How to Cook Edikang Ikong Soup

It is common for Nigerians to request this soup recipe after a bout of illness as we trust it to replenish whatever was lost during the sickness. But you don't not need to be in a state of convalescence to enjoy this wholesome Nigerian food recipe.
Ingredients for Edikang Ikong Soup
1kg Pumpkin leaves
500g Water leaves (Talinum Triangulare)
600g Beef, Kanda , shaki and Dry fish
Pepper, Salt and ground crayfish: to taste
200ml Palm oil
1 cup Periwinkle
2 medium onions
2-3 stock cubes
Alternative vegetables for those who cannot buy water leaves and pumpkin leaves:
Use the following to replace the classic Nigerian vegetables for this soup:
1kg normal frozen spinach
200g ground frozen spinach
250g lamb's lettuce (canonigos in Spanish)
Defrost the frozen spinach, cut the normal frozen one into tiny pieces and mix with the ground frozen spinach. Wring out the water from these and add them when the written recipe requires you to add the pumpkin leaves.
Wash, pick and cut the Lamb's Lettuce into tiny pieces. Add them when the written recipe requires you to add water leaves.
Watch the video below for how I used these alternative vegetables to prepare Edikang Ikong soup.
Before you cook the Edikaikong Soup
1. Wash and cut the pumpkin and water leaves into tiny pieces. Put them in separate sieves to drain out all the water as much as possible.
2. Cut the Kanda into small pieces. Cook the beef, kanda and the dry fish with the 2 bulbs of diced onions and the stock cubes with as little quantity of water as possible.
Cooking Directions
1. When the meat is done, add a generous amount of palm oil, the crayfish and pepper and leave to boil for about 10 minutes. The palm oil serves as the liquid in the Edikang Ikong soup. You should try as much as possible to make it the only liquid in the soup.
2. Add the periwinkle and water leaves and leave to cook for another 5 minutes. You may have to cook for less time at this stage so that the water leaves are not over-cooked.
3. Now add the pumpkin leaves and salt to taste. Stir the contents of the pot very well and turn off the heat. Cover the pot and leave to stand for about 5 minutes.
4. Thats it!
Serve with Garri (Eba) , Semolina Fufu , Amala,
Cassava Fufu or Pounded Yam .

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HOW TO USE GOOGLE
Google is the most popular search engine in the world. But while so many people use it, few actually get formal instructions on how to search with Google. Below, tips on how to search on Google.

Step 1: Go To Google (But Which Google?)
Obviously, to search Google, you have to go to Google. But did you know there are various ways to reach the site? In fact, that there are even different Google web sites? There are!!!


You can go directly to Google.com by typing in http://google.com into your web browser. That will take you to the main Google web site, which is designed to serve the United States plus the world in general.

If you are outside the United States, you may prefer to go to the version of Google designed for your own country. You’ll find a list of country-specific versions of Google shown on this page.

Google also offers a variety of “vertical” search engines, which are versions of Google that let you search just for particular types of material like images, videos or news stories. If you’re interested in specific content like this, it may make more sense to search starting at one of these subject-specific versions of Google. You’ll find a list of them here, under the “search” heading.

Step 2: Go To Google Via A Toolbar
A faster way to use Google is to enter a search into the search box that’s built into most popular browsers. Microsoft’s Internet Explorer, Apple’s Safari and Mozilla’s Firefox have little boxes in the top right corners where you can type what you’re searching for, hit return, and the search results will load into your browser:


Note that Internet Explorer may be already set to use Microsoft’s Bing search engine rather than Google, if you type into the search toolbar. This is easily changed. The article below talks more about it:

Search & Internet Explorer 8
Google also offers its own Google Toolbar for both Internet Explorer and Firefox. The toolbar makes it simple to search Google right from your browser, get “cached” copies of page, share pages and offers many other handy features. You can learn more about the toolbar or get it from Google here.

With the Google’s Chrome browser, you type your search right into the same box where you enter web addresses. The article below explains this in more detail:

Searching With Google Chrome & Omnibox
Step 3: Enter Your Search Terms
Actually searching Google is pretty easy. Just type what you’re interested in finding into the search box on the Google web site or into your toolbar!

If you’re using a toolbar, as you type, you may see words begin to appear below the toolbar’s search box. These are suggestions that Google thinks may match what you’re interested in. Google calls this “Google Suggest” or “Autocomplete.” You can ignore the suggestions, but if one seems useful, select it to save some typing.

On Google itself, you’ll not only get suggestions but as you type, actual search results will begin to load:


This is called Google Instant, and the article below talks more about it:

Google Instant Search: The Complete User’s Guide
Step 4: Review Your Search Results
After you’ve searched, you’ll get a page full of results. Some of these will be matching pages from across the web. Some of these will be matching content from those subject-specific versions of Google that were mentioned above. You might get news or image results mixed in, as you can see below:


This mixing is called “Universal Search,” and the articles below explain more about how it works:

Google 2.0: Google Universal Search
Google Universal Search: 2008 Edition
The units that get mixed in are called OneBox results. Sometimes, you’ll also get special OneBoxes that give you a direct answer, without requiring a click away from Google. For example, here’s the weather in Los Angeles:


The article below has more about how OneBox answers work:

Meet The Google OneBox, Plus Box, Direct Answers & The 10-Pack
Google also has a guide to special searches like weather, stock quotes, the current time, sports scores and more than will trigger direct answers:


You may also see ads that appear above or to the right of the main search results. The main search results are not sold, and Google says they are not influenced by advertising. Google keeps the ads separated from those results and labeled with the word “Ad” or “Ads,” as the arrows point to in the example above.

That’s an overview of the type of results you’ll see, after doing a search. Google also maintains a detailed guide to everything you’ll find on the search results page.

Step 5: Preview Your Answers
As you review results, you’ll wonder if some of the listed sites are the best answer to what you’re looking for. Google provides a way to quickly check on this. It’s called Google Instant Previews.

Next to the web page listings, you’ll see a magnifying glass symbol appear:


Click on this, and you’ll make a preview of the page for that listing appear:


For more about how this feature works, see our article below:

Google Launches Instant Previews
Step 6: Refine Your Google Search
Google doesn’t know exactly what you want, when you enter a search, so the results you get are its best guess. There are ways you can help it make better guesses. For one, Google provides a variety of ways to refine your searches, to narrow them down.

You can get back just video answers, restrict results by date, explore answers by browsing through a “Wonder Wheel” of suggestions or simple review some of the related searches it may list among your results, like these examples from a search for dvd players:


For a comprehensive guide to the many options that Google offers for refining your results, see our article below:

Meet The New Google Look & Its Colorful, Useful “Search Options” Column
There are also special commands that you can use when entering your search words. For example, if you put quotes around search words like this:

“how to search in google”
Then your results will only show pages that are deemed to have those exact words on them, in that exact order — or be relevant to those exact words in other ways.

Google has a guide to all these special commands, which you will find here.

Step 7: Congratulate Yourself!
If you found this page by doing a search on Google, congrats! You clearly already know how to Google search! But hopefully, this page has helped you learn some additional tips that you’ll find useful in your future searches.

Google also maintains a variety of help documents on how to search Google, which you’ll find here.

Also be sure to see our overview guide to Google, which leads to more information about specific Google services:

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HOW TO MAXIMIZE YOUR BRAIN

How often do you think about your brain? Do you ever stop to marvel at it’s incredible power and supreme cleverness? Or at least check in and give it a little spring clean and a re-furb from time to time?
If you’re like the majority , then your answer will be “no”.
Astoundingly, we only use around 10% of our brains, yet we seldom think to invest in a little training every now and then. For a long time, scientists believed that we were stuck with the brain we were born with! Luckily for us, that hypothesis has gone out the window!
Enter neuroplasticity – a new theory that has proven one very incredible fact: Our brains can change
This means, if you’re not very intelligent in one area – that’s OK! You have the option to literally ‘change that area of your brain’ through some little trainings.
For example: Your brain is a muscle. You need to exercise it regularly.
The exciting thing is that you don’t have to be a millionaire to increase your brain capacity. All you need to do is invest some time to regularly train your brain.
So what can you do?
Here are 10 simple ways to increase your brain power and improve your intelligence!
1. Do something new
When you experience something ‘new’ that actually ‘stimulate’ your brain! Don’t get stuck in a rut doing the same old things – the only way to change the structure of your brain is to do something new. This creates new neural pathways, increasing your intelligence level. You could take a new route to work, try a new recipe for dinner, or even a new form of exercise – mix them up!
2. Exercise regularly
It’s been proven that regular exercise helps to increase brain function and enhances neurogenesis. This means that every time you exercise you are creating new brain cells! Get off the couch and get moving! Your brain will thank you for it
3. Train your memory
How often do you hear people say “I wish I had a better memory!’ Yet no-one does anything about this! If you discipline yourself to memorise phone numbers and other important numbers (passport, credit card, insurance, driving license) you will start to see a marked improvement in your memory.
4. Be curious
Instead of taking everything at face value, get into the habit of questioning everyday things/products, services that you come into contact with. By being ‘curious’ and questioning everything, you force your brain to innovate & create new ideas. Curiosity may have killed that cat, more importantly it created super important things like electricity and computers!
5. Think positive
Stress & anxiety kill existing brain neurons and also stop new neurons from being created. Research has shown that positive thinking, especially in the future tense, speeds up the creation of cells and dramatically reduces stress & anxiety. Try and get a handle on negative thoughts and make an effort to replace them with positive ones.
6. Eat healthy
Our diets have a HUGE impact on brain function. Our brains consume over 20% of all nutrients & oxygen that we consumed – so remember to feed your brain with the good stuff! (i.e. fresh fruit and veg & plenty of OMEGA 3 oils found in oily fish)
7. Read a book
Reading relieves tension & stress (brain-cell killers) because it’s a form of escapism. Research has also shown that using your imagination is a great way to train your brain because you force your mind to ‘picture’ what you are imagining. Reading is a great way to trigger your imagination!
8. Get enough sleep
Sleep is like a mini detox for the brain. This is when your body regenerates cells and removes all the toxins that have built up during the day. Get to bed between the hours of 9pm and midnight to benefit from the most effective hours of sleep!
9. Ditch the GPS
Gone are the days of map reading! Sat Nav may have made our lives easier, it has also made our brains lazier and less efficient at the same time! Go back to the old school and use a map to navigate every now and then (this exercises the part of your brain responsible for understanding spatial relationships).
10. Ban the calculator
Remember back at school when we were taught to use our brains to do simple sums like times tables?! It’s incredible how we now rely on devices like smart-phones and laptops to calculate really simple equations. Resist the urge to work things out using an external device – and use the device you were born with – your brain!

Dedicated to the op
How to Develop Common Sense
Smart people do not always do things in a smart way; sometimes smart people can do irrational things like gambling away all their money on the stock market, or forgetting to take adequate clothing for a back country hike in the middle of very changeable weather. Whatever your background, training, Intellectual Quotient, or experience, common sense can be learned and applied in everyday situations. And while it may seem provocative suggesting that smart people don't use common sense, this deliberate association is merely to highlight that everyone has lapses in common sense. The more we're trained to think one way (by our workplace, family, culture, etc.), the greater the chance that sometimes we allow sloppy or auto-pilot thinking to take the place of common sense. Common sense isn't a one-stop-destination; it's a way of thinking that needs constant nourishing and application, and this article provides one way of looking at developing your common sense a little further.
Steps
Familiarize yourself with the purpose and meaning of common sense. According to Merriam Webster, common sense is about exercising "sound and prudent judgment based on a simple perception of the situation or facts".

[1] This definition suggests that common sense depends on not over-complicating the situation (simple), applying experience and
general knowledge to the situation (sound and prudent judgment), and implicit in this is self-trust that your considered experience is valid for future situations. Karl Albrecht calls common sense practical intelligence. He defines it as "the mental ability to cope with the challenges and opportunities of life".
[2] He explains that common sense is situational, dependent on context, and that your common sense in one aspect of your life might be excellent while failing abysmally in another aspect of your life. As to the purpose of common sense, it is basically thinking that prevents you from making
irrational mistakes or decisions, a thinking approach that may open your eyes to the possibility that insisting on being right prevents you from seeing the bigger picture.
Common sense can also serve the purpose of removing you from being hidebound to rules, theories, ideas, and guidelines that would hamper or stifle the best decision in a particular situation. In other words, just because something says so, or just because it has always been done that way, is not a reason to abandon common sense about present needs and changed circumstances.
Understand the ease with which the human mind is convinced that an idea is right contrary to indicators clearly demonstrating otherwise. We're human; we're fallible. And our brains work in certain ways as a means of providing shortcuts to ensure survival in a world where being chased by predators could end your life. In a modern world where caves and saber toothed tigers are no longer a constant companion, some of that reactive, split second judging can land us in hot water as we react instead of reflecting, assume instead of teasing apart the realities, and
follow habit instead of challenging its continued utility. Some of the things our amazing mind is capable of doing to override common sense include:
Maintaining our own sense of reality out of proportion with identifiable reality. While each of us creates a reality out of our own experiences and makes sense of our world through this personal lens, for the most part, we understand that our sense of reality is only a small portion of a much larger picture. For some people, however, their sense of reality becomes the only sense of reality and they believe that they can
manipulate or magically transform situations to turn out the way they want them to be. In steps irrational behavior for some, and insanity for the less fortunate.
Reflex or associative thinking. This is reactive thinking that is based simply on what we've learned through life, reenacting learned models and applying them to each new situation as it appears, without modifying the thought processes being applied. This type of thinking leads to errors in thinking because we refuse to push beyond standard associations formed in our mind about how things "should be". When we apply what we know to a present situation by reference to a similar past situation by merely applying our mind's template without adjusting for the context, we're overriding common sense. Even where this template is a bad fit, the insistent or
biased mind just ignores the parts of the template that don't fit by trimming them off mentally and only seeing the parts that "match". Hence, we have our problem solved without thinking it through. This type of thinking tends to make us easily swayed by current popular theories and fads, such as the current tendency in some societies to control social opinion through inflating fears of germs, criminals and terrorists, and job unavailability.
Invoking absolute certainty. Absolutist black and white thinking about the world and others in it in a way that never allows space for doubt is often a cause for forgetting to apply common sense. For such a thinker, the "one true way" is the only way and therefore
seems like common sense even though it isn't.
Pigheadedness. A simple unwillingness to be wrong. Ever. Founded on any number of reasons including
insecurities, fear, incomprehension, anger, and fear of ridicule, pigheadedness is the cause of many an irrational and unjustifiable decision or action.
Divorce yourself from reality. This isn't an invitation to insanity. This is a request to consider that your sense of reality isn't real. What you see is what you've programmed your brain to see. And once you start down the slippery slope of self-confirmation that reality is only ever what you see it as, you're open to the possibilities of bigotry, selfishness , intolerance, and prejudice because you'll constantly seek to make everyone and everything else conform to your standard of reality, and your standard of "what's right".
[3] By divorcing yourself from this one-sided reality, and learning as much as you can about how other people perceive the world and our place in it, you begin to make room for common sense to grow because your sense is built on "common" experiences, not just your own.
Start by taking a look at your own
emotions , beliefs, and practices to make sure they're not overriding your common sense. Test different scenarios in your mind to try to ascertain the practical consequences of applying the decision or action the way you want to. Is it practical, have you accounted for everything, and what will happen if things go wrong? If things go wrong, can you fix them and if you can't, what will be the consequences?
Consult with others. If your reality is clouding your judgment too much, reach out and discuss the situation with others to gain wider appreciation of their perspectives and ideas. This is most important where you are too close to a situation and any decision or action you take might be infected by your proximity.
Acquaint yourself with your reflective mind. This is the part of your thinking where true common sense resides. The part that takes a bit of time out from the cleverness, the brightness, the importance of everything rushing at you right now and suggests that it's time to add a dose of cold water to the excitement. Reflective intelligence is about being able to stand back and view the bigger picture so that you realistically appraise the situation or environment directly around you rather than forcing yourself to conform to its suitability or practicing wishful thinking. After an accurate appraisal of the situation, a reflective mindset enables you to set goals that are realistic given the parameters you're working within, and to take sensible actions toward meeting those goals. Daniel Willingham cites examples of people who throw money at the stock market, or people who choose unsuitable life situations as people who made decisions or took actions without using reflective thinking.
Rationalizing that external signs seem fine while ignoring complete mismatches to the person you are or the beliefs you hold is a denial of common sense. In other words, just because other people do or use something effectively isn't a sign that it will suit you too; you need to put your own reflective mind to work on each situation to decide whether it will be a fit for you, your lifestyle, and those around you directly impacted by your decisions.
Do less, think more. Siimon Reynolds says that many of us are suffering from "Obsessive Do-Itis".
[4] This simply means we're obsessed with doing more all the time instead of thinking. And while we're running around frantically being busy all the time, we're not being productive and we're contributing to a culture that admires incessantly busy people. Is this common sense? Hardly. It is about working harder and longer without taking time out to reflect.
Allocate thinking time every single day, even if it's only 20 minutes. Simon Reynolds suggests that you try this for one week, and says that at the end of it, you'll notice much reduced stress levels.
[5] And your common sense will improve markedly.
Reacquaint yourself with your rapid cognition. The previous step has just suggested that you need to reflect more before you take decisions or act. But the obvious flipside to reflection is the reality that some things need very fast thinking and rapid decisions that will produce sound results. Rapid cognition is the type of thinking that tells you that you're not going to connect with a person the moment that you meet them, or that a poorly placed ladder is going to fall sooner rather than later and needs to be shifted pronto, or that you need to quickly jump out of the way of an out-of-control car now. How do you marry rapid cognition to reflective thinking under the rubric of "common sense"? It's simple - spend your reflecting time wisely so that you will react wisely when quick thinking is required. Common sense builds on your reflection over past experiences, enabling you to refine your understanding of the world and how it works time and time again. This is in contrast to a person who only ever reacts on gut reactions, biases, and has failed to reflect on prior experiences.
Reflection will bring about sound "gut reactions" or fast assessments of situations because your reaction is based on having taken the time to work through errors and successes of past experiences.
Malcolm Gladwell says in Blink that "decisions made very quickly can be every bit as good as decisions made cautiously and deliberately".

[6] The problem arises when we want something to be other than what it really is - falling back into our own idea of reality rather than the many realities around us. And that's when our common sense fails us.
Learn things that are basic common sense. There are things that every human being should know how to do and not leave to another person, things that go to the heart of personal survival , self-knowledge, and long-term health and safety. In this way, you can learn common sense through practical knowledge and application, informing you accurately when times are harder or when you must react quickly.
Knowing how to cook and how the food gets to your table. For every person who proudly proclaims that he or she does not know how to cook, there is a person easily persuaded by others that any food is suitable for them, no matter how unhealthy or how unethically or unproductively sourced. It's no badge of honor to not know how to cook for yourself; it's often a sign of laziness or a rebellion against supposed domesticity. Knowing how to cook is basic common sense because it will ensure your healthy survival under any conditions. And, no matter how infrequently you use this skill, it's enjoyable and rewarding.
Knowing how to grow your own food . Being able to grow your own food is an assurance of self-survival. Learn the skill if you haven't already and instill it in your kids.
Knowing about nutrition . If you're cooking for yourself, and perhaps growing your own food, you'll be more connected with your body's need for healthy nutrition. Eat healthily most of the time, in moderation, and with an eye to meeting all appropriate nutritional needs for your age, gender, height, and personal conditions.
Knowing and respecting your surrounds. It's common sense to know what local conditions impact your life, from weather to wildlife. Take the time to get to know your local environment and respond to it appropriately, from adequately weatherproofing your home to removing invasive species from your garden.
Knowing how to budget and not spend more than you're earning. It's common sense to only spend what you have. Sadly, many people manage to forget this in an orgy of frequent over-spending, behaving as if a bulging credit card debt came as a complete surprise to them. Over-spending is an irrational habit, as is hiding unopened bills at the back of a closet; reining in the spending with a budget and self-restraint is common sense in action. And make sure to get all important financial decisions and agreements in writing, from loans to sales; you can never be too careful when it comes to money.
Knowing the limitations of your own body. This includes knowing which foods wreak havoc with your body, which foods work for you, knowing how many hours of sleep you need, and knowing the type of exercise that benefits your body and metabolism best; read widely but work out for yourself what harms and heals your body, as you're the real expert on this topic. Moreover, you're no superhero - ignoring bodily injuries is done at your own peril, such as continuing to carry heavy loads with an aching back, or refusing to acknowledge constant pains.
Knowing how to analyze situations and think for yourself. Instead of digesting the pulp media thrown at you every day, and ending up in a state of fear because every second news item is a crime or disaster, start thinking about the reality behind the newsfeed and start thinking about life and happenings with a healthy, open, and questioning mindset. Help free others from the fear media by teaching them how to recognize the tactics used.
Knowing how to repair items. In a world heavily dependent on disposal of items rather than repairing them, we're adding to the Earth's burden. And, we're beholden to those who manufacture items with in-built obsolescence because we've lost the ability to tinker and fix things ourselves. Learning how to fix or mend clothes, appliances, household objects, car engines, and many other items that are important to our daily functioning, is not only liberating but is also an important way to exercise our common sense.
Knowing how to plan in advance. So that you're not doing things haphazardly, more expensively, or without an idea of the consequences, learn to plan ahead. Forward thinking is always a sign of good common sense, as is being able to review the consequences of different outcomes.
Knowing how to be resourceful. Resourcefulness is the art of "making do"; it's about taking small things and making them go a long way with a little imagination and elbow grease. It's about being able to thrive under difficult conditions and still prosper and not feel deprived. Resourcefulness is a key part of using common sense, and again, it's a skill that liberates you from consuming to live.
Knowing how to connect with community. It's common sense to be a part of your community; unfortunately many people prefer to bunker down and remain aloof or unhindered by the others around them. Connecting with others in your community is part of being human, of relating, and of opening yourself up to sharing and generosity .
Knowing how to keep safe . Whether you're in public or at home, safety is a matter of common sense. Pushing saucepan handles away from you on the stove, looking both ways when crossing the street, walking with a friend or group in dark areas of the city at night instead of being alone, etc. All of these are common sense safety actions that can be planned for and put into action before anything harmful happens; and doing so will often avert problems altogether. Think prevention, not disaster.
Put new commonsense thinking habits into place. Take the philosophy , the psychology, and the popular theories behind how we think and add this understanding to the active ways in which you can use your common sense. Read How to think "outside of the box" to get some great ideas for restoring your sense of relying on your own innovative thinking processes. And Karl Albrecht suggests that the following methods will help to keep your practical intelligence (common sense) in top shape (and it's recommended that you read his book in its entirety):
[7]
Practice mental flexibility. This is the ability to stay open-minded and to listen to other people's notions and ideas, even if they scare you or derail your own thinking. It does you good to practice mental elasticity and to stretch yourself beyond the things you think you know already.
Use affirmative thinking. This is the way of perceiving yourself and others in a positive manner, always looking to see the best in others and yourself, and making constant conscious decisions about who or what you will allow yourself to be influenced by, and what you will consider worthy of devoting your thinking time to. This isn't as simplistic as chanting affirmations or thinking happy thoughts; the mental work required to maintain an affirmative, conscious mindset is hard but rewarding.
Rely on semantic sanity. This is about using language to support clear thinking freed from dogma.
Value ideas . This concept leads you to accepting new ideas rather than immediately knocking them on the head as unfamiliar, insane, or undoable. How do you know they don't match your viewpoint until you've worked through them? Equally, valuing ideas encapsulates the need to reflect often, for without adequate time for reflection, you'll fail to come up with your own ideas.
If you put in the constant hard yards of thinking things through carefully for yourself as well as learning all that you can about the world and other's thoughts about the world, you're well placed. You don't have to be highly educated; you do have to be
open-minded and curious. And realize that this is a process, not a destination. You will have to make the mental effort throughout your life as to which messages you absorb and which people you allow to influence your thinking. Even this article is but one source of guidance on common sense – analyze it, critique its applicability to your own circumstances, and cherry pick, discard, or adopt those things that suit you or don't fit with you. After all, doing so just makes plain common sense.

stockbear:

Lool.. Just finished the long story...

No be small things

A father passing by his teenage daughter’s bedroom was astonished to see that the bed was nicely made and everything was neat and tidy. Then he saw an envelope propped up prominently on the centre of the pillow. It was addressed “Dad“. With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter with trembling hands:-
Dear Dad,
It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing you, but I’m leaving home. I had to elope with my new boyfriend, Randy because I wanted to avoid a scene with you and mummy. I’ve been finding real passion with Randy and he is so nice to me. I know when you meet him you’ll like him too – even with all his piercing, tattoos, and motorcycle clothes. But it’s not only the passion Dad, I’m pregnant and Randy wants me to have the baby and that we can be very happy together. Even though Randy is much older than me (anyway, 42 isn’t so old these days is it?), and has no money, really these things shouldn’t stand in the way of our relationship, don’t you agree? It’s true he has other girlfriends as well but I know he’ll be faithful to me in his own way. He wants to have many more children with me and that’s now one of my dreams too. In the meantime, we’ll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so that Randy can get better; he sure deserves it! Don’t worry Dad, I’m 15 years old now and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I’m sure we’ll be back to visit so you can get to know your grandchildren.
At the bottom of the page were the letters “PTO”. Hands still trembling, her father turned the sheet, and read: PS: Dad, none of what you just read is true. I’m over at the neighbour’s house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than my school report card that’s in your desk centre drawer. Please call when it is safe for me to come home. I love you!

LesbianBoy:
Yoru**s are always saying rubbish! Mad people!

Ogbeni swerve jare

missperky:
THIS POST MIGHT BE A LITTLE DESCRIPTIVE SO I SUGGEST CHILDREN KEEP AWAY.

My less than 1-year-old marriage is on the verge of breaking down. Our lack of intimacy has eaten so deep into the relationship to the point that we are living like roomates and not a couple. We are a very young, sociable, good-looking couple - always laughing and having fun with friends but once the curtains close, we retreat back into our lonely marriage and cold bedroom. Onlookers who see us and know our lifestyle would never suspect that we have this problem.

From day one, sex has always been a difficult process that often results in argument. For the first few months of marriage we both tried to spice up our intimacy but failed miserably each time so now to keep peace, we have resulted to avoiding sex altogether.

Hubby once made an attempt to spice things up by buying intimacy gadgets. When we tried to use them, things went so wrong that we ended up fighting. He then tried to finger me and proceeded to do it through my panties hence shoving fabric up my vajay.. it hurt so much that I went dry instantly. This was the last straw that did it for me that night. He lacks basic skills and I’m tired of teaching him what to do at every stage. sex has now turned into a lecture/debate and I am tired. He lacks basic skills, doesn’t know how to svck nipples, I also hate it when he goes down.. he would be focusing on the hole and not the cliit. I’ve told him with words, even used body language to show him what to do but he is so stuck in his ways.

I’ve also tried to take charge on a couple of occasions; one night, he gave me an erotic massage so I saw it as an opportunity to initiate sex; proceeded to give him a hand-job & his joystick responded quickly but he just laid there being lazy whilst enjoying the action. Things didn’t proceed to intimacy, so I eventually got tired and went back to sleep. Few days later, I gave him a spontaneous bj whilst he was watching football and again he got hard immediately but he just sat there like a log of wood. I eventually got up and left in anger to go nap.

Things weren’t like this prior to being married.. we both had previous sexual partners before marriage and never experienced difficulty in sexual relations. It’s as if marriage changed everything. by the way, we both became stronger Christians just before getting married and to show repentance from fornication, we abstained from sex for over a year prior to our wedding.

Unfortunately, things have gotten so bad now that the thought of sex with him disgusts me. We barely talk to each other anymore. Living like strangers. We’ve gone 2 months now without sex and the way things are going its either someone ends up cheating or one of us walks out of the marriage.

This is serious.
I think you guys need to see a counselor. This kind of stuff is one if the reasons we are supposed to see a sea counselor b4 marriage.
If u both love each other and willing to make things work, I'm sure u will soon overcome this problem. You guys haven't found d right spark yet.
And lastly, be prayerful. It is well my sister.

My candid advice to her is to leave the guy.
Firstly, who says she can't get someone even far better than this Guy?
Secondly, if this guy truly love her like she thought he won't be seeing another girl.
It's obvious all he want now is to take her virginity and let her go.

otitokoroleti:
cc fhemmyKW, Superman7

Y mention me here? Y on earth will someone invest his school fees into this?

otitokoroleti:
lukuluku laa gbe e lo, shamushamu laa y'oju re je

U should say some words in ur hand then smell it b4 spilling it out of that ur rotten mouth. U sound so awful. I'm now so sure that u are just a kid.
I blame myself for exchanging words with a slowpoke.

otitokoroleti:
u r nobody! infact church rat is better than u! now to the other part of ur post, how many of una dey warn intending members about the danger of ponzi each tym u advertise ur ponzi scam? all what u keep on posting is 'ITS PAYING LIKE MAD'. y do u always attack anybody thats against ur scam

Hahahahahaha now u are sounding like someone being flogged, I'm not one of those guys who jump from one ponzi to another. I even warn people against any dubious one I hear about, but u came here like an headless chicken and started saying trash. U can preach ur gospel against ponzi by warning people generally not by spreading lies.
God gave u brain for u to make use of it but I can see that ur hand works faster that ur head.

otitokoroleti:

I knw hw pained u r ryt now as it seems that ur hope to recover your money looks shattered! Accept your loss & dont ruin other peoples lyf just d way u do una sef

Oponu have u ever seen me advertise anything?
I'm a risk taker and that's y I'm making it in life.
Anyone who venture in a peer to peer platform is fully aware of what they are getting into. Getting into the bathroom to shower is a risk on its own. Everything in this life is a total risk. I've seen where someone invested over 2m in a biz and closed down in less than 3 years.
My mind is at rest guy, if u know me u will know I'm not bothered about shiiit people say. I decided to give to u in good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over cos u think u sabi talk.
If u can keep up the pace, I'll be back tomorrow evening.
But in the mean time kiddo, Get a job

otitokoroleti:
hahaha, lwkmd! pained? abeg consult ur dico to comprehend the meaning of the word 'pained'. I dont sound pained, the way u open ur mouth wide barking upandown shows how tormented u are. am sure that this thread makes u frustrated & am glad!

Buluku, it's actually fun for me. I wish u can see how I'm laughing hard here.
You are a very good example of y some ladies decides to abort unwanted pregnancy.
I'm sure u are the heritage of the family that made Charles Darwin think human ancestors are apes

Eranko Iya.

otitokoroleti:
ni awon to se o si'le.

I can see u are pained. Coward!
U' re so annoying that I just want to tear ur ears off and shove ' em up your anus so that you can hear me kick your ass.
werey alaso

otitokoroleti:
ni baba re

I don't brag on the internet but not everyone that cautions members of the public about the dangers of ponzi is jobless. If you check my id, you will discover that am not usually online but anytime that am on break, I always utilize it to educate members of the public.

Do us all a favour , and please shut that gaping , tartar - encrusted penis receptacle that you call a mouth, u are a puss - filled cyst in the colon of society.
OBUKO

otitokoroleti:

I dont brag but if uve attain my present stage in life, you should be thankful to your creator. I started my life with a salary of 1,900naira & as of today, I am fulfilled. I have to open ya eyes to seun achievements just because you said that hes not as rich as zuckerberg. Life is not about competition all the tym, kudos to linda & vivian for sucking mumu ponzi participants. Olorun ko ni je ki eni to go ki o gbon, ki eni to gbon le maa ri eni tu je bii isu

Claiming u are living a fulfilled life shows how clueless u are. u sha want attention by fire by force, u don't need to be foolish to get noticed. Great people get known for the great things they did not by ranting like a shot Lion.
And point of correction, I never mentioned Zuckerberg.
U can continue barking, u will get ur response tomorrow evening.
Oloorun asu manudi

otitokoroleti:

I dont need a soothsayer to knw sey ur rotten pale level of mumurity no get part 2 & its hereditary which makes u talk dat way! kontinue, odedo

Oponu ayirada, afofun gbemu. I'm sure u were thought at home but refuse to listen. If u put this kind of energy into something creative, u won't still be where u are today. I can see those women from ur village laffin on top ur matter.
Peace out

otitokoroleti:

seun used his head in positive way & thats what birthed nairaland today which many have benefitted from. He has built a clean business for himself, better than you & your generation yet unborn. Use ya head to understand the meaning of my post that you just quoted

Mumu brag on ur own achievements n not hide behind what Seun has done for himself

otitokoroleti:

I laffed @ ur mumurity

What a waste!
If you weren't born, your mother wouldn't have had to suffer the pains of birth, you father wouldn't have grown distant to your mother. Your grandparents wouldn't be dead and your future wouldn't be so bleak.

otitokoroleti:
Lie Muhammed, I dey gbadun ur lies. keep on telling more lies, who knows ur money fit come out of GHW trap. asunfunrun

I'm not surprised at ur low mentality. U think everyone is poor like u.
Just try to get a job OK?
Play time over, need to do something productive with d time I have left b4 sleep.
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Kneel down for prayer
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Receive brain in JESUS name. Amen

Semi wetin? Wonders shall never end.

otitokoroleti:
all ur epistle on how ur papa was concieved by ur grandma is non of my bizness. google what ponzi stands for & be wise! comparing fixed deposit with ponzi speaks volume about ur level of reasoning! akafunwedi obo laagido

I laff u in Spanish. I made what I can't make with fixed deposit in 5years in just 5 months.
I don't need google to tell me what I already know. Successful people think outside the box in order to move forward, I can see y u are stagnant and frustrated.
Omo abi'pabe, eni abata ka'fi owo e ra kulikuli

otitokoroleti:
ur frustration makes me happy! make una wail o, kikikikiki

Frustration? uve got no clue aburo, ur foolishness amuse me. I'm here chilling and cracking jokes about how deluded u are with my pals

otitokoroleti:

agba ko ni won fi n to iku, who knw wetin kill ya papa sef? btw, theres nothing like excess money! consult ur economics teacher & be wise

Going to school doesn't guarantee knowledge, I can see how dumb and poor u are.
According to investorword, An additional amount of cash beyond what a company normally needs to have on hand.
Instead of keeping 500k in a fixed deposit to yield 7.5% annually cos I don't have a need for d money at d moment, so I invested it in ghw and make an extra 150k monthly.
Come and learn mumu.
It's so obvious ur parents means nothing to u, that's y u have d gut to just insult other people parents. it's not ur fault though, u can confirm this from ur mum.
Both ur mom and dad tried so hard to get rid of ur pregnancy but ur papa was too broke to afford the hospital bill, so the last resort was to use local drug which ur mum did. Instead of the drug to make her lose d pregnancy, it deformed u and paralyzed ur brain. That's y ur brain is below ur foot instead of ur head.
Omo ale jati jati

otitokoroleti:

egbe baba e ni mo se, stop promoting scam!

Ode! if u are my late dad's mate, u shud be dead by now. D level of ur stupidity is beyond human comprehension. Ur mates are turning their excess money into something valuable and u are there hating. Grow up

otitokoroleti:
FUCKINGPAINEDMAVRODIAN, hahahahaha

You are the one pained here aburo. There is no one into ponzi that doesn't know the risk. Get a job

Joblessness is really a disease. I can't imagine someone with a well functioned brain and has something productive to do opening this kinda thread. Shebi Na attention u dey crave as u no get work to do, Oya clap for ursef we don see u