rockstarB:

You dont love her and you're not attracted to her. This might be a disaster waiting to happen in the future. You should try and see whether you can develop feeling for her before marriage, if you cannot then I'd advice you let her go. Attraction and love matters, she might end up irritating you after marriage cos the attraction isn't there.
Do you picture yourself making love to her? Traveling together and making good memories.
If it cannot go beyond friendship for you, I'll advice you let go. Its first her own good as well. Except you want to marry her for the good communication and trust? And cheat on her with someone you find sexually appealing.

that cheating part is my fear, thanks for d contribution

crackkhaus:

Your attraction for her is just not high enough. A 40% level of love is enough but with attraction at just 40%, you will most likely cheat on her with someone you find more attractive.

Every other score issa goal except attraction, sorry.

Either you look for someone else, or you marry this one and make a vow to whatever deity you believe in to never cheat on her. Your choice.

thanks

Donald3d:

Exactly !
Thank you for this ma'am
OP

Get a book and pen, write out a list of all what you want in a wife .
If she ticks at least 70- 80 % of what you wrote, please marry her.

BUT, if you know within your heart that you wouldn't stay faithful to her just because she isn't light skinned, please let her be.

We humans sometimes don't really understand what love really is, it's not always the tingling sensation...Most times it stems from real and true friendship.

As you grow older, you would understand that some things are going to fade away, they won't matter any more, they are temporary.

What permanent features does she have ?

I don't mean to sound harsh or disrespectful and I understand everyone has preferences, but if you still think in this manner, I am sorry sir, you aren't ready for marriage. You didn't say she isn't good looking, the problem is her skin colour.

Trust me, I know some light skinned girls that are not "marriageable".

When you get married all these things gradually wouldn't matter anymore...

My wife is light skinned, brown "cat eyes" , she is breathtaking to look at. I didn't marry her for all these. It just happened that she had these features.

I am not saying I don't notice her beauty, but as we grow together, her selflessness, her dedication, her submissiveness, her love and care for me, makes me more attracted to her, that I barely notice her face sometimes, the beauty of her actions have overtaken her physical beauty. She gives me peace, peace !. She is my best friend, as you call it my paddy paddy.

Your number one priority should be peace of mind, then every other thing can follow.
Without peace of mind, you can't function properly as a human, nothing else would make sense.

I pray you see things and God gives you foresight to deeply understand what marriage entails and what lies ahead of you.

thanks alot I appreciate your input

[quote author=farady post=88088536]You need both. Bible says husbands love your wife and love entails so much. That means you're willing to give anything bla bla bla. Then you need that friendship to relate in your day to day life. That's what keep you going even in later years.

[/quote you understand me, thanks for you contribution

[quote author=farady post=88088536]You need both. Bible says husbands love your wife and love entails so much. That means you're willing to give anything bla bla bla. Then you need that friendship to relate in your day to day life. That's what keep you going even in later years.

[/quote you understand me, thanks for your contribution

thorpido:
@bolded,leave her and let her go.Honestly as you grow in marriage,with the way you see her now,she'll become even more unattractive to you.

thanks

freecocoahubby:


And yours will certainly be the end of you!

Just imagine the nonsense you've typed up.. your little brain cannot comprehend that the only difference between this lady and a "fair lady" is a fvcking BLEACHING CREAM! So I guess bleaching her skin is what it will take to win your love?

Dude you're shallow and pathetic. Free that girl jor let her find a real man to love and appreciate her. Ode!

some people and comprehension shaa

keepingmum:
Been married for 16yrs plus and can tell you this, love will fade at some point in marriage.......beauty and looks aint skin deep, they are superficial and WILL fade.. my FIL is as white as an albino but hubby is dark skinned and i am light skinned but NOT fair....both my kids took my FIL's skin colour ie hubby's recessive genes.......you may marry a fair skinned girl whom pregnancy hormones messes up with and she goes dark during preg and never returns to her birth colour yet ur kids end up with your colour......will you then dump her and your kids because they dont have your "preferred skin
colour"...

.friendship is what will keep your marriage through those tough times because believe me as a spouse, u ll offend your spouse so much that they might resent you....but then because they miss their "friend" they reconcile and forgive you.

I think the bigger question here is you know what friendship is

thanks for your reply. Let me elaborate my point, I don't feel that tingling sensation of love with her, I see her more of my paddy paddy. Is that good enough for marriage?

freecocoahubby:


You prefer bleached ladies? Oponu.
Shame on you!

everyone has his or her own preferences

lilmax:
Have you knacked her? Let's start from there

knacking her or not is not the board of contention here, thank you

thorpido:
You're not ready for marriage.....at least not with her.
You better let her go if your mind is not in her instead of chasing fair girls in the future(and there will be more fair girls because of bleaching).

I am ready. I mean natural light skin girls not bleached

Hi everyone I need advice because am I little confuse

I am in a relationship with a great lady, she loves me and she always have butterflies in her Tommy each time she sees me or hear my voice but I don't feel that way, I see her more as a friend. We can gist d whole day if need be without getting tired or bored, we have complementary goals, we understand each other. I think it's because she is dark skinned n I prefer light skinned ladies. My confusion is that I want to settle down, can I go ahead with her? bearing in mind that inner beauty n character is better than outward beauty. Will it work out? Will the lack of sufficient love from me cause any ripple in future?

Attraction towards her-40%
Love for her-40%
Friendship-90%
Communication-90%
Understanding-90%
Trust-98%

GAZZUZZ:


Depends on the price and the car

It's a 2002 Mercedes c200. I have not decided on d price yet but am looking at a million n above

Aaaaarghmed:
sell it as it is.painting a car before sale doesn't make much difference in naija.pple wud be asking you if its first body.

Thanks man

I want to sell my car but I don't know if to paint or not. Which will give it better sale value?

Good day house, I want to sell my car but I don't know if to paint it or not. Which will give the car more sale value? Thanks

Good job u are doing Sir, pls I want to know price of Lexus rx300 2002-2004

Good day all, pls does anyone have an idea of the cost of a 50*100ft land in orji, Imo state

Adman pls how much will land 2004/2005 acura tsx

LadySarah:
My elder sis story not mine.

.During the hols My mum always locked us inside but still gave us the key(emergency).When she leaves,we'd let in Our neighbour's daughter who would gist us about street life and always showed us the money she made from hawking iced water.Back in the days when iced water was a thing ;you know those tap water tied in white santana polythenes before 'pure water' replaced it.It was tempting.

Well one day,my sis made up her mind.Fetched water with a paint bucket,in to the freezer.The next morning we helped her tie them (pri school children),then she left to sell with her partner,b4 2pm she was back and money she made which we shared.It was so cool.

Next day she set off again.A relative saw her and quuckly came to inform my mum.From Afar my mum saw the child she left at home carrying this long white paint bucket,busy shouting "buy iced water" .

Well you know the end when we saw the both of them coming home together.

jeeeeeeeezzzzzzz I can only imagine hahahahaha d beating na on a diff level

stevups:
Valid point! I got a number like that, after I sent 2000 messages, the girl responded OK.

Hahahhahahhahaha my belle ooo

When dey arrive what will dey be doing? Just thinking some will say life first okay

This is mediocrity at its peak, take a look at that figures compared to d quality of road

This guys foolishness is legendary

This woman DAT year