Ilekokonit:
The minute you can see hate in those same eyes you once saw love, the marriage is over

This woman hates you and once they start, they don't stop.
Start planning for your singleness as in her mind, she would prefer you to be dead so that she can move on with her life
She sees you as unnecessary baggage possibly because things are not working out as you planned YET
Educated women generally don't have patience once their once well doing husband falls on hard times.
The illiterate women fare better in standing by their men for better for worse

Thanks kandiikane.

Did you miss the part where I said;

(i) I apologized repeatedly
(ii) I asked her to tell me what I should do next time since raising my hand offended her.

You are convinced that I am doing some wrong things and refuse to change. I have spoken to her multiple times. I have listened. If I was not interested in listening or peace making why would I after her behavior approach and ask her what the issue is and apologize and ask her to tell me what to do differently next time.

It is very easy to assume men are mad and crazy and sometimes we are (just like other humans)...but not all the time.

The main issue for me as I hinted at in my initial post - even if I am this horrible man that does nothing but willingly inflict pain on my wife is that why she would tell me the following:


"God will not answer your prayers"

kandiikane:
@exebi, you may think you raised your hand discreetly but it could have been completely different from another point of view.

She brought up the issues that has been causing her pain yet you thought it ironic, basically reiterating my earlier post on how some men brush off issues. That mentality will keep the circle of abuse from both parties going and it won't stop unless you start to listen and do. I doubt she would just start disrespecting you for no reason unless thats how you married her which then will be something you caused because you chose to still go for her.

Regarding the booking, there was nothing wrong with her explaining the problem because that could even lead to the people you booked with correcting anything that may have caused the problem so it won't happen again(if the fault was theirs). You may not have tried to shut her up in a bad way but she said she felt embarrassed and even though her reaction was unwarranted, you should try to not shut her up in public next time. You both embarrassed each other. You are both upset, both of you are at fault, she takes longer to get over things more than you.

Now, this has nothing to do with being the man but if you still want your marriage, take your wife out to somewhere nice and quiet on a good day. Have fun, behave how you normally behave when you are in good terms and then bring up the issues because things makes more sense when people are in a good mood. Ask and Apologise for whatever pain you have been causing her, tell her you will try your best to not cause her any more pain and then tell her your issues with her. Explain to her both of you need to learn to respect and appreciate each other. If anyone has a problem, they can tell the other without being angry and the other should try to listen to what each person says. Exebi, I don't need to go on and on, you know you want peace and harmony and you should know all the right things you need to say to get her to open up and agree on making the marriage work. Don't let your pride take over you sense of reasoning. You are hurt, she is hurt, do something about it. Plus it doesn't need to be out, you could do it at home or if you choose to go out with her it doesn't have to be expensive. Sitting here and venting isn't going to solve anything. If you make efforts and she still disrespects and insults you or whatever you say she does, you can take whatever action you see fit to be happy.

Thanks to all who have shared and contributed to the thread.

Some have posted that my story is one-sided, incomplete or untruthful. My initial post was COMPLETE AND TRUTHFUL. I do not tell lies. In fact, I have kept many facts that are in my favor out of my original post, because I do not want to lead people's thoughts. I will answer people's questions honestly...but do not want to telegraph their views So for example, I only mentioned that I have been doing my best to provide the majority of household expenses, because I was asked that question. I did not see the need to mention that in the initial post.

As to what is causing her pain, I do not know for sure. Have I asked? Many times. She always has one issue or the other. She accuses me of disrespecting her and not speaking to her properly - coming from someone who speaks to me with such disdain and condescension - I find that an incredible irony.

Let me add two recent incidents to provide some more color to the matter.

1. About three weeks or so ago, I asked her to assist me with a few little tasks: a range of trivial to important things including the following: (i). I need to make a decision about something - here are my options, please pray and think over it and let me know what you think is best for me to do. (ii) Please make that phone call to that person on the matter we discussed (by the way this is a matter that has dragged for over four months). (iii) Do not forget to buy that item from the store we discussed (this is more than a month overdue). These are just a few examples. So there were about I think five or seven talks like this. After two weeks, she had done NONE of them. I asked her, is this right, I come to you and make a request - some of these things are very important as you know for example - a man asking his wife to provide counsel to help me take a decision. Yet, despite the struggles you know I am going through, you just ignore all these requests. When I make such statements she says I am criticizing her. if I dare express anger at raising the issue, she tells me: "dont raise your voice at me, don't speak to me like a child". To which I respond - I am not a mad man . If someone makes a request 20 times and it is ignored, is it not normal for me to on the 21st time express anger and raise my voice. Perhaps, if you responded to the first or second time of me making the request as opposed to me having to remind you 10, 15 times (no exaggeration) there would be no need for me to express anger or raise my voice.

2. Because of the issue above, last week I just told myself I was not going to spend time chasing heron the issues I had asked her to do as this would just lead to arguments and yet there would be no change on her part. As sch, I was withdrawn. withdrawn out of sadness that I do not have a helpmate. She noticed this and got upset. She accused me of being cold to her - which was true. What am I to do? Remind her for the 25th time about issues that have dragged for months. Then she will say I am being rude to her..and at the end nothing would be done. So I just ignored the issue as painful as it was and tried to stay on my own in peace.

3. Earlier in the day of the fart /incident. We went to a place where we had to check in at the desk to gain entry. Prior to arrival, there were some issues with the entry ticket we had arranged - which we had resolved over the phone. Upon arrival, the person noticed that we had two bookings -which was correct. She immediately started to explain the problems we had in making the booking and explain what she did to resolve it, etc. I raised my hand gently to indicate to her - to hold her peace. My reasoning was simple. The person had not said there was a problem - he just said - you have two bookings -which was correct. So why, preempt a problem by discussing old history. The person helping also, said something to the effect of Madam there is no problem, no need to explain. My wife sparked ON THE SPOT! Gave all of us - myself and the two men helping us behind the counter bad looks and walked away in anger. I was embarrassed by her behavior. Yet, when I later confronted her on the issue, she said I embarrassed her , by raising my hand (which I did as discreetly as I could) to get her to hold her peace. She said that I gave those "rats' (the two men helping us with the booking) the audacity to tell her not to bother going on with her explanation. She was so infuriated with me. I told her it was not at all my intention to embarrass her. I only was trying to prevent her form creating a problem where none existed. I then went on to say repeatedly: "I am sorry". I also said: since my raising my hand (albeit discreetly and gently) to indicate to you to hold your piece, what would you prefer I do in the future under similar circumstances. She had no definite answer to that. So as I write this I do not know what to do if the situation repeats itself. Despite my apology, she remained upset. This incident happened about three hours before the fart/perfume incident.

Hopefully, the above points shed some more light and show my honesty in this post.

Finally about kids, we are newlyweds married for just a few years and mutually agreed to delay child-bearing for a while.

ShirelleBaby:
---THIS IS YOUR OWN SIDE OF THE STORY-so I am going to critically analyse this based on ur story


#1-was she always like this?when ever you guys quarrel,is there any use of bad words?if yes-u have urself a temperamental wife!!

Is there ever a happy moment after the curses she heaps on you?if yes-use that time and ask her WHAT YOU HAVE DONE!because I have a feeling u have offended her previously and she is finding it hard to forgive.


Do u have kids?how is the relationship between ur wife and ur kids going?if FAIR-then the issue is with you not the family



The spending in the house,who bears more burden now ur business is suffering set-backs?if SHE-then that is another place her anger is coming from-and all u have to do is bear and tolerate




I'm tired of typing jawe-but believe me something is causing her recent bitterness-and till u find out-she is going to remain that way

Let me address your points:

Yes - she constantly says harsh things to me. In fact when I read your comment: "u have urself a temperamental wife!!" I smiled. You know why? Because I constantly tel her: "You are to temperamental! restrain yourself! Control yourself! have some self-control! "

We have no kids yet.

Despite my business setbacks these past few years - I have continue to be the MAIN provider in the home. During courtship - I bore ALL expenses. I cover at least 80% of expenses in the home - conservative estimate - it is probably closer to 90%. I take this role as provider very seriously and I am praying to God can continue to meet it. She has a great job with a great salary. I told her keep your salary and save it - so it can be there for the rainy day. Meanwhile I continue to bear 80%+ of expenses. Can you imagine that I do not even know how much she has "saved for the rainy day" these past few years?!

i continue to beg God to restore my business so I can continue to provide. I wonder what would become of me if GOD FORBID GOD FORBID GOD FORBID it gets to the point when I start asking her to pay rent or give me "pocket money". If I am experiencing this now, at that point, na suicide she go lead me into. God forbid!

Thanks to all for reading and sharing their views, suggestions with me. Please keep them coming. Thank you.