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free2ryhme: na becos say the guy dey abroad we dey hear dis matter if na naija the guy base we for no hear dis matter at all .. u go don dump am tay tay

You don't even know if I'm based in Nigeria yet you are typing. You don't know anything about me, i could be anybody. just give your advice if you don't have anything useful to say then please you don't have to comment its not by force.

50calibre: Please do you have any friend who has the same attitude as you? I've been looking for friends with benefits for a long time but can't find any.

In a world of about 7 billion people, your kind is rare.

You really don't need to do this, you don't have to pull me down so you can feel better about yourself. I'm very sure that you have fallen for someone before. I'm not the first neither will I be the last to fall for someone

Smartie gurl: let him go, he will come back, if he is truly yours. sometimes our plans dnt really work out the way we want it!

Yes you are right! Although I feel sad because I really enjoy talking to him. I don't know why love can be so painful. oh well......

Condescending?no!am just very honest with you.Be rest assured that the guys could only guess whAt a woman feels.I only told you what I ll tell my own sister without mincing words.You are infatuated.Sorry if it rubbed you the wrong way.[/quote

you don't know me, you don't know what or how I feel, so stop typing what you don't know. I would prefer answers from guys because the person I am talking about is a guy

byvan: The easiest way to lose a man is trying to cling too hard,which you did.Let this guy be,the emotion you sense from him might just be his intimAte urge.Please don't go doing "sturves" just like that because if you continue like this,you might know more bedroom ceiling more than you ve known good food by the time you are married.Don't you think that this guy is commited already?

Carry yourself with dignity and a man will respect you,it is really pathetic when a woman begs for love.Doing sturves won't change his emotions either because men are hard wired.Please choose your relationships wisely.

Please you can give your advice without sounding soo condescending, I'm not the first person to fall in love neither will I be the last. I would prefer answers from the guys because they will understand better

frijos: Leave him alone for now and focus on other interesting parts of your life. Give him some space, that will make him start wondering in his mind if he has actually treated you fair or not. You appear too desperate, just calm down and take it easy. My 2 cents. Best of luck babe!

thanks!!! I will try and stay away

That the main reason why I said that is because if he only sees me as a friend with the way I feel I don't know how to handle things if he meets someone that he will love so the best thing is to let go. Since then I haven't heard anything I feel soo sad. I really want to let go, I don’t know why I feel this way, I keep wondering if I wasn’t too forward and just let things happen. Please guys I need your advice

The last time we spoke our conversation centred on my sensitivity and insecurities and he started talking about friendship again. Then I just told him straight up that what I felt was more than friendship that I wanted more and that was how everything "scattered" he said he thought we had been through this before, he then asked me what I really wanted I hesitated and told him that what I want might not be what he wants but he pressed on, so I told him my stance was all or nothing. He started saying that I wasn't being fair to him anyway that was how our conversation ended. I started feeling really sad and kept wondering If I did the right thing. so I sent him an email with a clear picture of exactly how I felt about him, that I didn't care about the age difference if that was his fear, the reply he sent was almost like an insult to me at least that’s how I felt almost like he felt I just saw him as a potential husband in other words I’m just looking for marriage, that if I really love him as I claimed it should not be conditional any way I sent a reply back explaining things.

We still managed to keep in touch and from time to time and used to call ourselves and spend hours talking on the phone although he still maintained his stance on friendship. After a while, I just decided to forget about everything then he called me and was saying that I should always stay in touch, somehow we found ourselves in the same country and for some time we used to communicate on the phone. Recently, we saw ourselves after many years; I was sooo overjoyed to see him. We spent the whole day together and did sturvs together, talked about a lot of things and joked with ourselves. The next day I went home but I didn’t know where I was in his life I think we talked from time to time not really frequent on the phone, before then he said that I was very sensitive.

Hi guys please I need an honest advice most especially from the guys on this matter. I truly truly want to let go but somehow I just can't I really don't know what to do. I met this guy some years ago for me it was love at first sight and I could swear that he felt something, although we met when he came to Nigeria for a visit, everything seemed so perfect till we discovered that somehow in the past I had something to do with one of his close relatives, that really weighed me down cos I felt that affected what we had. He then started saying I was too young. Anyway, long and short of it he travelled back when he did it was as if everything was off. he started talking about friendship somehow I moved on with my life even though deep down in my heart I just couldn’t let go, I felt that somehow fate had something in store for us