A female student of the Abia State University, Uturu has been hit by a rolling ball of disaster, confusion and tears. She needs candid advise from you and I on how we can help her out of this dilemma she has found herself in.

Love they often say is blind and can lead us to doing things we wouldn't have done ordinarily with our conscience devoid of that thing called love. It is a total clog in the eye and so long as a person has credited his/her heart into it, withdrawal becomes pretty much of an ache to the heart more than the pain the relationship is causing.

I was meant to understand that this lady is in a relationship with a guy and loves this guy like life, if not more than life and she believes this guy shares an equal feeling of love for her as well but things are taking the wrong turn. The family of the guy has refused to welcome this lady and see her as befitting for their son and adding to the negative issues and worsening situations, the guy recently told this lady that he has another lady whom he had known and had been dating even before they met and started dating. What a heartbreak.

The guy told the lady that the girl he had been dating is the one his family had known but because of the love he has for her, that he will damn the consequences and all that his family have said against their union and go ahead and marry her because he loves her more than any other girl. But on one condition which is that the girl will have to prove her love for him by giving him her virginity and allowing him deflower her. What a world.

Now, the issue is that this lady cherishes her virginity and will never want to lose it just yet but on the other hand, he loves and adores this guy so much that she wouldn't still want to leave him for anyone. What do we advise this lady to do?



Source: Campus Punch

kimbra:
True love doesn't give conditions.

Correct !

Giving your virginity is not a proof of your genuine love. After he takes your virginity, he will see you as a piece of trash. Truly love transcends a quest to satisfy his sexual urge.

Mehn Guys Don Graduate From Gold Diggers Oh. Girl That Guy Is A Virginity Digger I Assure You He'll Change Status When He Pops That Cherry.

He won't only steal your virginity. He would terrorise your empire, hold you hostage and then after acquiring enough to his satisfaction, will go in search of a new land to conquer leaving you open and vulnerable to attacks from all quarters.
Don't allow him break down your wall of defence or else you end up in ruins.

The guy is fake.
He just wants to be the first (the type of guys that brags about it)
A friend of mine is a virgin but not yet ready, I respect that.
If he truly loves you he will respect your opinion and be patient with you, but give to him and watch him disappear like a puff of smoke.
I agree with @Kimbra -
True love doesn't give conditions.

kimbra:
True love doesn't give conditions.

virginty aint dingity

U too ask for your brideprice as a token of his undying love for​ you... Too!

Very simple!

jakandeola:
virginty aintdingity dignity

Yes it is!

Stop preaching mediocrity

My candid advice to her is to leave the guy.
Firstly, who says she can't get someone even far better than this Guy?
Secondly, if this guy truly love her like she thought he won't be seeing another girl.
It's obvious all he want now is to take her virginity and let her go.

kimbra:
True love doesn't give conditions.

agape love, God kind of love. no human being can exhibit that kind of love

SmartchoicesNG:
U too ask for your brideprice as a token of his undying love for​ you... Too!

Very simple!

as simple as ABC

Alondrah:
Yes it is!

Stop preaching mediocrity

na u sabi

jakandeola:
na u sabi

is it your virginity

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kimbra:
True love doesn't give conditions.

Warris true love? Misconstrued emotions and hormones dancing around one's mental sphere..
True love as society defines it is nothing but a fallacy.
I haven't heard of false love before so what tha f is true love??

Oh and this is for the op, virginity is overrated btw.
Even society has gradually moved away from the "virtuousness of virginity"
Only religion still tries to hold on to failing standard.
and even the so called adherents aren't following the rules.
So except you have some personal obligation to yourself regarding your virginity which is devoid of religious beliefs, I suggest you give that guy a chance :-)

And what is a better way of proving to someone that you love him than giving him something you really value?

Emotional blackmail isn't same as love. He's obviously a domineering guy. Flee from him, because he's an emotional abuser personified. Anyone that would deny you the privilege to take decisions and act based on your discretion isn't worth associating with.

However, if you're an opportunist like him, then two of you suits each other.

Alondrah:
Yes it is!

Stop preaching mediocrity

is a fact

kimbra:
True love doesn't give conditions.

tell them my love...

We should advise her to get sense.
No be only proof, na collateral.

SorftWerk:
tell them my love...

How are you?.

kimbra:
How are you?.

at the hospital right now dear... Just pray for me. Be safe

SorftWerk:
at the hospital right now dear... Just pray for me. Be safe

Aww, are you ill?, sure! I'll pray for you.

kimbra:
Aww, are you ill?, sure! I'll pray for you.

i have no doubt you will dear... Just be safe an take good care of your self, you have a good heart, never change

SorftWerk:
i have no doubt you will dear... Just be safe an take good care of your self, you have a good heart, never change

Take care of yourself too. Wish you quick recovery.

The guy doesn't love her a bit...

What on earth is a university student looking for in love sef before

jakandeola:
is a fact

To a another fellow? maybe . But to me.. It's hogwash

Alondrah:
To a another fellow? maybe . But to me.. It's hogwash

it will b hard for u to kip a man how can u say u love me yet refuse to gimme ur body

pocohantas:
We should advise her to get sense.
No be only proof, na collateral.

use ur sence