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THIS IS A TRUE LIFE STORY
I will be 30 by 17th of November. I fell in love at the age of 13 , with a guy who was living in the same yard with me. I was living with my elder sister and him, with his elder brother who was a trader then.

We were lost in love that we care not what any body is saying about us.
After my J. WAEC, my sister sent me back to the village because of my lover.
He came to my village and brought me back to town , enrolled me in one of the boarden schools, took care of everything untill i graduated from SS3.

He enrolled me in a catering school, after i graduated from there, i got a job in one of the big eatries in town. I worked in the kitchen department.

All these while , his family members knew about everything that was going on b/w us, but were against our relationship. We thought we will overcome it in future.

We decided to keep a pregnancy in order to switch into marriage proper.
Since his father was late, he told his mother about our marriage , but she refused to accept me as her daughter inlaw. He met few elders from his village who talked to his mother and siblings before they accept our plan.

They came for introduction, and his mother said that wedding should be suspended untill after i finished giving birth to my baby. We obeyed her just to let peace be.

9th month of my pregnancy, i had a problem that resulted in operation, it was only by God's intervention that i survived it , but i lost my baby. The docter said that my womb was seriously affected , that my chance of having a baby again is little.

After that , i stayed for the next 3 yrs without getting pregnant , and my husband's attitude started changing towards me.
He came back one day and told me that i will leave his house , that he wants to reconcile with his family members. I looked at him and asked him if he was ok.
Few weeks later , he reapeted the same statement and when i tried questioning him, he beat me up and threw me out of the house.

I shamfully went back to my parents , crying bitterly and praying with a broken heart that he should come back to his senses. Each time i called, he will not pick my call and when i call with another number, once he recognises my voice , he will drop the call.

3 yrs later he got married to another girl.
7 months after their wedding , he came with his friend looking for me, that he came to ask for my forgiveness. He said that his wife took ill on the day of their wedding and is still sick till then , that he know that he has offended me , i should forgive him so that his wife will be well again. That she has had 2 miscarriages since after their wedding , bla bla bla!!!

I walked them out of my house , telling them to go and ask God for forgiveness , cos i did nothinng against them . I only cried and prayed with a broken heart. Heaven will bear me witness that i did nothing against them.

Few months later , she died.

I have been into relationships since then , but each time marriage is mentioned , i will quit because i don't know how to tell a guy that my womb is not in good order and my concience woun't let me keep it a secret to man who wants to marry me.

Presently , i am dating a guy who have asked for my hand in marriage. Should i tell him the state of my womb or keep it a secret?

3 days ago , my ex husband came to me asking me to be his wife again, that he was told that as long as i live , no woman will ever survive in his house as a wife. I know fully well that as long as his mother lives , she will never want to set her eyes on me because she hate me with passion.

My question is this

(1) WHAT WILL I TELL MY EX HUSBAND

(2) SHOULD I TELL MY PRESENT LOVER ABOUT MY WOMB OR KEEP IT A SECRET?

Pls!!! Your helpful comments is highly needed, cos i am totally confused .