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50k can get you Eskimo if seller wants to be considerate

Osprey101:
How's this greed? Are you saying there are no dogs worth 50k?
I don't understand?
Cos I say i wan buy dog Na why you dey convulse like this?

Can she just keep quiet? When Peter obi gets there then she can tell him what will work

treesun:
https://punchng.com/state-police-wont-fix-insecurity-ezekwesili-warns-urges-full-restructuring/

Who get time to read this..... Ogbeni go talk am out with your girlfriend. Don't disturb my peace

oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

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I'm not in the dating pool. I've been married for 10 years so you should know I'm talking from experience. Why I said it was flimsy is if you are going to get angry over trivia matters as small as that then you are not ready to get married cos there will be other things that will occur in the marriage that will lead to more provocation. When you put a woman under your roof you have to learn patience and also learn to over look somethings or else na everyday fight.Talking about the car... He should have prepared better since he knew he was going to visit his inlaw there are loads of ways he could have made the trip more comfortable like bolt ,Uber, car hire or telling a friend to help

gunners160:
Why did he nt go with car? Did you give him one and he refused to collect? Secondly how would you call this flimsy issue? It is never flimsy but something to look out for. A woman who cares about you willl never leave u alone to suffer. Even if she will not enter the rain, she will show concern. Did you get the car? Hope the rain did not beat you? ETC is enough. She acted like nothing happend and as if it is none of her business and you call if flimsy?. It SEEMS YOU PEOPLE HERE ARE USED TO DATING NONSENSE AND THAT IS WHY YOU DONT UNDERSTAND THAT SOME OF US ARE ALLERGIC TO NONSENSE. ANYWAYS SHA, WHEN YOU DONT KNW UR WORTH AS A MAN , YOU TAKE EVERYTHING AS NOTHING

She's yet to be your wife since you are still discussing engagement. Why the need to get angry over something very flimsy? Do you expect a pregnant woman to stand in the rain with you struggling to get a cab? Why didn't you go with a car to your supposed in-laws house? They will size you up

Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?

No problem baba, i go pay tax but you won't be there as president

adenigga:
Source: https://dailytrust.com/tinubu-to-nigerians-you-must-pay-taxes-if-you-want-development

Don't step down for that unproductive governor

AnonPoet:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/thenationonlineng.net/ogun-east-ill-respect-presidents-wish-says-daniel/amp/

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blackpanthar:
i HAVE SEARCHED EVERY WHERE....
its not on jiji or jumia....

I need the tablets

Thank God for everyday you wake up on earth and enjoy it, Leave the heavy lifting for God.

GodCovenant:
God opened my eyes this morning, and I saw huge cobwebs all over my house.

I had a dream where my long-time enemy came to my house, and he said if I were aware that he was attacking me. I said, "Of course," or he thinks I don't know all this while.

Somehow I woke up and started praying. I then light my prayer candle. I have a lot of Christian songs, but in that moment I was looking for a mixed foreign Christian song that is soothing like blues.

I find one. Which lasted for 2 hours 30 minutes. After praying I use it to sleep as it was playing from my phone while my prayer candle was on.

I woke up this morning as I closed my eyes just lying down; I saw huge cobwebs all over my apartment with big, big spiders. The type you can't move around without them touching you.

But they are not visible to ordinary eyes.

I am just thinking how to remove them since they are not a physical thing.

Any good pharmacy or you can order it online

blackpanthar:
PLS WHERE CAN I GET IT IN LAGOS.... I need it badly... Pls

Get nizoral cream and tablets at a good pharmacy then follow the instructions on the cream and tablets

Saao:
Hello Nairalanders,
My son is going that thing u can see in the pictures. He's 5 years, we have gone to the hospital and as well bought different drugs for him but it refused to go.

Please help me, have you experienced this before or know someone that experienced it and how was it cure? Or Dr. Or health professionals In the house, what's the name and how can we cure it?

Thank you for your contributions

If you have seen the movie Bruce Almighty then you will understand what I meant. Don't be too hard on yourself and take things easy.

Timoleon:
He should be careful of what he wishes for? Sounds like something that came out if a brainless being. Will your 'god' grant him his wish and abdicate his role as God for one day so that his wish can come true?🙄

If you have seen the movie Bruce Almighty then you will understand what I meant. Don't be too hard on yourself and take the things easy.

Timoleon:
He should be careful of what he wishes for? Sounds like something that came out if a brainless being. Will your 'god' grant him his wish and abdicate his role as God for one day so that his wish can come true?🙄

Be careful what you wish for. Are you saying God is not doing his job well?

DickenClarq:
I wish I can be God for just one day so I can put an end to all the suffering in this world.


People are dying, suffering, killing each other for nothing.

People are making huge amount of money from other people suffering.


We need nothing else but peace, this look easy but very hard to achieve in this world full of very wicked greedy set of humans.


May God save the world.

Lamba

proudlyafrican1:
Sure plug business. You can be making up to 1 million naira after expenses daily.

Delicious for your daughter abi?

RealityKings1:
Number 1 is the best. So delicious

My prayers are with you and your family...... Your faith will make you whole. Miracles do happen

BlackViper:
Yesterday, I posted that I had lost my dad in a very sudden way.

He was an elderly man, but he was hale and hearty. He fell while he was climbing the stairs to go to bed at night and hit his head.

We called an ambulance, but even after they made us pay N100,000, they did not show up after an hour had passed. We were forced to drive to the hospital at 12.00 midnight where my beloved father was pronounced dead on arrival.

I've been comforting my mom and siblings all this while.

It was when I went to see his body at the Mortuary that I almost lost my composure because he looked so alive. There was a smile on his face and he looked so calm.

I'm praying for a miracle of resurrection.

I know that with God nothing is impossible.

I remember how in the Bible Paul prayed to God and resurrected a man who died after he fell from the first floor of a building.

I also know our Lord raised Lazarus from the dead after 3 days.

All I ask my fellow believers is to pray for the resurrection of my father as you go for Church service this morning.

I still believe in miracles and I believe it was not my father's time to depart from this world.

Please mods, be merciful and put this on the front page so as many people as possible can see it.

I'm hoping for a mighty testimony.

If it doesn't happen, I'm willing to accept that this is God’s Will, but I first want to appeal to God’s mercy and loving kindness before I accept His judgement.

Mynd44 Lalasticlala Nlfpmod

Open a trust fund for the kids in any financial institution and the money should be directed towards their education.

Education is the best legacy their father would have given them.

If you give that money to the wife, mother or siblings it won't last

I'm talking from experience!

Nna2025:
So guys, I need help, A friend brought a client for the sale of a property. Finally payment was made on Tuesday and unfortunately, He lost a long battle to an illness on April 16th.

He is separated, has two kids. The question now is, who do I give his share of the money. His mother, siblings, his estranged wife or Charity.

Have been pondering over this the entire week, decided to bring it here to see if you guys can help with quality inputs.

Bless Ya'all.

Open a trust fund for the kids in any financial institution and the money should be directed towards their education.

Education is the best legacy their father would have given them.

If you give that money to the wife, mother or siblings it won't last

I'm talking from experience!

Switch to home made Zobo with pineapple or date. Make it in large quantity then bottle them and store them in your fridge.

daylay7:
I want to know how i can control this urge. I drink at least two pet bottles in a day. If i don't take it in a day, I won't be myself. How do I curb this behavior? I tried looking away, discipline myself but it is not working.

Just hearing about this development

Go on JIji you will get a clean registered 08/09 Honda Accord for 4m. Try to search for direct owner selling not car dealers so you can get a good deal and history about the car

SimpleGuy001:
As the above subject refers… please assist with Cars I can’t get for that amount.

Left to me, I like Hyundai, Honda 2009 model or so… but just thinking are there decent cars I can get for that amount for a first car.

Turning 26 in July and want to get myself a Car for myself

Madam thief yes you are coming for their money cos I'm sure you are aware the guy doesn't have a job.

How then do you expect the guy to marry you if he's not working?

The only reason is you have it figured that since he comes from money there will be enough to take care of him and your desperate thieving self.

obembet:
"I'm not coming for your money, I simply love your son" - Lady expresses interest in marrying Femi Otedola's son, Fewa.

X user Akwaugo Nwaoma has expressed interest in marrying Fewa Otedola, the son of Femi Otedola.
She made this known through a post on her X account, where she wrote:




Source

Tell that man to keep quiet....

Racoon:
"Have Faith In Tinubu’s Plans For Power Sector" Adelabu Urges Nigerians To Be Patient


https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1CMYkk78hx/

It's same to me.... Tricking someone into borrowing you money on the pretense that you will return the money which you know fully well that you won't return it is still obtaining by trick to me cos you trick me into believing that you will return my money 🤑

mostHandsome01:
Some of you dont know the law, obtain by trick is a completely different situation. in this case, you are not owing, you knowingly swindled someone of their money. example. you put up a house for sale that is not yours. you gave them fake documents and you get paid. later on, when they find out it is not your house. you will be arrested and charged based on "Obtain by trick" and "falsification of documents".

U

OBT obtaining by trick is a criminal offense

MamaFryo:
You are owing someone money and the person brought Police to arrest you, this is what you should do.

At first, the police have no legal authority to arrest you for a simple debt, as it is a civil matter and not a criminal offense. According to the Police Act 2020 and the Administration of Criminal Justice Act (ACJA), the police are strictly prohibited from interfering in civil disputes or acting as debt collectors

Meaning that, the Police officer the person brought to arrest you, is on illegal duty and is on a mission to perform illegal arrest.

So at this point.

1. Ask the Police officer for his ID and take note of his name

2. Calmly tell the officer it's a civil matter

3. If the officer insist on arresting you, don't resist the arrest. Follow him

4. If they ask you to sign any undertaking of when you will pay back, sign it

That undertaking is not enforceable anywhere, so no fear at all

Once you are out

File a suit against the person you owe and the Police Officer for breach of your fundamental human right and illegal arrest with unlawful detention

In the suit, demand for damages of 50 Million Naira

Ignorance of the law is no excuse

If we look on the bright side they now have roasted yam in their barn without stress 😬

Man102:
Source : https://igberetvnews.com/1492691/tears-strange-fire-raze-house-yam-bans-ebonyi-victims-cry-help-photos/

Check your blood pressure as soon as possible

Ok that's good. Let's see how it plays

Canada is better

Naya261:
Which other English speaking country should i consider?